"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SamTheHobit

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Back story.

Met her at a club interest was through the roof.

First "date" - Interest was very high, made out with her at the end of the night.

second "date" - Kinda felt attraction was slipping on her part, kissed her a couple times held hands.

Then this happend today.

Sam - Kirsty, what say we catch a movie this weekend.

kirsty - Hey dude sorry didn't have my phone with me today

kirsty - I actually got back with my ex

http://imgur.com/X44fEQ9

I'm not even gonna reply to this haha
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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joker79

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you were the rebound. Not your fault bro, the other guy has a stronger emotional connection with her and she decided to go back. Things won't work out with him though, be ready to catch her back in case you want(with a relaxed and alpha attitude). In the meantime improve yourself and date other chicks.
 

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Well they will always be in a position of power if you think that they are so great. Treat them like dogs and you'll be much happier. Actually dogs will make you happier than women will.
 

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You need to spin more plates man.

I'm telling you.. the man should always care LESS than the woman! This is possibly the most important DJ rule. If you care more than her, you have lost the game.

As a man you should not be hunting for a soul mate. Especially at age 20. You should be looking strictly for FUN and SEX. Just sport f*ck women who you find attractive. Don't over-think it, don't try to bond with them, don't do sh!t besides flirting and f*cking. Trust me. Some of these women will want a relationship with you because you don't give a sh!t. A man who doesn't care has options and a man with options has value. That's female math for you. :yes:

So stop caring and start f*cking. Women your age don't give a sh!t anyway. These are the c0ck carousel years. They all want to get drunk and pounded into a mattress by a different guy every week. Why are you crying over these skanks? :crackup:

skinnyguy said:
Well they will always be in a position of power if you think that they are so great. Treat them like dogs and you'll be much happier. Actually dogs will make you happier than women will.
Is that really you skinnyguy?

This is a solid post. :up:
 

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"haha this is embarassing, sorry about the last text. I sent this to the wrong Kirsty"

No but ignoring her was the best move, good job. Forget about her, she never existed.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Thanks for the posts guys. I plan to go and pick up girls tomorrow.

Looks like playerman is right looking for any kind of relationship with todays women is a fools errand. :down:
 

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skinnyguy said:
Well they will always be in a position of power if you think that they are so great. Treat them like dogs and you'll be much happier. Actually dogs will make you happier than women will.
Totally agree man.
 

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PlayHer Man said:
You need to spin more plates man.

I'm telling you.. the man should always care LESS than the woman! This is possibly the most important DJ rule. If you care more than her, you have lost the game.

As a man you should not be hunting for a soul mate. Especially at age 20. You should be looking strictly for FUN and SEX. Just sport f*ck women who you find attractive. Don't over-think it, don't try to bond with them, don't do sh!t besides flirting and f*cking. Trust me. Some of these women will want a relationship with you because you don't give a sh!t. A man who doesn't care has options and a man with options has value. That's female math for you. :yes:

So stop caring and start f*cking. Women your age don't give a sh!t anyway. These are the c0ck carousel years. They all want to get drunk and pounded into a mattress by a different guy every week. Why are you crying over these skanks? :crackup:



Is that really you skinnyguy?

This is a solid post. :up:

hey playerman, so if you talk to chicks in a way that you just wanna hook up and **** em, that's better? i thought women didnt like men that just wanted to **** them because then you're too easy and doing what all other guys do? that's what they always complain about anyways
 

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Triple...they complain about it because the guy who is blunt and overt with his desire does not give her tingles and she feels insulted a non attractive guy wants to have sex with her. Or, she is caught off guard and reacts without processing it...to which you passing her reaction (**** test) will let her process it as either a good or bad thing. Or, because she knows that guy is not playing by her rules and is putting the choice of sex in his hands. In other words, she complains because she isn't getting it her way, which actually shows her he is not like other guys, as in if she does not comply with his sexual advance he easily walks...and that messes with them :up:
 

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Night-hawk said:
Or, because she knows that guy is not playing by her rules and is putting the choice of sex in his hands. In other words, she complains because she isn't getting it her way, which actually shows her he is not like other guys, as in if she does not comply with his sexual advance he easily walks...and that messes with them :up:
BINGO

:up: :up:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Wait a minute..I thought you weren't settling for anything less than a pristine virgin?
 

