"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I learnt some scary things
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
drixsa
Master Don Juan
kk2004-
Listen up:
Most of what your GF is sayin is BULL SHlT. Yea maybe she isn't satisfied by what she has done but what she is telling you is so that she won't lose you. I have had more than 6 sexual partners ands i am your age. What is important is not her at all.
It is YOURSELF. I find it quite amusing that no one else has pointed this out. If a girl every came at me the way you came at your GF i'd kick 'em to the street. MY sexual past is MY sexual past.
Your real problem isn't with the number of guys shes had sex but withyour own number count.
Forget your GF for a while and realize that you need to work on yourself and becoming satisfied with yourself.
Do not forget though that you know your own problem and are very open to admit it. For that you deserve creditibility and should be commended.
NOW is the time to drop this rediculous fight with your GF and work on yourself.
Listen up:
Most of what your GF is sayin is BULL SHlT. Yea maybe she isn't satisfied by what she has done but what she is telling you is so that she won't lose you. I have had more than 6 sexual partners ands i am your age. What is important is not her at all.
It is YOURSELF. I find it quite amusing that no one else has pointed this out. If a girl every came at me the way you came at your GF i'd kick 'em to the street. MY sexual past is MY sexual past.
Your real problem isn't with the number of guys shes had sex but withyour own number count.
Forget your GF for a while and realize that you need to work on yourself and becoming satisfied with yourself.
Do not forget though that you know your own problem and are very open to admit it. For that you deserve creditibility and should be commended.
NOW is the time to drop this rediculous fight with your GF and work on yourself.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
why is Conde right and you're wrong? because it is women who have to protect their purity, NOT MEN!
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This doesn’t mean that if a girl has had sex before she can not be viewed as a long term partner. "Kick my ass again" yes I’m so offended by your immature stories that in real life are obviously untrue. You are obviously disillusioned and know nothing about the world you live in.
However I do agree if a girl has slept with 13 men like mazerati’s ex then you might want to reconsider dating her. But this idiot is saying if a girl has had one sexual partner previously then you should not be in a LTR with her which is stupid immature advice.
He furthermore shows his immaturity by making up stupid stories to try and offend me. I’m sure that the vast majority of experienced DJs in this forum would agree with me when I say that this guy is an idiot and his theories are useless when applied to modern day life.
Also “Joe The Homophobe” your name really does say it all you to view the world through the eyes of your parent or grandparents. Gay people are bad and women should all be virgins. Women have stronger sexual urges than men therefore they should be allowed to experiment without the fear of being scrutinized by narrow minded people like your self. Answer me this question and if you are able to give me a good answer backed up by fact I will admit I am wrong this goes for CONDE to.
Why should women have to protect there purity whilst men can go around having sex every chance they get?
Ninja out
However I do agree if a girl has slept with 13 men like mazerati’s ex then you might want to reconsider dating her. But this idiot is saying if a girl has had one sexual partner previously then you should not be in a LTR with her which is stupid immature advice.
He furthermore shows his immaturity by making up stupid stories to try and offend me. I’m sure that the vast majority of experienced DJs in this forum would agree with me when I say that this guy is an idiot and his theories are useless when applied to modern day life.
Also “Joe The Homophobe” your name really does say it all you to view the world through the eyes of your parent or grandparents. Gay people are bad and women should all be virgins. Women have stronger sexual urges than men therefore they should be allowed to experiment without the fear of being scrutinized by narrow minded people like your self. Answer me this question and if you are able to give me a good answer backed up by fact I will admit I am wrong this goes for CONDE to.
Why should women have to protect there purity whilst men can go around having sex every chance they get?
Ninja out
ic
Thx drixsa, thats what im trying to get at. That I need to work on myself and the reason why I feel this way is becuase of my own numbers. That she beat me in the sexual experience and partner category. We stopped the fight over this, I told her that i accpeted her past.
NOW, The funny thing is that its realli difficult to feel satisfied unless you actually have gone out and done it and there is no other way to feel good about yourself unless you've also had as many sexual partners as her. I mean i wud feel happy and satisfied if i had messed around with and sexed two women before her, then this wudnt even be an issue, now i feel like I gotta go out and do what BLACK_Italin was talking about, he was saying that a virgin gurl is more likley to experiment and try to go cheat on you to see what other men she can get. I agree with his idea. But see the problem is that the role has been reversed here, she knows that she can "get" other guys if she wants too, I dont know, and I dont think I am a DJ enough that if i left her I could sex other women. Thats whats bothering me. The only way to prove that would be to go and try to sex other women, but then I would be chaeting or placing my girlfriend who cares so much about me, in such a difficult position. Its all about my ego, not her past and right now im trying to bury my ego and trying not to let it bother me and trying to feel satisfied with myself. And I think Black_Italian is right, how can we expect women not to mess around and for guys its okay, but I know how conde feels, and that you feel like your girl is a slut and she has no repsect for herself.
