"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I long to cry.

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but I assume you meant that he spoke in a condescending manner?
Yea. Sometimes my thoughts don't quite make it to the paper with 100% clarity :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Never lower your standards.

I think that lately I've been forgetting that. I've been loweing my standards on food, and nothing is good anymore. I've been lowering my standards on people, and they are no longer interesting. I have been lowering my standards on music, and its all bland. From now on i'm gonna raise my standards, because I will never be happy otherwise

Really good post. Keep up the good work.
 

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Thank you,
You were right, it did help me understand where i went wrong in my last two relationships. I took the rules in the DJ Bible way to far and got burned bad. Now I have to remember not to take the rules this far again.
 

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Originally posted by LikRetsam
Instead of picking at little points, go do something creative and worthwhile with your time.
Whatever, LIK. Don't preach to me about doing something creative and worthwhile with my time, it makes u sound hypocritical man.

And another innocent tip: maybe you wouldn't fail school if you put more time into english essays or something instead of these long a$$ posts of yours...

peace out
 

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Ok I admit I did not read your ENTIRE collection of posts in this thread, but I gotta say: You show startling maturity for a 15 yr old... and that's a good thing I guess.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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good post! my sentiments exactly! i think ppl here are too stuck to "The rules".. they need to just trust what theyre doing and enjoy it.
 

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Originally posted by fbplayer06
Whatever, LIK. Don't preach to me about doing something creative and worthwhile with my time, it makes u sound hypocritical man.

And another innocent tip: maybe you wouldn't fail school if you put more time into english essays or something instead of these long a$$ posts of yours...

peace out
You bother me.

Judging from the replies to this thread I do believe that this post, albeit long, was worth the time. It helped a good number of people and that satisfies me. The post took me awhile to write so that's why I made all those pretty colors. So that atleast it could look somewhat attractive. Is this post not to an extent creative? was it not worth my time? Or are you pointing to some other event?

As for me failing school, I'm in a private international school and an honor student at that.

I believe there should be a minimum amount of correct usage of the language in a post to make it enjoyable to read. Beyond that, it's the authors choice to spend alot of time improving his work.

Please do not make such statements as "your long ass posts". This is my first post of this length. And kindly, if you're going to pick at parts of my thread please pick at something worth picking. "write more english essays or something" just sounds to me like you have nothing to do and just want to incessantly bicker over nonsense.

Next time you come back here, have a clear point and back it up with arguments. Also, if you could, make it something other then "I don't like your color pattern".

Lik
 

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Originally posted by LikRetsam
You bother me.
Dude, come on Lik...you take things so seriously. Did I ever say I didn't appreciate your harsh (but true) opinions? No.

Take a deep breath or two and relax...you'll live longer that way.;)
 

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You hurt my fragile ego, what do you expect?

Don't worry, I take these boards with a grain of salt.

Lik
 

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I've no time to read all this sh1t, but from the first few lines I read-- I'm in awe.

All I have to ask/say is this: If an admin were to get the logs of LikRetSam's total time on the forums, and account for the 6 hours he is at school. I would guess that his schedule would be like so:

7:00am: Wake up, and get ready for school
7:30-3:30pm: Act like a computer nerd at school
4:00pm-11:00pm: Act like a pimp on sosuave.com
11:15pm: Go to sleep


You take all the concepts, all the useful stuff provided here at such a deep level, examining everything to it's fullest extent.

However, most things here are meant to be taken at a "surface" level.

What you are doing is like examining the following sentence: "Mom thinks peanut butter is awesome and tasty."

Then trying to derive every meaning from every word and every context.

When all this sentence really means is mom thinks peanut butter is awesome and tasty, end of story.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by TheMinistered
I've no time to read all this sh1t, but from the first few lines I read-- I'm in awe.

All I have to ask/say is this: If an admin were to get the logs of LikRetSam's total time on the forums, and account for the 6 hours he is at school. I would guess that his schedule would be like so:

7:00am: Wake up, and get ready for school
7:30-3:30pm: Act like a computer nerd at school
4:00pm-11:00pm: Act like a pimp on sosuave.com
11:15pm: Go to sleep


You take all the concepts, all the useful stuff provided here at such a deep level, examining everything to it's fullest extent.

However, most things here are meant to be taken at a "surface" level.

What you are doing is like examining the following sentence: "Mom thinks peanut butter is awesome and tasty."

Then trying to derive every meaning from every word and every context.

When all this sentence really means is mom thinks peanut butter is awesome and tasty, end of story.

You're retarded. Someone puts effort into a complex, well-thought-out post and rather than appreciate it (or at the least, read the whole thing) you accuse him of being a loser.

Honestly, how do you think this site exists? Do you think the Bible created itself? No, clearly some people have put a lot of time and effort into the information compiled here. So does that make them all losers? If you think you're too fcuking cool to post here, then DON'T.
 

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It didn't take me all that long though... I'd say an hour tops.

You know, my life would be so much easier if I really did only spend 6 hours at school. I have 8 hours of class per day along with lunch and recreation...

But hey! I love your comments TheMinistered. In the short lines you read you were blown away and decided that for anyone to "know" that stuff that that person would have to be a dedicated sosuave monk! But anyways, I appreciate your input. The only thing I got from it was that you felt menaced and had to find some way to bring my image down (to you ofcourse). Hey! try again next time!


