"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I just LBJF'd an HB

Flabbergasped?

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This is w/ a girl I know @ a party

Snippet of conversation:

HB: "Why won't you hook up with me?"
Me: "Cus we're friends, and it would be weird to hook up. It'd be pushing the boundaries of the relationship we have together.
HB: "blah blah"

I think at some point I did try to hook up with her, though it was in public and I wasn't really making an effort. She didn't go along.

How do I get her in my pants? Anything to keep in mind in these cases?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You're playing hard to get but maybe too hard to get? How did you try hook up with her?
 

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Flabbergasped? said:
This is w/ a girl I know @ a party

Snippet of conversation:

HB: "Why won't you hook up with me?"
Me: "Cus we're friends, and it would be weird to hook up. It'd be pushing the boundaries of the relationship we have together.
HB: "blah blah"

I think at some point I did try to hook up with her, though it was in public and I wasn't really making an effort. She didn't go along.

How do I get her in my pants? Anything to keep in mind in these cases?
Way to put positive thoughts in her head :down:

If you are attempting to make her chase you, you need to use better use of language. You can't just give an excuse and hope she tries to get around it, you have to kind of plant what you want her to do/see in her head and let it grow. Ie: when someone says 'Don't imagine a pink elephant' its the first thing that pops into your mind. Also, don't talk facts, talk emotions. Talk about feelings and use emotive words.

As for your question of getting into her pants, when she gives you the open 3 ....TAKE IT!!! It's called push AND pull, not push and see if she gets back up. Give her a reason to chase and she will, but constantly push her away and she will go (unless she is LSE)
 

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Well hang fire a sec there mate, abit more information is needed here.

I've known women, who have no intention of sleeping with me, and I have dis-continued them as options. When they see me forget about them and move onto other women, they get all pissy because I'm not fawning over them and trying to convince them to sleep with me (like an AFC would).

To this end, they'll indulge in a plethora of new tatics (bearing in mind they still don't want to sleep with me). I'll mention how hot another girl looks, or who I am sleeping with/want to sleep with, and they'll say "yeah, but you'd still sleep with me first, right?", or "Do you think I'm hot(ter than her)?".

It's a hit to their Ego, that I'm not pining after them, or trying to "win" them over. They don't want me, they want me to be in the long line of suitors who're patiently waiting for their chance with them (which'll more than likely never come). Once I put them over the other women (yes, you're hotter than her/ I'd sleep with you first), it's game over to them, they win.

This just might be her Ego talking.
 
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