"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I do believe today was a relatively AFCish day for me. My girl has been a little distant past couple days, and I feel that I sounded a little too needy. I texted her a couple times, called her once, kept IM'ing her telling her to call me. Yes, out of character for me.

I'm thinking that today, Thursday, I will only talk to her if she contacts me. Possibly ignore her completely just for today. Tomorrow, resume what I was doing before my AFC move, in an attempt to wipe the "clingy day" from rememberance.

If she continues to be distant, then I believe this may call for a Next.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How long do you think?
 

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dont next her to early, Gs will only next you if their interest level gets below 50, so i think right now, her interest rate may have droped, but if you still like her, you can save your relationship by getting her on an very interesting date very very soon to get her interest rate up again.
 

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DO NOT CONTACT HER AGAIN

until you see her again in person...but then you may have given her the confidence that you like her a lot, so if you don't contact her at all, she will come to you soon
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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isnt it weird how we trip without even realizing it, until we're a few days into it and we all of a suddenly wake up and ask what the hell am i doing, only its too late.
 

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I planned on taking her to this big arcade thing. It's got a buffet, arcade games, bumper cars, go karts, minigolf, minibowling etc.

Tough part is just getting her to forget about the fact that it costs money. I got no problem paying, since I'll be using most of it anyways.
 

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Man just go and have fun. If she's ignoring you and you think something is up, be upfront. Then if your suspicions are confirmed, next her. Don't play this guessing game.
 

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Yeah man, what's a relationship without trust and bond? I'm going to use the advices that others here gave me:

Flirt with other girls, ESPECIALLY in front of her! It'll give you the persona that you're threatening her that you'll move on if she doesn't decide on screwing her head on right and come back to you. I
n addition, if you'd like to, confront her about this, because with my last girl, I just brought what I had in mind that bothered me to her, and after the talk it feels more relieving. DONT get all angry and insecure when you bring up the reasons why she's so distant and everything. Even if she gets angry at you, try your best to be not angry, but be assertive and let her know that you're not taking that bullcrap.
 

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Oh believe me, I'm not getting sucked into the one-itis deal. I flirt, no problem. Thats never been an issue.

I'm just going to give it a couple days. Let her realize that her life is sh*t without me. I plan on going to an arena football game saturday night. Haven't been to a football game in a LONG time. I miss that stuff.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well I caved in tonight. Too many of my female friends were tossing in their 2 cents. Turns out nothing was 'wrong' but since we won't be seeing eachother very much the next few weeks, she thought it best to take a "break" until she gets her license. I thought that her losing interest would bum me out, but it's a sort of relief. I can now continue to work other girls without wondering why I don't feel guilty, and I now have a challenge to see if I can regain that interest that is seemingly being lost.

She is down for being friends with benefits though, more than enough for me to slip my way back in, unless another girl catches my eye.
 
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