"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I keep getting ignored after a whiIe and I can’t understand why

John Riggs

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So the case is this. Last actual relationship lasted a year and a half but ended really bad with a lot of fighting, three years ago. After that I tried moving on with some other girls that most of the time started ignoring me out of the blue. This discouraged me so much, to the point I couldn’t even speak to a girl without being scared. Recently, I met this girl from a friend of mine and we started talking. She showed interest at first, she even said to her friend that she liked the way I approached her and seemed suprised by the fact that I’m single. After a month of talking, because I can’t do much more since she is studying on another country, she stopped talking to me. She came back for a week and we ended up going out with friends but she was colder than ever, only towards me. Tried asking her if I did something wrong but she said no and that everything’s ok. It’s not ok and it’s pretty obvious. Can someone please explain to me why? It’s honestly killing me all these days.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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wifehunter

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Approval seeking weak frames, are a turn off.
 

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Welcome to SS. I wouldn’t contact her anymore. Preoccupy yourself with other women and other things in your life. If she contacts you then go ahead and talk to her but don’t mention the issue you had and show any further insecurities. Pretend like nothing happened. She is banging other men where she is studying, that is a guarantee. Thus you should be banging other women or at least working towards that and not waiting on her. You are just setting yourself up for disappointment if you do that. Especially since she came back and you didn’t get any real good quality time with her.
 

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So the case is this. Last actual relationship lasted a year and a half but ended really bad with a lot of fighting, three years ago. After that I tried moving on with some other girls that most of the time started ignoring me out of the blue. This discouraged me so much, to the point I couldn’t even speak to a girl without being scared. Recently, I met this girl from a friend of mine and we started talking. She showed interest at first, she even said to her friend that she liked the way I approached her and seemed suprised by the fact that I’m single. After a month of talking, because I can’t do much more since she is studying on another country, she stopped talking to me. She came back for a week and we ended up going out with friends but she was colder than ever, only towards me. Tried asking her if I did something wrong but she said no and that everything’s ok. It’s not ok and it’s pretty obvious. Can someone please explain to me why? It’s honestly killing me all these days.
short answer: it sounds like you need to move faster with women, get them into bed before they get bored or they get their ex to take them back or whatever

long answer, see this guy's amazing website:
http://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-staying-out-auto-rejection
http://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-move-faster
 
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