"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I have trouble expressing myself

Gammergq

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I feel like I have a emo personality I get really depressed and emotionally attached to my love interests and generally depressed about the world, I don't know how to express myself at time I have charm but most times I feel awkard in conversations and living a lonely life dreaming about unrelistic hope and love interests. You guys probable want be able to help me but I guess I need some encouragement right now I just feel low.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LAWYER

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Gammergq said:
I feel like I have a emo personality I get really depressed and emotionally attached to my love interests and generally depressed about the world, I don't know how to express myself at time I have charm but most times I feel awkard in conversations and living a lonely life dreaming about unrelistic hope and love interests. You guys probable want be able to help me but I guess I need some encouragement right now I just feel low.

try prescription!!! jk your grow out of it.
 

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LAWYER said:
try prescription!!! jk your grow out of it.
Wow, that's like the worst advice ever.

Write out a list of the things you think you need to improve on and then how you can improve them. Then try your best to take action. It may be difficult to judge yourself but it'll be worth it eventually.
 

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the best thing is to learn not to give a f*** i used to have the same problems during my early childhood and finally i just let go. now i can honestly say i live a dream. this is something YOU have to do but it's best to just let go... tell yourself before dating a girl that shes not the one for you and that she is practice i know it seems cruel but when the lust stage ends you wont be fooled by your feelings and you'll be more likely to know if you really love her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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