"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I just cannot seem to do it....

ItsOnNow

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I can' push myself to go out there and get it done for whatever reason. If i keep doing this to myself,I'm gonna go nuts. I have already gone nuts. Reading about all this stuff probably doesn't help much either. I dont know if its low self esteem,lack of self confidence,self sabotage,or whatever. The stuff on this site,and the seduction base site,its opened my eyes for both good and bad,yet I dont know why,I cannot seem to find it in myself. How can I stop it? How can be the person I want to be and do the the things I want to do?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jack McCrack

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Maybe you're putting too much pressure on yourself?
 

Evolution

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ItsOnNow said:
I can' push myself to go out there and get it done for whatever reason. If i keep doing this to myself,I'm gonna go nuts. I have already gone nuts. Reading about all this stuff probably doesn't help much either. I dont know if its low self esteem,lack of self confidence,self sabotage,or whatever. The stuff on this site,and the seduction base site,its opened my eyes for both good and bad,yet I dont know why,I cannot seem to find it in myself. How can I stop it? How can be the person I want to be and do the the things I want to do?
Its all of the above. You need to stop ranting about how crappy your life is, because chances are your better off than a lot of people right now.

The reason why your life isn't where you want it to be, is that you do not have a strong idea of what you want in life, or a number of silly things. You have to actually make the effort to go towards what you want.

The more you stall and waste time, the more "depressed" you will become. I suggest you read the DJ bible, or better yet some of "David DeAngelo's" material. I suggest "How to be a Man" and "DYD:Mastery". This should blow out many of your bad beliefs, and get you back on your feet.
 

DonJuan11

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ItsOnNow said:
I can' push myself to go out there and get it done for whatever reason. If i keep doing this to myself,I'm gonna go nuts. I have already gone nuts. Reading about all this stuff probably doesn't help much either. I dont know if its low self esteem,lack of self confidence,self sabotage,or whatever. The stuff on this site,and the seduction base site,its opened my eyes for both good and bad,yet I dont know why,I cannot seem to find it in myself. How can I stop it? How can be the person I want to be and do the the things I want to do?
Put the ego aside and grow some conjones. It's a good thing they didn't send you off to Iraq to fight.
 

Interceptor

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It's because there are a couple of factors hiolding you back, and you lack the tools and perspective to deal with them right now.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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