"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I have this problem... And it makes me attractive to women.

Stryker

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Well, let me try and clarify this...

I have this problem where if I start chatting to someone I genuinely like, then I'll focus all my energy on that one woman- usually this pays off (persistence is actually effective, within reason), but if not, no harm done, move on.

What I've noticed however, is that because I'm so focused on one woman, I'll become completely indifferent to every other woman. Sure, I'll still flirt and have fun, but my attention will return to the lady of my desires.

Turns out that this indifference is incredibly attractive to women. Just as I am relishing the challenge of trying to get one woman, all of a sudden several other women suddenly see me as a challenge, one in which they will try desperately to conquer, purely because I don't give them the attention they desire after the initial flirty exchange.

This has gone on for a while, but I've only recently started to take notice and, dare I say, take advantage. Is this wrong of me? Nope, I don't think so. What I'm saying is that indifference is powerful, really powerful. If you flirt with a woman to the point where she's really enjoying your company, then suddenly take the attention away for a stretch of time, it'll drive her mad, and don't be surprised if she starts getting in contact with you frequently. I was just too dense to realise for a while!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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adam225

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Yeah this is it lol. If they know that you're too good for them, and that you have NO interest in them, then they do all the work for you. All what you need to do is sit back an enjoy the show (and play around with her emotionally). The key is always being several steps ahead and knowing how to judge her well (body language, conversation, tone of voice, ect...). That way you never loose lol (not that there's anything to loose anyway).
 

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I've found this a few times with close girl friends whom I had little or no interest in. The key is trying to get to this point with women you aren't very close to, just how can you do it? If you approach a girl and take her out you can't really pull this, only really works with women you already have a foundation with
 

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This is why I always say SPIN PLATES --> Women are like sheep.

Once one woman approves of you.. many others will follow. Women can't think for themselves. So spin plates and you will have an easy breezy supply of sex. :up:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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