Thx drixsa, thats what im trying to get at. That I need to work on myself and the reason why I feel this way is becuase of my own numbers. That she beat me in the sexual experience and partner category. We stopped the fight over this, I told her that i accpeted her past.
NOW, The funny thing is that its realli difficult to feel satisfied unless you actually have gone out and done it and there is no other way to feel good about yourself unless you've also had as many sexual partners as her. I mean i wud feel happy and satisfied if i had messed around with and sexed two women before her, then this wudnt even be an issue, now i feel like I gotta go out and do what BLACK_Italin was talking about, he was saying that a virgin gurl is more likley to experiment and try to go cheat on you to see what other men she can get. I agree with his idea. But see the problem is that the role has been reversed here, she knows that she can "get" other guys if she wants too, I dont know, and I dont think I am a DJ enough that if i left her I could sex other women. Thats whats bothering me. The only way to prove that would be to go and try to sex other women, but then I would be chaeting or placing my girlfriend who cares so much about me, in such a difficult position. Its all about my ego, not her past and right now im trying to bury my ego and trying not to let it bother me and trying to feel satisfied with myself. And I think Black_Italian is right, how can we expect women not to mess around and for guys its okay, but I know how conde feels, and that you feel like your girl is a slut and she has no repsect for herself.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Do her like she's never been done before and she won't even think of the others. It's really that simple. Girls love sex a lot more if they really care about the guy they're with. My gf is a little fiend when it comes to sex and she says "it's 90% mental" so it's just that much better with a guy she loves instead of just getting off. So make her love you and bust your ass to get as good as possible and you'll look like the only star in the sky and the other dudes she'll be like "why did i even bother?"
If she's had sex with 6 guys by 18 then she is a slut. And it's not a double standard because I don't like guys like that either. What business do teenagers have with having sex with that many people?
Love has nothing to do with the sex she's had unless she had emotional problems to begin with.
Have your pet spayed or neutered.
hi
No she did have emotional problems from the start, but I think it has more to do with me. Like drexia said.
BUt she actually wanted to kill herself, she has a very low self-esteem and she says she feels bad and she felt like **** most of her life.
No she did have emotional problems from the start, but I think it has more to do with me. Like drexia said.
BUt she actually wanted to kill herself, she has a very low self-esteem and she says she feels bad and she felt like **** most of her life.
Two of several ways of looking at it.
1. Sex is inherently more dangerous to women. They get more diseases, more infections, more problems altogether. They're the ones who get pregnant. They should guard their bodies with more care if it's more dangerous to them. It's not men's responsibility to look out for their well-being unless we're officially involved.
2. Men shouldn't go around having sex every chance they get.
Re: ic
Assuming that you find her to be high quality to begin with...
Why wouldn't you be able to get another girl of at least her same quality AND all the girls below her quality if she's obviously attracted to you in the first place? What makes her so different? She pities you and dates you? No, she likes you, and so would any number of other girls of at least her quality... and that's just worst case scenario.. you could probably do a little better if not a lot better.
Assuming that you find her to be high quality to begin with...
Why wouldn't you be able to get another girl of at least her same quality AND all the girls below her quality if she's obviously attracted to you in the first place? What makes her so different? She pities you and dates you? No, she likes you, and so would any number of other girls of at least her quality... and that's just worst case scenario.. you could probably do a little better if not a lot better.
ic
But see after she told me that she slept with so many guys my value of her in my eyes went down, and since i lost my virginity to her I still have to prove it to myself a few times that yes i can get sex maybe three or four times from others. But yeah u got a point.
But see after she told me that she slept with so many guys my value of her in my eyes went down, and since i lost my virginity to her I still have to prove it to myself a few times that yes i can get sex maybe three or four times from others. But yeah u got a point.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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No offence but that question wasn’t directed at you. I am asking that to the two guys here with the mindset that girls should be angels and guys should fu*k anything that moves.
The fact that women are more likely to get pregnant does not mean that its is wrong for them to experiment with sex there are several forms of protection they can use. CONDE is saying if a girl is not a virgin there is no reason getting in a LTR with her. This is what is annoying me. A narrow minded fu*k like him comes here saying all this sh*t poisoning peoples minds. He sounds like that Islamic terrorist in Australia “girls want to get raped by young Muslim guys because they wear short skirts” this kind of thinking pisses me off. Its saying that women who express there natural feelings and desires are scum but men who do it are cool.