Tell me, what is the difference between taking things superficially and taking things to their full extent with every meaning?

If you were to take things from a tangent all the time, you would be completly lost and confused. Take chicks for example, when was the last time a chick told you something directly and clearly? For that matter, when was the last time anyone told you something directly? Instead you get things like "I don't feel like going out" instead of "I definatly don't want to go out tonight". Or even better: "I might be busy" instead of "I hate your guts, how dare you ask me what I'm doing?"

Lik

PS: You're right. Who has time to read all this sh*t. WHO HAS TIME!? Viva was right. Half the people are too stupid to read through everything because they just want everything to be quick and simple. It is a waste of time right? Next thing you know, you're watching TV. :rolleyes:
 

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Wow... I am beginning to notice that more people are starting to look deeper into things. All of those "techniques" are not exactly cutting it like they used to huh? Lik, I have a feeling that you believe that you have got it... but you have not. Great start, excellent start. But this is only the beginning... you are only at the beginning. Many of the things you said seem concrete in your mind... so many paths derive from everything that you said... that somewhere you will easily gets lost. Everything you said sounds very good in theory (on surface) but when you stop to think about all of this Lik (like BBB mentioned) it may be different (or alternate to what you orginally believed) in practice.

Just think...
 

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Originally posted by The Matrix: Reloaded
Wow... I am beginning to notice that more people are starting to look deeper into things. All of those "techniques" are not exactly cutting it like they used to huh? Lik, I have a feeling that you believe that you have got it... but you have not. Great start, excellent start. But this is only the beginning... you are only at the beginning. Many of the things you said seem concrete in your mind... so many paths derive from everything that you said... that somewhere you will easily gets lost. Everything you said sounds very good in theory (on surface) but when you stop to think about all of this Lik (like BBB mentioned) it may be different (or alternate to what you orginally believed) in practice.

Just think...
I have believed many times that I had it. Each time I got creamed. I learned my lesson longggggg ago =)

Things will never be 100% as we see them. Having a perspective on something makes it easier for us to tackle that task even though what we believe may be completly wrong.

I do not claim to know it all and through acknowledging this I may strive to continue to gather my information!

I think that to the less experienced, this may help them keep things in check. I'm only 15, but I've had my fair share of experience. I havn't been around the block as many times as others but this may help those venturing in this new neighborhood.

Lik
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dude I only read the first few lines of that but...AMEN (to what I read.) A few days ago I wuz just thinking the same thing about people complaining about meaningless crap.

But you have to remember...it's stupid human nature to want more than what we have, it urges us to strive harder learn new things build state of the art buildings, then (now this part sucks) build giant state of the art missles to destroy those state of the art buildings. After we accomplish those goals will we be happy? NO!
 

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Originally posted by LikRetsam
I have believed many times that I had it. Each time I got creamed. I learned my lesson longggggg ago =)

Things will never be 100% as we see them. Having a perspective on something makes it easier for us to tackle that task even though what we believe may be completly wrong.

I do not claim to know it all and through acknowledging this I may strive to continue to gather my information!

I think that to the less experienced, this may help them keep things in check. I'm only 15, but I've had my fair share of experience. I havn't been around the block as many times as others but this may help those venturing in this new neighborhood.

Lik
This is not really what I was talking about. Lik... this is not about lessons, experience, or what you have not... I will leave it at that.
 

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What are you pushing at, Matrix? Where does the rabbit hole lead now?

Whatever it is, if this is the start of a push past the techniques and crap, I'm all for it.
 

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Originally posted by The Matrix: Reloaded
This is not really what I was talking about. Lik... this is not about lessons, experience, or what you have not... I will leave it at that.
No you won't. unless you're gonna make a big post about it.

Wait, are we talking about BlindSight?
 

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This post is too hypocritical to be taken seriously. A friend of mine grew up in a city in Africa. When a new regiem took power, they began killing off everyone who had been outspoken supporters of those who used to be in power. They dragged his parents out of the house and meutilated them infront of him. He lives in a forster home in rochester now... I play soccer with him. You talk of things like this... terrible things... and ask that those who've never been through such things compare our lives to this... then you go on to say you just smile, and yet, you want to cry.

You lie to yourself because you are young and confused. Too young to understand the problems and suffering of the world. And far too young to understand how YOUR problems affect the bigger picture.

I'm 16, I'll be 17 in a week. I've seen a lot, and had my hands in enough to know I don't know enough. But I'm learning. You express yourself well, but take the time to experience first.

Take it from Julian, I write A LOT. I turn 2 12 pt font 1 in margin typed pages of raw verbose emotion a week. I tell a mean story. I could be a stand up comic. But expression of beliefs and proof of action are very different. I have done my time in the field, son. I've earned the right to insult these forums... I've done enough in my four years on these forums to know how and when to slant people, and more importantly, why to slant them.

People come and rant about crappy posts, insignifigant questions... who cares? I asked questions like that. Guys like Pulse, Sir Chancalot, Syncmaster, SexPDX we worked the simple **** out together... now I know and execute my **** better than anyone else here [well, almost, eh Julian? :p]. Answer what you can, say it once, say it a hundred times, thats what this place is about.

You are 15, you are confused. You might have some potential, but don't let it go to your head.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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