"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I hate complaining but I have to not really complaing though but releasing. I'm nothing I'm lonely I guess. I cover my feelings up so much I don't really know. I have no one to really talk to noone to listen, yet I listen to everybody who talks :confused:. I don't understand, people seem to like me and think I'm a good guy but no one is welling to listen to me. My best "friend" dipped on me and my other friend is hard to find.

I know you guys don't like to hear this type of news but this is how I feel right now. I not only need someone that will listen and hear but someone that is true. I'm very proactive though and will keep trying to improve my life by becoming more involved in things instead just feeling the way I feel.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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So; what are you going to do about it?
 

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I always wanted to compete in boxing. I'm going to do that and make music. I like rap and want to make good beats that people move to. I figure if I get famous or social proof enough for that I'll be listen to more. I was also thinking about setting up a phone line in case someone just needs to talk.

But I just wanted to add I think it's the women around me that affect me too. They are not trustworthy they lie and cheat. It's just not right. I need positiity in my life being the only positve in a group of negatives.
 

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Positive talk is what you missing. When you say all those things to yourself, thats all negative.


Hmmmm, I wake up every morning at 5 am, dress, do my hair, and run. Then I drink two mugs of coffee, and by the time Im ready to eat Im feeling extermely positive, as I have achieved my first goal during the days start.
 

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banGbro said:
Positive talk is what you missing. When you say all those things to yourself, thats all negative.


Hmmmm, I wake up every morning at 5 am, dress, do my hair, and run. Then I drink two mugs of coffee, and by the time Im ready to eat Im feeling extermely positive, as I have achieved my first goal during the days start.
That's a good plan instead of just getting up and doing stuff. I'm going to start planning things like that. I'll try to keep a little journel
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Chosen1 said:
...But I just wanted to add I think it's the women around me that affect me too. They are not trustworthy they lie and cheat. It's just not right. I need positiity in my life being the only positve in a group of negatives.
Probably. Ever consider keeping company with women who are more your style?
 

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I think it's good to get rid of unnecessary annoyances in life. If the people you hang around are bringing you down, ditch them and look for other people to spend your time with.

I was doing a sport for a while at my school (not varsity, just a club sport). The people that play it are really clique-ish, tho, and I never did completely fit in with some of them. Then last week the captain wouldn't let me go with the team to a tournament over the weekend. I'm not the best one on the team or anything, but I definitely could have contributed and he was just being an ass. So I finally just said f*ck this and I quit. It had been a pretty fun activity, but I was spending way too much time doing it to be treated like sh*t by that crowd...

Don't put up with as much crap this year -- That was my new year's resolution.
 

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Basically the fact that you listen to your friends problems and **** all the time basically says your a nice guy. If my friends are in a huge crisis I'll let them talk to me about it and say **** the dj thing for a bit. But to be completely honest man. Heres the deal when you talk about your problems or your insecurities you give them power. To kill these insecurities ignore them and prove them wrong. Its a hard road, but the more you dwell on them the stronger they will become.
 
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