"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hey all,

Its been a while since the last time i was around here, but I really need to get this off me.

I'm just back from a second date (im almost 20, and it is my FIRST 2nd date... ) so, im pretty pissed off at my self cause i lacked the balls to do finish the date with a kiss ( my 1st kiss without alcoholic influence in both participants), the date was great, I took her home, walked her to her door, and she didnt say like a quick good bye, but stayed and chatted with me . So i got a little more balls and y kind of hold her with my arm around her , we keep talking and y start to play with her hair....men....the oportunity was right there, but i didnt make the move...... and then her mom came out and well.... the date ended .

Im pretty sure that she likes me (or at least is interested in me) so my doubt now is

a)the next time i go out with her , should I say something like look at her eyes, hold her hands and say"Hey, there's something I really wanted to do the other night ..." and give her the kiss? cause that's pretty much what my gut is telling me to do, like, i got to show her that I can do it and im not a AFC.

or

b) should go through out the whole 3rd date and END it with the kiss.... i just dont feel easy about this option. I feel like i left something unfinished and it needs to be fixed as soon as posible ...

if you want to, drop your opinion, I may go with my gut feelings at the end (if I dont chiken out again.... but i dont think i will let my self do that again...i would beat me up if did so)

Thanks for reading, i just really needed to let it go, and right now everyone home is asleep.

Saludos from Mexico
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Seems you're doing alright, go with your gut and do it at the right time. Try to avoid doing it at the end.
 

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I agree don't wait till end of next date...... actually guys should never wait till the end of any date. There's just too much pressure and chance for an awkward moment at the end of a date.

I'm not too good at picking up girls but I have to say that I'm very good at scoring a kiss when I am out with them so maybe i can give you some advice.

When I want to score with a chick I take her to a lounge with couches..... I live in New York City so they are all over. It's awesome cause you get to sit right next the girl and start some serious kino. I don't like going out to eat cause you have to sit across from her and that's very impersonal...... almost like a job interview. Plus the pressure of having to eat in front of someone new sucks. On the couch you have her right next to you and from there the possibilties are endless.

Order a few drinks (you may have to wait a year for this cause you're only 20 :) ) and get her feeling nice. By now the conversation should be flowing and if she's feelin you you will definately know it. She''ll probably have her hand on your knee or she'll be pressing her body up against yours while your talking.

From there you just have to wait for a time that both of you are looking into each others eyes for just a bit too long. Then just lean in very slowly with your eyes still locked on hers, with a slight smile, and plant a very soft gentle kiss on her. Don't go for tongue yet. Now pull back and keep looking in her eyes. She should have a big smile on her face and might giggle a little.

From here you can either go in for another soft kiss or wait till later. The more you keep her guessing and waiting the more she'll want you. Don't go for a serious makeout session till you guys are alone.

Hope these tips help..... I've successfully used these moves countless of times.
 

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Originally posted by BuckwildNYC
I agree don't wait till end of next date...... actually guys should never wait till the end of any date. There's just too much pressure and chance for an awkward moment at the end of a date.

I'm not too good at picking up girls but I have to say that I'm very good at scoring a kiss when I am out with them so maybe i can give you some advice.

When I want to score with a chick I take her to a lounge with couches..... I live in New York City so they are all over. It's awesome cause you get to sit right next the girl and start some serious kino. I don't like going out to eat cause you have to sit across from her and that's very impersonal...... almost like a job interview. Plus the pressure of having to eat in front of someone new sucks. On the couch you have her right next to you and from there the possibilties are endless.

Order a few drinks (you may have to wait a year for this cause you're only 20 :) ) and get her feeling nice. By now the conversation should be flowing and if she's feelin you you will definately know it. She''ll probably have her hand on your knee or she'll be pressing her body up against yours while your talking.

From there you just have to wait for a time that both of you are looking into each others eyes for just a bit too long. Then just lean in very slowly with your eyes still locked on hers, with a slight smile, and plant a very soft gentle kiss on her. Don't go for tongue yet. Now pull back and keep looking in her eyes. She should have a big smile on her face and might giggle a little.

From here you can either go in for another soft kiss or wait till later. The more you keep her guessing and waiting the more she'll want you. Don't go for a serious makeout session till you guys are alone.

Hope these tips help..... I've successfully used these moves countless of times.
hey, thanks for the tip, I think that can really work alright

about the drink stuff, Mexico's drinking age is 18 :D, but she's still under 18.. :eek:

about the softkiss, yeah, that I pretty much was aware of, woman like a softkiss first, and a serious make out as an ante to something else or when alone....i guess TV DO teach somethings.....:p
 

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Just be ez and stop worrying about that! Ler chase you! Relax and let sex be the last thing on your mind. It will happen when it will happen. But your inner rule should always be "she will chase me for everything".
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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