Ninja out
CONDE FRANCO
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YES:cheer:
Lost In Translation
Master Don Juan
ok i am drunk
i don't usually drink but anyways. and i never come online drunk. but there is always a first.
i just read all this story and i really feel for kk2004
once upon a time i was a virgin just like every man was once a virgin
and my first girlfriend that i had sex with said she was a virgin too
she said she had been raped so it didn't count
typical b*tch thinking ( no logic )
after i have sex with the b*tch she admits she had sex one week later with the guy who raped her
10 points to any Don Juan who can explain why women are so F*CKING STUPID
oh and before i continue i agree with the 2 Don Juans who said times sex partners by 3 when a chick tells you
ok best case scenario times by 2
i have know 18 year old girls to have slept with 30 - 50 men
as i grew up on the streets and until i got off the streets recently ( due to gang war )
sorry penkitten i never posted my story about why i moved
i seen young girls from the age of 10 12 and 13 having sex
some of them with as many as 30 men
and they are not prostitutes
but kk2004 all numbers aside
as a MAN it hurts to know the woman you love has been deflowed by other men
it also hurts to know she is a stupid b*tch and has been having sex since she was 14
forget we live in 2005 for a second and pretend we live in 1000 A.D
is that $hit normal ? NO
Joe The Homophobe
it is women who have to protect their purity, NOT MEN!
this is 100% truth
remember it my fellow Don Juans !
now some weak a$$ mofos might sat it's hypocritical for a man to have sex with many partners but not a woman
cut the feminist crap
WE ARE NOT THE SAME
God did not create us as equal
he created woman to cling to man
kk2004 i am going to share something with you
when you love a woman. and she really loves you. there is a connection that neither you nor she will find in having sex with many random people
i have been with many women
i would give them all up to still be with the great loves of my life
such women are few and far between
i cannot make any excuse for how f*cking stupid some women are having sex from 12 years of age onwards
i cannot make any excuse for women making so many mistakes and telling you she only loves you
all i can say from being in exactly the same situation is
there is a difference between making love to a woman you love and who loves you
and having sex with hot b*tches
now some Don Juans who either haven't had sex with many women or have a lust problem will say sowing wild oats is all that
but having true love is better than many sexual partners
i am gunna try and remember how i got over my woman having lost her virginity also at the age of 14
at first i went mental. it hurts so bad when you love someone.
YOU WANT THEIR PAST TOO
but you cannot have it
for a long time i doubted myself just as you do. she said i was the best but how do i know she is telling the truth and not just trying to make me feel good ?
women are emotional. making love to a women if you can connect on an emotional level you are going to make a vaste impression
now i have a reputation on this forum for rarely standing up for women
infact i can smell a scam a mile away
BUT i actually believe your woman
she said she was drunk and alot of that goes on with the young chicks
you are a MAN and she has never had a MAN's love
only boys
they cannot compete with you
she says you are the best and i think you should believe her
I THINK YOU SHOULD BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
i know i am the best but it even took me awhile to realise the truth that what she was saying was true
also you don't want to dump her ghetto / project / broken home a$$ to find out you aren't missing out on anything you couldn't have gotten from her
all the best in realising YOU are the best thing she has ever had
Lost In Translation
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i don't usually drink but anyways. and i never come online drunk. but there is always a first.
i just read all this story and i really feel for kk2004
once upon a time i was a virgin just like every man was once a virgin
and my first girlfriend that i had sex with said she was a virgin too
she said she had been raped so it didn't count
typical b*tch thinking ( no logic )
after i have sex with the b*tch she admits she had sex one week later with the guy who raped her
10 points to any Don Juan who can explain why women are so F*CKING STUPID
oh and before i continue i agree with the 2 Don Juans who said times sex partners by 3 when a chick tells you
ok best case scenario times by 2
i have know 18 year old girls to have slept with 30 - 50 men
as i grew up on the streets and until i got off the streets recently ( due to gang war )
sorry penkitten i never posted my story about why i moved
i seen young girls from the age of 10 12 and 13 having sex
some of them with as many as 30 men
and they are not prostitutes
but kk2004 all numbers aside
as a MAN it hurts to know the woman you love has been deflowed by other men
it also hurts to know she is a stupid b*tch and has been having sex since she was 14
forget we live in 2005 for a second and pretend we live in 1000 A.D
is that $hit normal ? NO
Joe The Homophobe
it is women who have to protect their purity, NOT MEN!
this is 100% truth
remember it my fellow Don Juans !
now some weak a$$ mofos might sat it's hypocritical for a man to have sex with many partners but not a woman
cut the feminist crap
WE ARE NOT THE SAME
God did not create us as equal
he created woman to cling to man
kk2004 i am going to share something with you
when you love a woman. and she really loves you. there is a connection that neither you nor she will find in having sex with many random people
i have been with many women
i would give them all up to still be with the great loves of my life
such women are few and far between
i cannot make any excuse for how f*cking stupid some women are having sex from 12 years of age onwards
i cannot make any excuse for women making so many mistakes and telling you she only loves you
all i can say from being in exactly the same situation is
there is a difference between making love to a woman you love and who loves you
and having sex with hot b*tches
now some Don Juans who either haven't had sex with many women or have a lust problem will say sowing wild oats is all that
but having true love is better than many sexual partners
i am gunna try and remember how i got over my woman having lost her virginity also at the age of 14
at first i went mental. it hurts so bad when you love someone.
