"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I just noticed, I'm horrible when I'm alone with a woman...

cali4nialove

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So recently I've been improving a lot with chicks, but theres one thing I just noticed....I am absolutley horrible at making any moves when Im alone with a chick. The other day for instance, a chick and I were alone (We both like each other), and I had no clue what to do. Cant make a move at all. Any suggestions?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Don't overthink the situation. If you're two alone, don't hestiate, just do. The more you think about it, the more you screw yourself over. I'm not saying, go in for a kiss ASAP, but I'm just saying relax and make a move!
 

LearningSlowly

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BPH said:
I'll say it then.
Hahaha yeah I'll second that.

Being alone is all about breaking thresholds. First break the touch barrier (do this as soon as you see her). Keep touching her until you get a chance to kiss her. Keep touching (and kissing) until you get her shirt or pants off. Get your own clothes off. Keep touching. Enjoy.
 

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Thanks. Actually helps a lot. I just suck at transitioning from touching to kissing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kinda seems to be the opposite for me... If I'm in a big crowd, i've gotta deal with people who try to dominate me... But when I'm alone, I feel great 'cause I've got the chick all to myself.
 

cali4nialove

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306 said:
Kinda seems to be the opposite for me... If I'm in a big crowd, i've gotta deal with people who try to dominate me... But when I'm alone, I feel great 'cause I've got the chick all to myself.
A big crowd saves me the awkwardness of silence. Also, if I don't make a move that day, there's less of a chance of friend zone because its a big crowd
 

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If your struggling with making convo, I strongly suggest you get better at talking to everyone. I've been doing it lately, and it works great if you make convo that goes into deeper detail than "how are you today?" "Had a nice sleep?" etc. Try to use what they give you, and turn that into value you can return. If she tells me "I did some snowboarding" I'll tell her what I think about the topic(positive replies guys) and tell a story or joke or whatever, and delve into the topic. When did she start? Was she happy doing it? Talk about experiences and make it fun. (Talk using emotions. "I LOVED doing that" or "I got the biggest smile ever that day" etc. Women are emotional creatures. If you understand women and emotions and convey it to her, You're golden)

I hope your catching the point?

Have fun with interactions, do what YOU want. she's a human like you. Have fun and connect with her/him.

Everyone will love you for it. That's the dude everyone likes.

Class dismissed. Go and take ACTION.

Apoco
 

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apocolipto said:
If your struggling with making convo, I strongly suggest you get better at talking to everyone. I've been doing it lately, and it works great if you make convo that goes into deeper detail than "how are you today?" "Had a nice sleep?" etc. Try to use what they give you, and turn that into value you can return. If she tells me "I did some snowboarding" I'll tell her what I think about the topic(positive replies guys) and tell a story or joke or whatever, and delve into the topic. When did she start? Was she happy doing it? Talk about experiences and make it fun. (Talk using emotions. "I LOVED doing that" or "I got the biggest smile ever that day" etc. Women are emotional creatures. If you understand women and emotions and convey it to her, You're golden)

I hope your catching the point?

Have fun with interactions, do what YOU want. she's a human like you. Have fun and connect with her/him.

Everyone will love you for it. That's the dude everyone likes.

Class dismissed. Go and take ACTION.

Apoco
Helped a lot. Thanks man!
 

apocolipto

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No prob. :)

Why not try and give us a field report soon about you taking action? Even if you escalated to kissing, that's a success.

I'll be waiting for that field report! :)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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