"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I just realized that I was way more DJ back then

jt the azn

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After reading much of the material in this site, I realize that the way I acted back then way way more DJ than I act now. Before I came to Canada, I got natural game. That was when I was only 10 years old. Now, seventeen, after seven years in Canada, I now know that I am way more sissy.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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kratosnofear

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Everyone has natural game. Society, women, the media, and religion just programmed us along the way to repress our desire to bang as many hot babes as we possibly can. I think a lot of people have that hangup where they want to be that geek/nerd/loser that overcame it and became a DJ. But in the back of their mind they are always that loser, you have to get over it and realize you never were that loser. You became that loser when people said stuff like "pay for her", "tell her how beautiful she looks", or all the countless retarded romantic comedies and family sitcoms you've seen while growing up where the man was a wuss. The way I see it a womens rejection when approaching is just her way to put you back in line with the social standards where she is in control, at their core it terrifies them that a man could pick his women as if picking apples from a tree.
 

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good post ^. I have definitely been that man, who i always try to say i use to be so afc back in the day and overcame that. But in reality, even back in my AFC days...still got a few girls checking me out(Wore glasses and dreads) and even the cool kids at my high school were pretty cool with me and didn't even consider me "That" much of a geek, eventho i was :)

But yea, most women will never admit they want the guy who gets the women he wants.
 

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kratosnofear said:
Everyone has natural game. Society, women, the media, and religion just programmed us along the way to repress our desire to bang as many hot babes as we possibly can. I think a lot of people have that hangup where they want to be that geek/nerd/loser that overcame it and became a DJ. But in the back of their mind they are always that loser, you have to get over it and realize you never were that loser. You became that loser when people said stuff like "pay for her", "tell her how beautiful she looks", or all the countless retarded romantic comedies and family sitcoms you've seen while growing up where the man was a wuss. The way I see it a womens rejection when approaching is just her way to put you back in line with the social standards where she is in control, at their core it terrifies them that a man could pick his women as if picking apples from a tree.


Amazing post. I couldn't agree more. I went (and still am) going through this same thing. I used to be flawless with girls (and people in general) but after dating a few times (and getting hurt) I realized how much of a wussy I was when the romance started to blossom, and instead of being a DJ I became the nerd who didn't want to move things too fast, wanted to take her feelings into account, etc. Yeah, all aboard the wussy train.


I am still trying to figure out how I used to think and put myself in the mindset but the thoughts of failure and self-doubt keep coming back to haunt me.
 

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You know, this made me think and brought back memories. When I was really young, 11 maybe, I was playing doctor with a neighboorhood girl. It was totally natural, I initiated it and she allowed me to do whatever I wanted with her body. There wasn't a nervous bone in my body, I simply did what I felt like doing with this girl. Then somewhere along the way when I got older it didn't flow as naturally and things became awkward because of all the social programming.

We all have this natural "game", it's what makes us human (men). If you can resist outside pressures and carry yourself the way you'd truly like, you'll be surprised at how much easier it is to get what you want.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Tazman said:
You know, this made me think and brought back memories. When I was really young, 11 maybe, I was playing doctor with a neighboorhood girl. It was totally natural, I initiated it and she allowed me to do whatever I wanted with her body. There wasn't a nervous bone in my body, I simply did what I felt like doing with this girl. Then somewhere along the way when I got older it didn't flow as naturally and things became awkward because of all the social programming.

We all have this natural "game", it's what makes us human (men). If you can resist outside pressures and carry yourself the way you'd truly like, you'll be surprised at how much easier it is to get what you want.
were you a gynecologist?
 

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Forget about how DJ you were back in the past. Things changed and you've grown. All you can do is look forward to be even better. I'm glad you guys brought up the whole thing about being natural. Do reading here ONLY to guide you on your way. GL
 
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