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I haven’t had s3x in over half a year…and I don’t miss it

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It’s in the title; I’ve started a new job and my side carreer has really taken off, so I’ve only been on a few first dates (didn’t turn into seconds), but I realised I’m not missing s3x and that I haven’t been too h0rny anyways
 

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Relax, this isn’t Club Penguin. You can say sex on here.
Why do you feel there aren’t further dates after the first?
 

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It’s in the title; I’ve started a new job and my side carreer has really taken off, so I’ve only been on a few first dates (didn’t turn into seconds), but I realised I’m not missing s3x and that I haven’t been too h0rny anyways
That's just your body coming to the conclusion that since you so rarely have sex, you will not be a breeder for your genetic line, and it is shutting down your libido so you can go WorkMax for your relatives that are breeding.
 

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That's just your body coming to the conclusion that since you so rarely have sex, you will not be a breeder for your genetic line, and it is shutting down your libido so you can go WorkMax for your relatives that are breeding.
I’m absolutely not working for anyone else but for myself. I love what I do and it drives me forward to try to get better at it every day and make a great future for myself. And yeah, my libido likely went down a bit now that I’m in my mid 30’s, but going to the gym regularly has helped in that regard a bit as well as providing other benefits in the usual areas.
 

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Male sexlessness has been increasing in the last 10-15 years. See 2019 and 2022 articles about male sexlessness.

2019


2022

 

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I love what I do and it drives me forward to try to get better at it every day and make a great future for myself.
That's sounds so nice and lovely, but to what end? Make all the money? To what end?

What's the purpose of all of that if you don't have nobody to share it with?

You say you don't need sex? Okay, do you want sex? Don't you wanna feel the warm of her body and her soft skin close yours? What happens if she's fun? With the same liking? Its like you're getting married but someone to live new and exciting experiences.

I'm new to this forum and I've seen a lot of bravado and copes from people. The person not interested in sex would not have posted in a forum like this.

Have you checked your test levels? Maybe your estradiol is through the roof and you're turning into a woman.
 

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We get these posts from time to time from guys who say they no longer care about sex. If that is true and you are enjoying life without it then I say good for you. I do find myself suspicious that it is more likely that it is due to not having a lot of success and simply giving up on dating -- more of a MGTOW type thing. Healthy men (assuming T-levels are good) generally are not apathetic towards sex -- they WANT sex and have a drive for it. It is biological and generally not a choice (as to the wanting sex).

OP - if you are happy then that is all that matters. I certainly have gone through periods where I haven't stopped dating/having sex but I have pumped the breaks on it to focus more on work. So I do understand that mindset -- to an extent. But I could never stop having sex altogether - but that is just me.
 

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Many years ago, I stopped watching porn & masturbating. It was a great decision & ive kept that going.

I used to get anxious if I went 2-3 weeks without sex. I can go a little longer than that now but I need sex to function properly. 2 months is about the longest I can go without significant mental health affects.

Regular sex also keeps me from desiring to watch porn or masturbate.
 

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I think we're talking about two different things that may seem the same.

1)The desire to have sex.

2)The desire to have sex at the current conditions.

Imagine a camel that drinks so much on monday that he wont be drinking any for the rest of the week.

Well that's basically how many guys deal with their sex life.

Those who read me here know that I'm heavy on location, which means that when I find myself in an environment where women are not of my taste or demand too much for that they offer, I simply drop sex altogether till I move to greener pasture.

I believe many guys that are not getting laid for months either made a cost-benefit ratio and decided it was not worth the price or realize what they had available to them in terms of chances and decided that the rate of return per investment was negative.

There are places I go out every night and spend thousands of euros monthly while others where I dont even log on social dating nor leave the house on weekend.
 

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Many years ago, I stopped watching porn & masturbating. It was a great decision & ive kept that going.

I used to get anxious if I went 2-3 weeks without sex. I can go a little longer than that now but I need sex to function properly. 2 months is about the longest I can go without significant mental health affects.

Regular sex also keeps me from desiring to watch porn or masturbate.
In my matrix days (not long ago LOL) I had a fwb that sex with her was not enjoyable (so I thought) I was living the fantasy of porn, you know doing all naughty things, like hitting her, talking dirty, I enjoy pron more that being with a woman.

After I unplugged I stopped pron, dude I'm telling it took me a month to start feeling pleasure from a woman, to maintain it hard, it was all in my mind, after that, I enjoy sex, I get its not like the fantasy of pron, but its much better, its real and I get to talk dirty and try new things.

And whenever I'm horny, I prefer a woman over pron, I want sex and I like the hugging and pillow talk after.

I see it like enjoying working, there are few days I don't want it, but 90% I want it cause I enjoy it.

The difference in my plugged days I needed it cause I felt validated by sex. I know I made this post about me, but I want to know if this is how it suppose to be, an enjoyable activity like every other one.
 

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No big deal, OP.

You know what would be a bigger deal? You or someone 100% focused on chasing women with the occasional lay at the expense of career, money, health, pride, and on and on. Way too many guys fall into this category. Too much chasing women and chasing sex comes at a huge price for most guys.

You may want to consider though whether you're being too picky on your dates. No one is prefect including you. Keep that in mind.

You want sex? Hop on Seeking.com. There are 100's of girls out there close to you who will play porn star for drinks, apps, laughs. Some may want a small donation to their schooling which would probably be less than you taking some girl out for a legit dinner and drinks or to an event. Many won't even want that, so if you have any game at all and are decent looking and in shape, you can bang them by just showing them a good time (I've bedded many chicks off the site without "paying" for sex). These sites are huge right now. Just saying.

Good luck.
 

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It’s in the title; I’ve started a new job and my side carreer has really taken off, so I’ve only been on a few first dates (didn’t turn into seconds), but I realised I’m not missing s3x and that I haven’t been too h0rny anyways
Watch out for the monkey pox if you switch sides.

 

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Others, including myself have gone longer than that. I have gone 8 years. Six months is nothing.
That's a long time. Kind of scary actually.

... I’m not missing s3x and that I haven’t been too h0rny anyways
I find when I take myself out of the game and focus on other things, sex becomes less important but it still lurks on the periphery. But when I am in the game or talking to women, my loins come alive. You might consider your testosterone and anything your doing which might be counterproductive to your testosterone levels.
 

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That's just your body coming to the conclusion that since you so rarely have sex, you will not be a breeder for your genetic line, and it is shutting down your libido so you can go WorkMax for your relatives that are breeding.
Not far from the truth...the body shuts down that which it doesn't need to maintain. In some ways it is incredibly lazy, in other ways it always is looking to balance limited resources to make the best use of them. Your T levels are probably shot to hell from lack of sex.
 
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