"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
i look like her ex
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
shiningshadow
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I was cheaed on by someone that personality wise...was the same, but he looked just a little better.
Point in case, it probably won't go far.
The Comeback Kid
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Two ways to look at this I think:
PRO: She went out with him, right? So if you look like him and she did go out with him, I don't think it hurts in that respect.
CON: They broke up as well - BUT that was probably more b/c of his attitude.
AC/DC
Master Don Juan
Why does it matter if you look like someone else?
It doesn't.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
MightyMate
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Michele l'Arcangelo
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as for your question... this SHOULDN'T be an issue.. unless she isnt "over" her ex- (if she isn't over him... it probably would be a waste of time... and would be trouble).
Nex
Senior Don Juan
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That we're all fvcking idiots.
I can't even begin to understand the idiocy behind the posts saying his relationship is doomed. Then again, the advice is on par with the question. How can you even suggest that because a chick has told YOU the same thing and that your relationship failed that his will too?
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
You people are seriously beginning to make me angry. I came to this site looking to help some of you guys out. I'm not some super duper "I bang a new girl every night" type of guy, but I get enough attention and I've got enough knowledge to help this place out.
However...and heres the kicker...
I'm sick and f*cking tired of you guys sitting here and asking dumb sh*t. You look like her ex? So f*cking what. The ONLY thing that is meant by that statement is this...
You look similar to her ex.
That's it. Nothing more, nothing less. There is no secret hidden meaning. She isn't implying that you're screwed. If a girl told me I looked like her ex I couldn't give two sh*ts. I would simply say...
"Damn, that guy must have been one sexy motherf*cker."
I would then proceed to let this girl hang from my nuts.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i hope you responded with "i am not your ex."
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.