Yea. Sometimes my thoughts don't quite make it to the paper with 100% claritybut I assume you meant that he spoke in a condescending manner?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yea. Sometimes my thoughts don't quite make it to the paper with 100% claritybut I assume you meant that he spoke in a condescending manner?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Whatever, LIK. Don't preach to me about doing something creative and worthwhile with my time, it makes u sound hypocritical man.Originally posted by LikRetsam
Instead of picking at little points, go do something creative and worthwhile with your time.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You bother me.Originally posted by fbplayer06
Whatever, LIK. Don't preach to me about doing something creative and worthwhile with my time, it makes u sound hypocritical man.
And another innocent tip: maybe you wouldn't fail school if you put more time into english essays or something instead of these long a$$ posts of yours...
peace out
Dude, come on Lik...you take things so seriously. Did I ever say I didn't appreciate your harsh (but true) opinions? No.Originally posted by LikRetsam
You bother me.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Originally posted by TheMinistered
I've no time to read all this sh1t, but from the first few lines I read-- I'm in awe.
All I have to ask/say is this: If an admin were to get the logs of LikRetSam's total time on the forums, and account for the 6 hours he is at school. I would guess that his schedule would be like so:
7:00am: Wake up, and get ready for school
7:30-3:30pm: Act like a computer nerd at school
4:00pm-11:00pm: Act like a pimp on sosuave.com
11:15pm: Go to sleep
You take all the concepts, all the useful stuff provided here at such a deep level, examining everything to it's fullest extent.
However, most things here are meant to be taken at a "surface" level.
What you are doing is like examining the following sentence: "Mom thinks peanut butter is awesome and tasty."
Then trying to derive every meaning from every word and every context.
When all this sentence really means is mom thinks peanut butter is awesome and tasty, end of story.
I have believed many times that I had it. Each time I got creamed. I learned my lesson longggggg ago =)Originally posted by The Matrix: Reloaded
Wow... I am beginning to notice that more people are starting to look deeper into things. All of those "techniques" are not exactly cutting it like they used to huh? Lik, I have a feeling that you believe that you have got it... but you have not. Great start, excellent start. But this is only the beginning... you are only at the beginning. Many of the things you said seem concrete in your mind... so many paths derive from everything that you said... that somewhere you will easily gets lost. Everything you said sounds very good in theory (on surface) but when you stop to think about all of this Lik (like BBB mentioned) it may be different (or alternate to what you orginally believed) in practice.
Just think...
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This is not really what I was talking about. Lik... this is not about lessons, experience, or what you have not... I will leave it at that.Originally posted by LikRetsam
I have believed many times that I had it. Each time I got creamed. I learned my lesson longggggg ago =)
Things will never be 100% as we see them. Having a perspective on something makes it easier for us to tackle that task even though what we believe may be completly wrong.
I do not claim to know it all and through acknowledging this I may strive to continue to gather my information!
I think that to the less experienced, this may help them keep things in check. I'm only 15, but I've had my fair share of experience. I havn't been around the block as many times as others but this may help those venturing in this new neighborhood.
Lik
No you won't. unless you're gonna make a big post about it.Originally posted by The Matrix: Reloaded
This is not really what I was talking about. Lik... this is not about lessons, experience, or what you have not... I will leave it at that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.