That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
why is Conde right and you're wrong? because it is women who have to protect their purity, NOT MEN!Originally posted by Black_Italian
Another idiot so people should only love a girl who is a virgin by your logic and its ok for you to have sex but if she does you cant respect her. I dont understand how some peoples brains work. I pitty you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Originally posted by kk2004
My gurl told me yest that she had messed around with alot more guys than i thought she had. She hooked up with like 10 guys and had sex with like 6 of them. She told me she never told me bcuz she thought i wud think she was trash. She told me all this bcuz i told her I lost my virginity to her. I mean im 18 when I did lose it to her. SHe lost hers at 14. Its crzy. I was soo upset. I felt like a used rag, like i was any other guy. She tells me that im special and diffrent and that she loves me and wants to marry me, and the thing is that I luv her too, but i just dont respect her anymore. Respect means alot to me. I know what u guys are saying, but the way she loves me, no gurl has ever loved me like her. I dont want to lose her but im mad now, bcuz of two reasons.
1) I dont feel special to her anymore, i feel like im all the other guys she has had
2) I feel like i didnt earn her love, its as if she will just love anyone, that makes me feel like i didnt earn it or have to work for it.
Two of several ways of looking at it.Originally posted by Black_Italian
Why should women have to protect there purity whilst men can go around having sex every chance they get?
Originally posted by kk2004
I agree with his idea. But see the problem is that the role has been reversed here, she knows that she can "get" other guys if she wants too, I dont know, and I dont think I am a DJ enough that if i left her I could sex other women. Thats whats bothering me. .
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
No offence but that question wasn’t directed at you. I am asking that to the two guys here with the mindset that girls should be angels and guys should fu*k anything that moves.Originally posted by mrRuckus
Two of several ways of looking at it.
1. Sex is inherently more dangerous to women. They get more diseases, more infections, more problems altogether. They're the ones who get pregnant. They should guard their bodies with more care if it's more dangerous to them. It's not men's responsibility to look out for their well-being unless we're officially involved.
2. Men shouldn't go around having sex every chance they get.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
My 22 yo gf claims 4 (actual sex not just fool around hook ups) and I believe her. 3 of the sex guys were from LTRs and another was a **** buddy she had just so she wouldn't have to up her numbers and sleep with dishonest dudes with who knows what diseases while she wasn't in a relationship. I've never said my number and don't plan to but she believes i'm higher than that and while it's not too much higher i like to keep her thinking i can get lots more.Originally posted by Centaurion
NO it's not stupid.
Chicks today want to appear all goody-two-shoes. There is a social stigma attached to chicks having multiple sexual partners, they don't want to be branded as sluts or ho's. Seriously, who would get in a relationship with a chick if you knew that she was the offical c*m-deposit of the block!? Therefore they try to tone it down.
When you get a disease, you're going to be singing a different tune about who's sexual past is who's business.Originally posted by drixsa
MY sexual past is MY sexual past.
Your real problem isn't with the number of guys shes had sex but withyour own number count.
Forget your GF for a while and realize that you need to work on yourself and becoming satisfied with yourself.
You could not be more wrong. There are guys out there who have had much more sex with many more girls than say, pook or anyone else on this board but that will not make them feel better about themselves. Maybe they can try to sell that stuff off to their friends but it is BS. Life is not a contest, so what she had 6 partners? And guess what? None of them compared to you! This should make you feel good enough.Originally posted by kk2004
NOW, The funny thing is that its realli difficult to feel satisfied unless you actually have gone out and done it and there is no other way to feel good about yourself unless you've also had as many sexual partners as her.
First off, never ever listen to what Black_Italian has to say. Secondly, you wouldn't feel any better. You problem is that you feel that you aren't on her "level" and that by fvcking some random virgins or sluts it would put you on the level, but IT WILL NOT. Think about it logically what would having sex with two or more women do? It would probably make you realize what an idiot you were for messing around with them when you have a quality GF in the first place that cares about you. [/B][/QUOTE]I mean i wud feel happy and satisfied if i had messed around with and sexed two women before her, then this wudnt even be an issue, now i feel like I gotta go out and do what BLACK_Italin was talking about.
Complete opposite. It's about acknowledging you ego (which you have already done) and coming to realization with the problems that effect it. And in doing so your ego and your problems decrease.Its all about my ego, not her past and right now im trying to bury my ego and trying not to let it bother me and trying to feel satisfied with myself.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.