"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I have trouble kinoing when not flirting or talking about sex

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starfishandcoffee

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Randomly invited an acquaintance out with me and my guy last night. We got touchy-feely right off the bat, he sensed this, and made up an excuse to get out of there.

Continued great (e.g. - my hand on her ass, me shoving her into a snowbank, etc.) but then when we left the second bar to chat in private somewhere, we started discussing stuff like family and music -- none of which is especially "sexy" subject matter, and I completely stopped kinoing and escalating. (I ended up inviting her back to my place and we had coffee - all well and good, but all we did was have a very, very long conversation about unsexy stuff like music and video games.)

It hit me right after I walked her out to her car -- anything that isn't idle sex chatter makes me into a eunuch. Should I have closed the deal, then concentrated on getting to know her?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ARrocket

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starfishandcoffee said:
It hit me right after I walked her out to her car -- anything that isn't idle sex chatter makes me into a eunuch. Should I have closed the deal, then concentrated on getting to know her?
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Yes.

You took your foot off the gas, and it cost you. You had momentum going, so you always strike while the iron is hot.

The title of your thread strikes me as odd. I think the mindset of "I am not flirting with this girl" is pretty weird. Flirting isn't a conscious decision IMO...it is simply having fun. You always wanna be a fun guy. You can turn even mundane topics into something fun.

"Oh, you play soccer? I bet I'd kick your ass!" (while poking or something like that). Keep things light and interesting, and don't ****block yourself like you just did.
 
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"No guts, no glory" is as true with regards to kinoing as it is in playing poker and gold mining.

Grab her by the arm or the back of the neck, or punch her. Because you aren't afraid to touch her.

Then you can get all R Kelly on her later.
 
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Well use your hands to demonstrate a point. Whatever you're talking about, try to gesticulate more, and when applicable, you can turn it into playful touching. Think about French people, they talk with their hands all the time ;)
 
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