“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I look like a "baby"? Natural Nice guy look help.

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I'm a mans man :D
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm going to a salon tomorrow to get my eye brows waxed for the first time (YIKES!!) and getting my hair done.


Any suggestions for a hair style.

I currently rotate between

Back and puffy (a bit spiky)
Slick back and flat
and all the way forward and up at the top


I use gel so it looks wet and you can kinda see the white of my scalp a bit. I have a friend who said thats not too great and he suggested I use "Murrays" (black man's wax) its like that vasaline stuff that feels like glue in your hair. I tried it once and it looked pretty good, but it is a pain the ass to work it.

Anyway what do you guys suggest. Hopefully I'll get some good replys before 12pm tomorrow.
 

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haha ye i do look a bit girlie in that pic, but hell I bet I can get more hbs than you ;)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Your problem isn't your hair or eyes it's your sefl confidence and body.

Are you a man or what?

Get your hair buzzed - keep it longer on the top and wax/gel it. It's not that difficult.

Spend the money on a gym membership.
 

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Originally posted by NewMan
Your problem isn't your hair or eyes it's your sefl confidence and body.

Are you a man or what?

Get your hair buzzed - keep it longer on the top and wax/gel it. It's not that difficult.

Spend the money on a gym membership.
Speak of the devil I am going to a gym. I am hardcore into body building right now, but I am in the cutting phase.

Check out www.johnstonefitness.com

I guess the fact that no girls show much interest in me at all messes up my confidence. Whatever, I am focusing on myself right now. You have to be confortable and love who you are as a single in order to be successfull with anyone else.

So I am working on myself. I am asking for your guys' advice.
 

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U look alright in the second one.

Use contacts and dont wear baseball caps loose a little weight you'll be fine. Dont need no eyebrow ****.
 

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I don't know why no one mentioned this, but you gotta work on your clothes too, man.

Some more stylish gear will definitely help you out. Read up on posts about how to dress, check out the stores at the mall, and check out magazines on clothes that make a man look good.

As for the other shiet, stay on your diet, get the best haircut possible, and grow a goatee. F the beard unless you can pull off a decent 5'o clock shadow.

It seems like you're kinda lazy about maintaining yourself judging from previous posts. I don't remember a single post saying becoming a DJ would be easy. Keep working hard man.

-AL
 

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SOLID is pretty boy personified.

cannibustacap lose weight 1st then go figure out what look you want, you should look decent enough after the weight loss IMO
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Same problem for years here. FINALLY I grew a goatee. Wow. Talk about instant transformation. Huge difference, lot more female interest.

I think your lack of confidence is tricking you - you look average or better in the second picture. I know women who would be all over you.

Maybe slim down a little but work on the self confidence more! You're not ugly by a long shot!
 

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yesterday i went to eat at a restaurant with my hockey tyeam mates after out game. My team mate next to me (were both the same age) ordered a beer and i ordered one too. the waiter asked for my ID but didnt ask for his. I turned to him and sauid" HEy, why'd he ask me for ID and not u?" He replied " well u got that baby face going"

thats when it hit me. I have a baby face (but im a fairly attractive guy) and maybe a lot of girls think im a nice guy

let me tell u something though. Ev en though u may look like a nice guy , u dont have to act like one. To make urself look more tough u need to

1 : hit the gym and buld some muscle
2: buy a gold chain necklace , because it will make u looke tougher
3 get a tan

- this next ones my favourite, its what i did to feel like a badass
4: Buy a black leather jacket. itle make u feel like u wanna do something illegal

-ratisson
 

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Here is a newer picture. I got my hair cut and eye-brows fixed in it. I think it shows more but I still need to lose the weight.

 

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you need to grow your hair more, and get a chopey cut. The top of your head needs to appear wider than the bottom, you do this by spiking your hair out. Get some nicer cloths, stop wearing baggy stuff!. Your looking alot better, but still room for improvement!
 

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The reason he's wearing baggy clothes is because he's conscious of his fat. That's understandable. The FIRST thing this guy needs to do is lose weight - all the makeup, hairplugs, and waxing in the world won't do anythng for him until he loses weight. He lives in Sunny SoCal, for Chrissake! A hardbody is at a premium in those locations.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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hey man im a amature competitive bodybuilder if you need any help losing weight. just shoot me a pm if you need some help
 

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I suffer from the baby face syndrome.

It really does help losing weight, I had a visible notice of facial structure. It was so great all my friends were taken back by how different I looked.

Lose weight, it helps.
 

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You probably don't want to hear this after getting a new fresh haircut but yeh you need to grow your hair out. On the top grow it more on the sides. It will then help hide the baby face look.

Losing the fat on your face will obviously also help A LOT. Thats easily the main obstacle for you at the moment, so concentrate on that.

And i think while you got that fat on your face, grow some kind of facial hair. Goatee, beard or whatever. It will help hide the fat on your face but when you have lost the fat, try out the clean shaven look. You actually looked good in the second pic with that beard. Just a lighter beard though.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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