"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I keep getting ignored after a whiIe and I can’t understand why

John Riggs

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So the case is this. Last actual relationship lasted a year and a half but ended really bad with a lot of fighting, three years ago. After that I tried moving on with some other girls that most of the time started ignoring me out of the blue. This discouraged me so much, to the point I couldn’t even speak to a girl without being scared. Recently, I met this girl from a friend of mine and we started talking. She showed interest at first, she even said to her friend that she liked the way I approached her and seemed suprised by the fact that I’m single. After a month of talking, because I can’t do much more since she is studying on another country, she stopped talking to me. She came back for a week and we ended up going out with friends but she was colder than ever, only towards me. Tried asking her if I did something wrong but she said no and that everything’s ok. It’s not ok and it’s pretty obvious. Can someone please explain to me why? It’s honestly killing me all these days.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Approval seeking weak frames, are a turn off.
 

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Welcome to SS. I wouldn’t contact her anymore. Preoccupy yourself with other women and other things in your life. If she contacts you then go ahead and talk to her but don’t mention the issue you had and show any further insecurities. Pretend like nothing happened. She is banging other men where she is studying, that is a guarantee. Thus you should be banging other women or at least working towards that and not waiting on her. You are just setting yourself up for disappointment if you do that. Especially since she came back and you didn’t get any real good quality time with her.
 

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So the case is this. Last actual relationship lasted a year and a half but ended really bad with a lot of fighting, three years ago. After that I tried moving on with some other girls that most of the time started ignoring me out of the blue. This discouraged me so much, to the point I couldn’t even speak to a girl without being scared. Recently, I met this girl from a friend of mine and we started talking. She showed interest at first, she even said to her friend that she liked the way I approached her and seemed suprised by the fact that I’m single. After a month of talking, because I can’t do much more since she is studying on another country, she stopped talking to me. She came back for a week and we ended up going out with friends but she was colder than ever, only towards me. Tried asking her if I did something wrong but she said no and that everything’s ok. It’s not ok and it’s pretty obvious. Can someone please explain to me why? It’s honestly killing me all these days.
short answer: it sounds like you need to move faster with women, get them into bed before they get bored or they get their ex to take them back or whatever

long answer, see this guy's amazing website:
http://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-staying-out-auto-rejection
http://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-move-faster
 
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