"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I just got ****ing LJBF'd.

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Vice said:
Reply to her:

I think thats a great idea, we should just be friends!

besides, i don't think I'd be able to maintain your constant cravings for attention, at least until summer starts :)

I'm still taking you to prom. I bought the tickets last week, and I'm really looking forward to that dance floor because i learned a few new moves i want to try out :D

as for me separating myself from my phone on sunday, you did the EXACT same thing last week on tuesday or wednesday night when you were having that bad day. so enough of that pretentious girl stuff, brat!! :)

anyway, me, my friend ashley, alex, and possibly katt are going to starbucks around 8:30 tomorrow night. you should tag along, it'll be fun :)
damn dawg, when I did it all I said was the "great idea let's be friends" line and that was it. Full stop, no fluff.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Shes prolly trying to bail from prom,, prolly shy that she wont know anyone there except you.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
damn dawg, when I did it all I said was the "great idea let's be friends" line and that was it. Full stop, no fluff.
Come-on man, you know a 17 year old knows so much more than a 28 year old! Surely you left some s*** out! ha-ha

Sorry for all the age discrimination in so little time by me Vice and whomever other teenagers might be offended by it, but lets get real here. Dude!
 

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Its a total loss.

me and her are finished.
 

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Vice said:
Its a total loss.

me and her are finished.
I don't know if more exchanges occurred, but yes, I could have told you that with your initial post. The only thing you ever had a choice on was how graceful and cool you were going to be able to walk away from it.

Dude, it happens to everybody! Learn to be ready to respond DJ-like when it happens again, not if. The very best win and lose with women all the time. Do both gracefully and with a genuine smile on the inside and out ;-)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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azanon said:
I don't know if more exchanges occurred, but yes, I could have told you that with your initial post. The only thing you ever had a choice on was how graceful and cool you were going to be able to walk away from it.

Dude, it happens to everybody! Learn to be ready to respond DJ-like when it happens again, not if. The very best win and lose with women all the time. Do both gracefully and with a genuine smile on the inside and out ;-)
i'm going to sleep on that post. thank you man
 

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azanon said:
Dude, it happens to everybody! Learn to be ready to respond DJ-like when it happens again, not if. The very best win and lose with women all the time. Do both gracefully and with a genuine smile on the inside and out ;-)
I can imagine myself laughing out loud at a girl's face when she gives me a LJBF (hasn't happened yet).
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
tell her "I think thats a great idea, we should just be friends"
yeah.. you do need friends.. so go to the prom with her, but because you are now friends, you can go hunting for other girls there.. and have a blast let her know you dont need her there to make you happy.. you are very happy on your own.. if she flakes out of the prom... forget the friendship stuff.. drop her ass like a hot potato.. find another friend.

Vice said:
Its a total loss.

me and her are finished.
Make it her loss no yours
 
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