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JoeMarron said:
Wait a minute..I thought you weren't settling for anything less than a pristine virgin?
Yep. So no big deal at the end of the day
 

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SamTheHobit said:
Back story.

Met her at a club interest was through the roof.

First "date" - Interest was very high, made out with her at the end of the night.

second "date" - Kinda felt attraction was slipping on her part, kissed her a couple times held hands.

Then this happend today.

Sam - Kirsty, what say we catch a movie this weekend.

kirsty - Hey dude sorry didn't have my phone with me today

kirsty - I actually got back with my ex

http://imgur.com/X44fEQ9

I'm not even gonna reply to this haha
Don't beat yourself up too bad, man. Women can be very cold so it's best to have a cold mental state of mind when dealing with them. That way, you're not phased when they flake or pull something like this. Anyway, at least she was honest about it from the start rather than leading you on.
 

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Yep. So no big deal at the end of the day
If you can kiss lips that have most likely been wrapped around another man's d!ck then is it really a big deal to have sex with her?
 

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You're caring too much but I can relate. If you weren't trying to escalate then why? Take things as far as you can. Also spin plates.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Night-hawk said:
Triple...they complain about it because the guy who is blunt and overt with his desire does not give her tingles and she feels insulted a non attractive guy wants to have sex with her. Or, she is caught off guard and reacts without processing it...to which you passing her reaction (**** test) will let her process it as either a good or bad thing. Or, because she knows that guy is not playing by her rules and is putting the choice of sex in his hands. In other words, she complains because she isn't getting it her way, which actually shows her he is not like other guys, as in if she does not comply with his sexual advance he easily walks...and that messes with them :up:

so you're saying, when a guy goes in with a 'i wanna **** you and that's all i really care about' attitude he is basically saying to the woman:

-no i don't care about your whiny ****ty problems
-if you say no, i'll just hit on another girl
-you not that special to me, i can find another girl tbh
-why would i waste MY time trying to get to know you and all that boring stuff when i can fufill my sexual needs elsewhere?

and the girl eventually see's you as an option (never as a friend), if you play your cards right, plus if she says no, she runs the risk seeing you pull another girl to **** which will piss her off and make you seem cooler and higher value because she will feel she is missing out on something special because for some strange reason these girls want to **** you, so you must be of value

am i correct?
 

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JoeMarron said:
If you can kiss lips that have most likely been wrapped around another man's d!ck then is it really a big deal to have sex with her?
For me It's never been about the physical aspect, its been about how it destroys them spiritually and emotionally.

But you're right. If I don't pursue relationships anymore , given if she's attractive enough I might fvck a non virgin.
 

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check this very nice guide about how to deal with women, and like "Play_her_men" already told: try to look not interested in her, stuffs really works on that way. So it is usually for first time(s) hard to do this, but when you learn how to "act" not-interested-in-you-baby and "feel" first "results" everything will pretty clear to you. And why stuffs works on that way? Who knows! Women simply has different brain than we or something like that :)
 

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SamTheHobit said:
Back story.

Met her at a club interest was through the roof.

First "date" - Interest was very high, made out with her at the end of the night.

second "date" - Kinda felt attraction was slipping on her part, kissed her a couple times held hands.

Then this happend today.

Sam - Kirsty, what say we catch a movie this weekend.

kirsty - Hey dude sorry didn't have my phone with me today

kirsty - I actually got back with my ex

http://imgur.com/X44fEQ9

I'm not even gonna reply to this haha
So what OP, at least you have gotten laid with a hottie before I assume
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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