I just cry together with my gf

[Candyman]

We been going out for a year and some months. We got in an argument and I broke up with her. I always do this I tend to brake up with her and offend her saying stuff like we don’t deserve to be together and whatever when I know she loves me and I love her too.
I don’t really know why I said things that I don’t mean well after the last argument that I broke up with her she took it seriously she said that she was tired of me saying stuff that I don’t mean later on, that she loves me but that she doesn’t want to suffer anymore. Well at the end we got back but we both were crying in each other shoulder I never done that with any gf crying with her.

After all was good she told me she wants to marry me w/e and we want to have a kid, the kid part we have talked about it before.
So what you guys think about crying in front of your gf is that real love????? the way she sees me will change what you guys think

 

[Candyman]

Can I get some responds about this ....

 

[DJDamage]

So what you guys think about crying in front of your gf is that real love????? the way she sees me will change what you guys think

This woman has so much power over you and you don't even know it or realise it. Your defintion of a love sounds like what a woman thinks love is and that is a dangerous path to walk.

After all was good she told me she wants to marry me w/e and we want to have a kid, the kid part we have talked about it before.

You keep on breaking up with this chick and taking her back. What kind of a man breaks up with a chick and keep taking her back? That is a man with no integrity, no spine and overly sensetive.

The reason you keep breaking up its because it ain't working out but you got oneitis for this chick. What are you thinking about this? this woman p1sses you off to the point where you get rid of her and then accept her back in open arms in the hope that she learned her lesson?! and where do you end up finding yourself down the road?? at the exact same spot. Now this chick has learned how weak you are and is giving you an ultimatum: "put up with my bad behaviour and marry me or else I am leaving you for good". I wonder why many people who have a bad relationship think that getting married and having kids is the cure for their bad relationship, which in actuality will make things much worse for everyone involved.

Just remember when you get married and you are mad like hell you won't be able to just walk away and say" its over". It will cost you big money.

 

[Fenderules]

you really gotta talk things out with here and be serious. YOU HAVE TO TALK TO HER RIGHT NOW!!!!!

 

[Fenderules]

what i mean is that no ***** worship crap. you gotta sit down with her and tell her this BS has to stop now. Do it when your not angry and fighting so she knows YOU are SERIOUS.

fighting is now good. tell her exactly what you want and expect from her. if she cant live up to those expectations, then you better not marry her or you will sorry. Just make sure you take a look at yourself first and see that your not asking to much as well. if yoru a perfectionist, then there is no way she can live up 2 your standards.

things you do deserve without question are:

1) loyalty
2) Respect
3)REspect
4) Respect
5) faithfullness
6)faithfullness
7)loyalty
8) her undying love


if she falls out of line on one of these, then immediatly she is no good for you.

 

[Candyman]

LOL you guys have it all wrong she is the afc with me this girls does what ever the **** I want when we fight is because I either disrespect her for nothing or I just feel like w/e and I dump her,…. damn maybe I didn’t explain myself well. And that doesn’t make me a better man but I have strong personality that she has to deal with . That’s why I was surprise I felt how I felt because I realize I have true feelings for her….

All the times I have broken up with her are not because of any sign of flirt, any sign that she is cheating any sign of disrespect whatsoever.
Most of the time we get in an argument or fight is because I either say something offensive to her or I just do what ever the **** I want

 

[spider_007]

ever herd of a girl refering to her man as "her rock"

think about it for a minute.

men act like men, not like women.

 

[Candyman]

ok but once in a lifetime you need to show what you really feel..

 

[Oxide]

I usually do that when I have sex with her..


kidding aside dude, yeah it's fine to be emotional once in awhile, but I would recommend keeping most of that stuff inside.. the woman needs to look up to you for confidence..hadly the other way around

 

[Candyman]

bro if there is some one that doesn’t shows his feelings in this relationship that’s me. This girl is always on top of me like a ****ing gum, since the beginning of the relationship she has been crazy in love for me I never really show her any emotions I just felt that I was going to lose a great girl and I just let it out.