YOU WANT THEIR PAST TOO
but you cannot have it
for a long time i doubted myself just as you do. she said i was the best but how do i know she is telling the truth and not just trying to make me feel good ?
women are emotional. making love to a women if you can connect on an emotional level you are going to make a vaste impression
now i have a reputation on this forum for rarely standing up for women
infact i can smell a scam a mile away
BUT i actually believe your woman
she said she was drunk and alot of that goes on with the young chicks
you are a MAN and she has never had a MAN's love
only boys
they cannot compete with you
she says you are the best and i think you should believe her
I THINK YOU SHOULD BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
i know i am the best but it even took me awhile to realise the truth that what she was saying was true
also you don't want to dump her ghetto / project / broken home a$$ to find out you aren't missing out on anything you couldn't have gotten from her
all the best in realising YOU are the best thing she has ever had
Lost In Translation
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thx
Thank you. All u guys have been great in helping me sort myself out. I guess true love is more important than having many sexual partners. Lost in translation, thx alot bro, i felt like u spoke to my heart, i guess drinking brings out the true person in us at times lol. But yeah i gotta realize that i am the best she has and that having a true love is better than just messing around. Yeah i believe my girl too, and i accpet her past, but its gonna take alot of time.
Thank you. All u guys have been great in helping me sort myself out. I guess true love is more important than having many sexual partners. Lost in translation, thx alot bro, i felt like u spoke to my heart, i guess drinking brings out the true person in us at times lol. But yeah i gotta realize that i am the best she has and that having a true love is better than just messing around. Yeah i believe my girl too, and i accpet her past, but its gonna take alot of time.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
My 22 yo gf claims 4 (actual sex not just fool around hook ups) and I believe her. 3 of the sex guys were from LTRs and another was a **** buddy she had just so she wouldn't have to up her numbers and sleep with dishonest dudes with who knows what diseases while she wasn't in a relationship. I've never said my number and don't plan to but she believes i'm higher than that and while it's not too much higher i like to keep her thinking i can get lots more.
There are girls out there that respect themselves, respect you, and are sensible. I'm in awe sometimes on these boards when guys are involved with some of these girls. Don't you guys have any standards beyond a hot body in a relationship? Fine have sex with whatever girls but shouldn't "high quality" be written all over a girl before you actually get into a relationship with her? Why are you selling yourself short? You just don't want to be alone? No one to call at midnight to have them say they love you just to stroke your ego?
Most of these crazy problems that happen would never happen in the first place if guys would just screen the women beyond "she's hot" before getting seriously involved.
Lost In Translation
Master Don Juan
now i am sober
kk2004
Lost in translation, thx alot bro, i felt like u spoke to my heart, i guess drinking brings out the true person in us at times lol.
glad i could help
drinking softens me around the edges makes me mellow
i am pretty harsh and full on most of the time :trouble:
but i am also usually right :yes:
Lost In Translation
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kk2004
Lost in translation, thx alot bro, i felt like u spoke to my heart, i guess drinking brings out the true person in us at times lol.
glad i could help
drinking softens me around the edges makes me mellow
i am pretty harsh and full on most of the time :trouble:
but i am also usually right :yes:
Lost In Translation
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TillTheEndOfTime
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When you get a disease, you're going to be singing a different tune about who's sexual past is who's business.
drixsa
Master Don Juan
Re: ic
You could not be more wrong. There are guys out there who have had much more sex with many more girls than say, pook or anyone else on this board but that will not make them feel better about themselves. Maybe they can try to sell that stuff off to their friends but it is BS. Life is not a contest, so what she had 6 partners? And guess what? None of them compared to you! This should make you feel good enough.
First off, never ever listen to what Black_Italian has to say. Secondly, you wouldn't feel any better. You problem is that you feel that you aren't on her "level" and that by fvcking some random virgins or sluts it would put you on the level, but IT WILL NOT. Think about it logically what would having sex with two or more women do? It would probably make you realize what an idiot you were for messing around with them when you have a quality GF in the first place that cares about you. [/B][/QUOTE]
Complete opposite. It's about acknowledging you ego (which you have already done) and coming to realization with the problems that effect it. And in doing so your ego and your problems decrease.
Lost In Translation
Master Don Juan
drixsa
First off, never ever listen to what Black_Italian has to say.
LOL !
CLASSIC !
Lost In Translation
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First off, never ever listen to what Black_Italian has to say.
LOL !
CLASSIC !
Lost In Translation
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.