Duffdog said:
really? Wow, your capacity for exposition astounds.
I especially like the part where you say that horses are not THAT expensive. Well, then you just agreed with me and betrayed your own argument. You what else is not THAT expensive? Private jets.
Any hobby that attracts females is expensive. Since you just now discovered this fact and attempted to put your own spin on it by calling it "interesting", you are a novice in this area and cannot possibly offer direction to others. I on the other hand am not a novice in this subject matter. You would be better served by listening to someone who KNOWS what he is talking about than to your own discoveries and misapplication of commonly known information.
Eventually, you will agree with everything I have written. It is only a matter of time and experience.
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There is no need to be as hostile as you are being. it's a freaking message board.
you blatantly left out the AA reference I put in there, and it's just as valid. I could have made this exact same post using AA as a reference..
the point, has less to do with having sweet hobbies as much as it has to do with throwing yourself into something you are passionate about, rather it be work, a particular hobby, a religion, whatever it is, and finding like mined people.
I talk about my wife alot, but just to make you happy and to hit upon this point, i want to talk about a girl from the past that i dated that hits this point home. This was well before i had any idea of any of this.
I walked into an AA meeting one day and there was this very nictly shaped redhead there. at the time i was pretty new to AA, about 3 months in, she had like 10 months at the time. but i was pretty serious about AA at the time. I was the guy that went to the meetings at 6:30, then another at 5pm, and if it was a wednesday or Friday one later at night as well. turns out she was the exact same type.
i'd be lying if i said we had this magical spark from day one. we didn't lol. in fact we didn't talk to each other for about a month. but she kept seeing me at meetings, usually myself. that in combination with my weight loss that i was making, she started showing interest. we talked after the meeting one day and she asked if i wanted a ride to the 6:30am meeting the next day, as my house way on the way from her place. about 3 weeks later we are doing everything together. we became actually pretty damn close in a friend aspect, not LJBF but, if i had a problem she was the person i would call before anyone and visa versa. she actually saved me from relapsing about 5 months in. next thingh you know she's over my house everyday, we are going out to eat.. i'm getting hints that she is interested in me. this is a girl who could have dated anyone in hte room.. very good looking and not only very good looking, she was rich. she never came out and said how rich she was, but she didn't work, drove a nissan maxima fully loaded and lived in a 2 story house by herself that was pretty nice, she was a trust fund baby. never asked me for a dime, we never did anything blatantly expensive.
one day we are going to a meeting and she asks me do i want her to pick me up, i say sure, she picks me up and she just put it together that day. it's a Friday, we go to the 5:30 meeting, afterwards she said some friends of hers wanted to get together and asked would i come with her. i said okay, we went, and she's all over me. i knew something was going to happen that night, just had that feeling. so about 30 minutes later i say **** it, and i go in for a kiss, and she just let it all out. later that night she told me she had been "extremely attracted to me". she said i was always cute,. but what really attracted her to me was "you are the only person that i know that is as serious about AA that I know as I am, and i've been thinking we could make a good couple becuase we have a lot in common"
you try to pick apart my post but in reality my post is nothing more than an expanded view of the 48 laws of power
Disarm and Infuriate with the Mirror Effect
The mirror reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson. Few can resist the power of Mirror Effect.
The only thing I am saying, is that you can be more genuine about it when you actually DO share those values and beliefs.
This chick, the redhead, was very very good looking. not only was she good looking, she had money. she didn't need a guy for their money. do you know how many guys that i had seen try to talk to her or get with her? damn near every guy in AA. Every time we would go to a meeting i'd have to wait by the car while 4-5 guys took their turns talking to her after the meeting.
When you share the same beliefs, values, passions as someone, you connect with them on a much deeper level than anyone can. That connection is an "in". it has nothing to do with how much money you spend on hobbies, that's taking this down an extremely trivial path that i was not intended to take this down.
What attracted her to me, besides my still blossoming DJ skillset at the time, was the fact that I "got" her. we had the same goals, and even if she wasn't in the picture, i would be just as passionate about mjy recovery as I was when she WAS in the picture. I enhanced her recovery and she enhanced mine. There would be times she would call me and i would quote **** straight out of the big book, or times that she would be dealing with something and because i knew her pretty well i could call her on her BS or help her deal with something, and she knew me well enough to do the same to me.
It doesn't matter what it is. It can be something as cheap as AA or something as expensive as horse racing, if you are passionate about it, you are going to be automatically attracted to someone who is passionate about that.
BTW we dated for about 6 months, she didn't do anything wrong, we just broke up when I moved. As much as I liked her, nad she was a cool cat, i had a life to go live.
The other day, i was watching a documentary on tiger sharks. Tiger sharks are ****ing bad ass. Anyway, they were doing what they do, and all this guy wanted to do, like, his goal in life, was to get people to stop killing tiger sharks. he would go down and swim with them just to show people that they weren't as dangreous to humans as poeple made them out to be. So they cut to him going to do what he does, and his 'partner' is a bad ass, probably hb8 south african chick, who "shares the same passions as he does" and she gets on tV and she's talking about how ****ed up it is that people are killing tiger sharks.. they go all around the world together,trying to save tiger sharks.
now, step back, do you think for one freaking second, that "mystery" stands a chance against tiger shark guy lol? this dude could be the biggest AFC on the face of the earth (though anyone who has the nuts to dive in the water with freaking tiger sharks is pretty pimp to begin with) and she would stick with the tiger shark dude, because they are literally a definite chief aim together. that goes beyond any gaming, and tactics, you can bring to the table. the dude was not ugly or anything.
you see the same thing with the late steve irwin, his wife was the same way. lol, zarko, there is a couple in professional show jumping, meredith Michael beerdaum and her husband, both are professional show jumpers, and both are the best 2 in the world at what they do.
And it's not that difficult. Whatever it is you are passionate about instead of sitting home posting about it. don't talk about it be about it. just do it. the chips will fall.