She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
fuzzx said:Goto a club and you'll see TONS of guys who are sitting in the back wondering why the 20,000 hours they spent in the gym isn't attracting girls. Its all about Game.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I tried to look at that but couldn't as I was too distracted looking at this: http://www.t-nation.com/avatar_images/9/6/96361.JPGQuiksilver said:Here's an example of a physique that is simply beyond reach for most people, for reasons like lack of dedication/fear of food/fear of fat/fear of lifting heavy/genetics.
(Scroll down to 2nd and 4th post)
http://www.t-nation.com/free_online_forum/pictures_pics_photo_body_image_performance/all_powerlifters_are_fatties
He's not exactly a "roided out monster" but he's got a substantial amount of muscle. Simply put, you more than likely will never get close to a body like this, so stop worrying that what you're doing could make you huge.
Quiksilver said:http://img.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2007/08_01/willisMATRIX_468x669.jpg
You want to look like that??
And get real dude, to get big naturally(no roids) takes 8-15 years at LEAST. You're tossing that around like it's easy to do, and that guys should aim a little lower.
Here's an example of a physique that is simply beyond reach for most people, for reasons like lack of dedication/fear of food/fear of fat/fear of lifting heavy/genetics.
(Scroll down to 2nd and 4th post)
http://www.t-nation.com/free_online_forum/pictures_pics_photo_body_image_performance/all_powerlifters_are_fatties
He's not exactly a "roided out monster" but he's got a substantial amount of muscle. Simply put, you more than likely will never get close to a body like this, so stop worrying that what you're doing could make you huge.
IMO there's only one track to be on to gaining muscle and losing fat. If you're aiming to have a body like 'brad pitt' you should still be doing the same basic things as the guy who's benching 700lbs and has more muscle weight on his frame than brad pitt weighs in total. The only thing that should differ is the amount of food you eat, the amount of cardio you do, and how heavy you lift.
To think ..."Look at those huge and ripped guys, I don't want to be like them so I won't do what they do"... is just misguided and poor logic.
The principles are the same: lift progressively heavier weights, do cardio, eat protein-dense diet. The factors that determine whether you get "roided up" or not are 1) how much food you put in your mouth 2) genetics.
You can control #1, not #2. So the only thing you have to think about in order to either look like brad pitt or look like dave gulledge is how many calories you eat(assuming you're eating a good high protein diet).
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
And who is doing this?WORKEROUTER said:not sitting in your bedroom looking at yourself in a mirror all night.