"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I know what I want but am unaware of her true feelings

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What would you do in my situation?? HELP!

Status of our relationship:

Me in AFC mode:

*2 Months being in a serious official Boyfriend/Girlfriend relationship. Hung out and craved each other everyday. We fvcked, had lots of dates, and both were extremely happy.

*She went away for 10 days, called me crying about how much she misses me, bought me someone, wrote me a love letter, but also realized how much fun it felt to be free and single. She asked for space to see what she wanted. I was surprised, shocked, and felt heartbroken. She eventually called it off but said her feelings haven't changed and I was LJBF'd.

Me in DJ mode:

*She continued to call me all the time but never asked to hang out. After her non-stop thinking about me and calling me. I started to ignore and ignore and end convo's short until she begged for me. I was like why do you call me? Why don't we hang out and talk. I acted completely different, hard to get, not giving attention, etc. Then her IL sky rocketed.

*Being just friends, we started hanging out again over spring break almost everyday, Then one night I said, "We've been hanging out a lot don't you ever wonder what would happend if we started fooling around even just being friends. It's hard to be friends and not fool around after we've already done stuff. When i'm next to you like this, I feel like i wanna rock your world" She told me that's something she would have to think about.

*2 days later on a friday night. We hang out to watch movies. 2 hours of just lying there and i read her body language. She def. wanted something but didn't want to make a move. Towards the end of the night, I whispered in her ear, "Did you think about what i said the other day?" She said "Yea!" and attacked me and we crazy sex.

*For the past 2 months i've been acting different. Not taking any of her ****. And it's been driving her nuts. We've had our ups and downs. Then I went away to 6 days. She left me about 5 messages saying how much she misses me and she can't believe how bad she's feeling without me. She said in a text message when i was away, "I can't stop thinking about you. I can't believe I am missing you this much. We really fit.. I guess you needed 2 go away for a little for me to see it."

*I come back, we had an awesome time making up. Hanging out, kissing, cuddling, etc. It wasn't the time and place for sex though and we act exactly like when we were boyfriend/girlfriend. But we aren't. Last time me and her had an "US" talk before the trip, we agreed to a less serious casual relationship without titles.

Now I'm not sure of the status of our relationship. I seen major improvements. But i'm not aware if she wants to go back to having titles. Little things like how she can tell people that she's single, have her myspace status to Single and how I am not informed about her plans as much. These worry me because she hasn't spilled her feelings to me recently and I don't know what she wants any more as far as our relationship. She doesn't really worry because i'm not as vulnerable as her. She's hit on all the time. I'm not. So she doesn't worry about losing me.

I ask this, How can i secure this girl to what I want.

I want an official relationship that is worry free.

A couple of times in the past when we've talked about us. She'll tell me she just doesn't want a boyfriend, and if that's what you want me to be then i'm not the girl for you.

But that was a long time ago.

Assess my situation DJ's!

This girl is definetly a keeper! She's HB9.0, taller, tan, skinny, all the guys think i'm the luckiest man alive, etc.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"...she doesn't worry about losing me."

You need to be the same way about her.
 

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it's pretty apparent that she just wants to ****.

therefore, **** you shall, and worry you shall not.

Dont get hung up on her cause its obvious she doesnt want anything serious. If she did, she would have brought it up by now. Dont let her jerk your chain and leave you thinking she wants a relationship. Forget that, and find another girl if you want a relationship.

Or just find another **** buddy for twice the fun :rockon:
 

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She's acting like we're more than fvck buddies. We do all the relationship stuff such as kissing, holding each other when going places, she calls me all the time, misses me when i'm gone, etc.

We both share strong feelings towards each other, I just don't understand why she won't commit.

My problem is that I know one day she'll go off, fool around with another guy randomly possibly drunk and by accident and convince me she didn't do any wrong because we weren't going out officially. Then i'm left feeling sh!tty. I know I could do the same thing to her and her feel sh!tty but i know how to control myself.
 
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