DarwinTaurus
Senior Don Juan
Thanks for the encouragement; greatly appreciated.Your doing awesome man.. One step at a time.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Thanks for the encouragement; greatly appreciated.Your doing awesome man.. One step at a time.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Meditation works
You described this well.. I was a smoker in my teens.. I quit.. now smoking is something I find disgusting.This thread reminds me of when I stopped eating red meat and pork 5 years ago. Everybody asked me if I missed a good steak or burger and to be honest after about 2 to 3 months I had no craving for it again. I used to love a great juicy steak or burger but now just the thought of eating one makes me turned off and disgusted by it. The craving is completely gone. It sounds like quitting porn is the same way.
This is a great explanation.I think there is a sound scientific basis for no-fap increasing a man's attractiveness. The first reason is increased testosterone levels. Women perceive this subconsciously and respond to it. It works with Testosterone Replacement Therapy (TRT), but I think it is stronger with naturally increased levels of T. I think there are a number of secondary hormones that are optimized with naturally high T that provoke a better response from women than TRT.
Besides TRT, I think it's primarily a matter of body language. A single man who has not fapped and who has to meet and seduce a new woman to get sexual release has an energy and drive that shows up in his body language. It's not something you can consciously achieve.
It just appears in your body language, and women respond to this killer instinct subconsciously.
I think it is scientific fact that no-fap will affect the way women perceive you, and the difference is attractive to them.
I have been holding the nut for 9 days and I’m noticing an uptick of locking eyes with chicks, I usually smirk and not look away, forcing her to break eye contact first.
These are animalistic dominance tests-she is seeing if you are more dominant than her. This is a contest she wants you to win.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
How to you feel overall on 4 weeks SR?Yesterday I had a massage at the gym, she was very skilled and worked very hard to my tight back but then decided to do my legs too.
When she lifted my underwear to uncover the leg I almost jizzed on myself given the amount of energy I have from not releasing in 4 weeks.
There is a point that it becomes a necessity more than a pleasure.
I only eat red meat in front of hot girls, they dig it.This thread reminds me of when I stopped eating red meat and pork 5 years ago. Everybody asked me if I missed a good steak or burger and to be honest after about 2 to 3 months I had no craving for it again. I used to love a great juicy steak or burger but now just the thought of eating one makes me turned off and disgusted by it. The craving is completely gone. It sounds like quitting porn is the same way.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
D@mn, bro! That´s some Next Level Monk Mode stuff. You have probably developed super-powers by now or something5 weeks? Talk to me when you get to 8 months.
My libido is not as high as other guys since forever or maybe it's just my tolerance to bs to be much lower but I can handle it even tough I wouldnt mind to bang some decent looking young girl.How to you feel overall on 4 weeks SR?
It was a few years ago. I felt no different, in fact pretty shvtty. I did, admittedly, "peek" at porn sometimes during that. However, my 2nd and 3rd longest streaks of 5 and 3 months respectively were completely porn-free and I didn't feel any different either, in fact I was miserable, and obsessive.D@mn, bro! That´s some Next Level Monk Mode stuff. You have probably developed super-powers by now or something
I’m riding on that wavelength as well. You walk with a smooth limp and a poker face that will shoot right through her.This is a great explanation.
I find the way I walk and talk these days, feels different.
I have this extra air of confidence, which probably shows itself in my body language and with my solid eye contact.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I use a gel for sensationHonest question,
Does no nut help you to do multiple rounds? I only imagine it takes away doing diddly squat because the sensation would send me into outer space if I’ve hadn’t released for a week.
Also, any tips on lasting multiple rounds appreciated as posters here say they can last 3+
Yesterday I had a massage at the gym, she was very skilled and worked very hard to my tight back but then decided to do my legs too.
When she lifted my underwear to uncover the leg I almost jizzed on myself given the amount of energy I have from not releasing in 4 weeks.
There is a point that it becomes a necessity more than a pleasure.
Yes, the first time I banged a chick was after around 6 weeks of semen retention & I didn't last aslong as I normally would, that's because your cawk us super sensitive.Did nofap have any effect on the duration of your actual s*x dates? I could imagine that one doesn't last that long if you practice semen retention for such a long time!?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.