"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I just realized that I was way more DJ back then

jt the azn

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After reading much of the material in this site, I realize that the way I acted back then way way more DJ than I act now. Before I came to Canada, I got natural game. That was when I was only 10 years old. Now, seventeen, after seven years in Canada, I now know that I am way more sissy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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kratosnofear

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Everyone has natural game. Society, women, the media, and religion just programmed us along the way to repress our desire to bang as many hot babes as we possibly can. I think a lot of people have that hangup where they want to be that geek/nerd/loser that overcame it and became a DJ. But in the back of their mind they are always that loser, you have to get over it and realize you never were that loser. You became that loser when people said stuff like "pay for her", "tell her how beautiful she looks", or all the countless retarded romantic comedies and family sitcoms you've seen while growing up where the man was a wuss. The way I see it a womens rejection when approaching is just her way to put you back in line with the social standards where she is in control, at their core it terrifies them that a man could pick his women as if picking apples from a tree.
 

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good post ^. I have definitely been that man, who i always try to say i use to be so afc back in the day and overcame that. But in reality, even back in my AFC days...still got a few girls checking me out(Wore glasses and dreads) and even the cool kids at my high school were pretty cool with me and didn't even consider me "That" much of a geek, eventho i was :)

But yea, most women will never admit they want the guy who gets the women he wants.
 

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kratosnofear said:
Everyone has natural game. Society, women, the media, and religion just programmed us along the way to repress our desire to bang as many hot babes as we possibly can. I think a lot of people have that hangup where they want to be that geek/nerd/loser that overcame it and became a DJ. But in the back of their mind they are always that loser, you have to get over it and realize you never were that loser. You became that loser when people said stuff like "pay for her", "tell her how beautiful she looks", or all the countless retarded romantic comedies and family sitcoms you've seen while growing up where the man was a wuss. The way I see it a womens rejection when approaching is just her way to put you back in line with the social standards where she is in control, at their core it terrifies them that a man could pick his women as if picking apples from a tree.


Amazing post. I couldn't agree more. I went (and still am) going through this same thing. I used to be flawless with girls (and people in general) but after dating a few times (and getting hurt) I realized how much of a wussy I was when the romance started to blossom, and instead of being a DJ I became the nerd who didn't want to move things too fast, wanted to take her feelings into account, etc. Yeah, all aboard the wussy train.


I am still trying to figure out how I used to think and put myself in the mindset but the thoughts of failure and self-doubt keep coming back to haunt me.
 

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You know, this made me think and brought back memories. When I was really young, 11 maybe, I was playing doctor with a neighboorhood girl. It was totally natural, I initiated it and she allowed me to do whatever I wanted with her body. There wasn't a nervous bone in my body, I simply did what I felt like doing with this girl. Then somewhere along the way when I got older it didn't flow as naturally and things became awkward because of all the social programming.

We all have this natural "game", it's what makes us human (men). If you can resist outside pressures and carry yourself the way you'd truly like, you'll be surprised at how much easier it is to get what you want.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Tazman said:
You know, this made me think and brought back memories. When I was really young, 11 maybe, I was playing doctor with a neighboorhood girl. It was totally natural, I initiated it and she allowed me to do whatever I wanted with her body. There wasn't a nervous bone in my body, I simply did what I felt like doing with this girl. Then somewhere along the way when I got older it didn't flow as naturally and things became awkward because of all the social programming.

We all have this natural "game", it's what makes us human (men). If you can resist outside pressures and carry yourself the way you'd truly like, you'll be surprised at how much easier it is to get what you want.
were you a gynecologist?
 

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Forget about how DJ you were back in the past. Things changed and you've grown. All you can do is look forward to be even better. I'm glad you guys brought up the whole thing about being natural. Do reading here ONLY to guide you on your way. GL
 
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