“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I just cry together with my gf

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So many ppl here are saying that crying is for *****es w/e that they would never cry you think that makes you a real man..... Let me tell you something if you think that u been hurting your girl feelings for a long time and you know she doesn’t' deserve that because all the things she does for you with out you even ask for it and you love that girl but you barely show it, in moments like that that you see her suffering of course you will get sentimental with her that’s what makes the relationship stronger moments like that.
And if at the end we don’t finish together I wont be wondering what if I would have been a lil nicer...Im only 22 she is the type of girl I would marry but im not ready for that **** I wanna have fun so that’s why I been an *******, but it gets to a point that if you love the girl and she is good you need to change a lil or you will loose a great girl.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Candyman said:
So many ppl here are saying that crying is for *****es w/e that they would never cry you think that makes you a real man..... Let me tell you something if you think that u been hurting your girl feelings for a long time and you know she doesn’t' deserve that because all the things she does for you with out you even ask for it and you love that girl but you barely show it, in moments like that that you see her suffering of course you will get sentimental with her that’s what makes the relationship stronger moments like that.
And if at the end we don’t finish together I wont be wondering what if I would have been a lil nicer...Im only 22 she is the type of girl I would marry but im not ready for that **** I wanna have fun so that’s why I been an *******, but it gets to a point that if you love the girl and she is good you need to change a lil or you will loose a great girl.
So why did you ask us if you think you have it all figured out?

I think our advice is just NOT what you wanted to hear. You need to answer my question of why you continue to hurt her feelings if you think she's a good girl.
 

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I dont really know I tend to say stuff that I dont mean and i know its hurting her at the moment but I dont care. Its like at that moment thats what i really feel like saying but then I know its not.
 

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Candyman said:
Some bullsh!t.
You done venting now?

This is my take on it. If you didn't want to see the opinion of other people, then why post?

And what you are doing sounds very pvssy to me. There's a diffrenece between crying alone, and in front of other people. Congratulations, now you're Mr. Sensitive to everyone. :kick:


BTW:
Good luck with your marriage. I hope you know that 50% of Marriages end in divorce. Better save up for lawyer fees. :whistle:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Candyman said:
she told me she wants to marry me w/e and we want to have a kid

Im only 22 she is the type of girl I would marry but im not ready for that... but it gets to a point that if you love the girl and she is good you need to change a lil or you will loose a great girl.
Candyman said:
who said I was goin to get married
I don't know where I saw it in your post. My mistake.
I read what Candyman was posting instead. I must have confused you two.
 

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She wants to get marry I dont I do want a kid with her after that who knows...
 

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just do what you want.............

but make sure your on the same page. if she claims to be as great as you say, dont treat her like ****, just be honest and tell her your not intersted in that right now
 

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Candyman said:
So what you guys think about crying in front of your gf is that real love????? the way she sees me will change what you guys think
I think you should talk to your girl friends about this. This is a male message board.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well, it's probably a sign that you care for her more than you think.

STILL, crying in each others shoulders. Sheeeet man... I couldn't even imagine doing that. But who knows... maybe it could happen to any us of us. But the idea of crying in front of a chick to me is just soooooo disgusting, believe me, even if I felt the urge (like in your example) I would be fighting it with every ounce of power I have.

Anyway, it happened. Don't make a habit of it! :D
 

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Candyman said:
I dont really know I tend to say stuff that I dont mean and i know its hurting her at the moment but I dont care. Its like at that moment thats what i really feel like saying but then I know its not.
My only advice I can give is this.

If you really care about her, then you need to change this.

I don't know how because I don't have that problem. I think before I speak. You should too.
 

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Yeah I Know I haven’t been the best anyway ....her parents are getting divorce she is an only child so she is suffering a lot from that too, even thought every time we are together she is having fun and kind of forget about that but yeah maybe I got some issues.

A lil update after the emotional stupid cry that I had next to her... so far she stills the same everyday she comes to my room starts cleaning up before I ask brings me my food she likes to take care of me a lot last 2 days she was feeding me, we still have sex like twice a day she always comes at least 2 or 3 times and then I come. She keeps calling me all the time and texting I haven’t see any big or any changes at all she is just a lil sad because her dad is about to move from her house.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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JustDoItAlways said:
Women cry. Men kill things.
Listen to this man. Now, why would you want to cry infront of your girl? After me and my ex broke up after several years together, I cried in front of her and with her. When I think back now it makes me cringe. It's painful to think about..

I'm actually a sensitive guy from natures side, but never again will I cry infront of a girl. Crying can be great under certain circumstances, but a break up does not fall under that list...

If you have to cry, do it alone. Or just suck it up and be a man about it.
 

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Candyman - you need to cut her some slack and be positive.. If her experience with you is positive then she'll want it to continue. if not, then even tho she is with you now, she'll cut you and run to the next guy that gives her that positive experience... and $ex doesn't count.
 
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