 

[donjuanjovi]

Just because you cried infront of your girlfriend doesn't mean it is love. Love is a hard thing to explain and only you will know. If you think it might be love than it's probably not. You will know, and you will know for sure.

As for the crying and expression of emotions. It's healthy, and even the hairiest of men need to get them out once in a while. Don't go on some blubber fest, but if you need to shed a tear than do it.

 

[Dannyrt34]

Crying is alright in front of a girl, but not for THOSE reasons.

For one, what the hell are you guys arguing about?
I hope you have a good reason to continuously break up with her. If these arguments start because of you being insecure and jealous, then I'm sorry to say I hope she leaves you.

If these arguments start because she's betraying you, then why on earth do you get back together?

If these arguments start over something silly, then you need to take a step back and learn to just relax, and have more fun. Relationships aren't fun if you argue over stupid things.

You said so yourself that "You don't know why you say things you don't mean." So stop it! You are worried about crying in front of her when meanwhile you can avoid the whole situation just by not saying these things you don't mean to say.

So you need to really look at these reasons of your arguments and ask yourself:
Are these arguments really necessary?

Then you need to take action and change how you handle yourself in these situations.

And the whole crying thing, quit crying over things you started. It's ok to cry in front of a girl if your dog died or something, that only shows that you are HUMAN. If you really love her and don't want to hurt her, then start showing her! (And not by crying)

Tell her: "I realize I've been saying things that I truely don't mean and I'll do my best not to let it happen again. Now let's go rent some movies!"

That's it then don't bring it up anymore.

Leave it at that and try to make the relationship fun, how it should be.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

ever herd of a girl refering to her man as "her rock"

think about it for a minute.

men act like men, not like women.

Seems to me that the OP is barely a pebble.

 

[6-heads lewis]

bozo the clown (you) <================> dead fukn serious (suge knight)

try and work your way into the middle somewhere

 

[ValleyDJing]

ok but once in a lifetime you need to show what you really feel..

Sounds like you got it all figured out...why are you asking for responses?

I haven't cried in front of a girl since like Kindergarten when I scraped my knees. I haven't cried period (even by myself) in like over 3 years and that was only because EVERYTHING in my life was going wrong (aunt died, another aunt diagnosed with cancer, best friend moved away, dog died, cut from the basketball team, school was extremely difficult, and everything else you could imagine).

I wouldn't say she was the AFC. Guys shouldn't be crying unless a family member dies or he is in excruciating pain. Thats my opinion. That makes you the AFC.

 

[Candyman]

I suggest you do not do the crying thing again.

Her interest in you plummeted after this.

You now have to maintain congruence with your previous ahole frame before she will believe you are the man she thought you were.

No matter what anyone says, women are turned off by crying men (unless it the funeral of his mother or for their dog who died from cancer or was hit by a car.)

Women cry. Men kill things.

That’s true but I still got the control of everything she has tested me a lil just to make sure I still the man and I have noticed them all.
I still the same I never call her for anything if she wants to know about me she is the one that has to call me to see what im doing.
OH and with this girl I have done things in bed that most of the guys here will be like WHAT... lil by lil I put a lil aggressiveness in the early stages of the relationship until she got used to it now she likes it and today I made sure she wont forget who is in control the first time she was coming I slapped her twice so hard and dominate the hell out of her like always that drove her crazy...so she knows who is in charge.

 

[Phat]

lol..how cute

 

[Centaurion]

The only time I would even consider crying would be if I got in some kind of an accident and got my legs and arms ripped off. Then, maybe....just maybe...a tear or two would run down my eyes. I wouldn't cry for anything short of that.

I'm totally serious.

And crying like a little whiny b!tch together with your gf, just goes to show how much of a whiny little b!tch you are.

 

[ObieJuan]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=120342

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

So what you guys think about crying in front of your gf is that real love?????

Yes. Because real love is defned by the amount of estrogen and tears you are filled with. Not for the bond you have formed with another person.

Didn't you get the memo?


Real love: http://members.cox.net/scribeokc/graphics/crying_baby.jpg
Fake love: http://www.mmpcharity.org/images/MotherTeresaNewHope.jpg