Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
As tempted as I am to make an exception for Friv and his girlfriend (he knows I am as conservative as he is liberal), this is crap. If a chick starts going on about feminism to me or pro-abortion or gay marriage or some other garbage, I'm going to disagree, and if she doesn't like it, she can buzz off.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I have never came across a chick who brings up feminism to me or anything like that. Maybe you should talk about more interesting things in your conversations so that topic doesn't come up. I can suggest some books for that, if you're interested.
I'm an anti-feminist, and I like to ask men what their view on feminism is just to see if they'll feed me a line of sh*t just to avoid offending me. You wouldn't believe how many men will hem and haw and tip toe around that question. After their blood pressure goes down a bit I like to ask if they're circumcised or not. I've found these are very good methods to find out just how honest a guy is along with how well he's able to handle himself outside of his comfort zone. If a guy can't pull those two questions off confidently there is no way he can provide his side of the level of conversation necessary to hold my interest.Originally posted by DrMetallica
I have never came across a chick who brings up feminism to me or anything like that. Maybe you should talk about more interesting things in your conversations so that topic doesn't come up. I can suggest some books for that, if you're interested.
Besides, what is pro-abortion? I don't think anyone is pro-abortion. Pro-choice, maybe, but you have to be pretty f*cked up to believe in pro-abortion
Interesting.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
If you appologise you hand over the power to her. Women aren't good with power that's why they don't run countries and they didn't build empires. So don't give her the power in the realationship it can only lead to disaster.Originally posted by frivolousz21
thanks, you seem like a normal person...
this entire thread was created because I made her cry because I said MEAN things on accident..I got carried away...and i wanted to know if a sorry or maybe a rose was in order.
then i get called a pyssy!
wow
Hey, I hate to tell you this:
The man is meant to dominate the relationship it is in our nature. Social conditioning teaches us things like co-dependency and social conditioning is dangerous. What do you think causes men to become AFC’s?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.