"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I have no wheels, and I must date!

Fa Zhou

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Greets, all! Great site and great forum!

I have a bit of a situation. I do not own a car. I live within an easy walk of work and store, and use public transportation like the bus or a ride from a friend/family member when the bus isn't convenient.

Am I dead in the water, or can I somehow turn this to my advantage?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Just meet up at places....much preferred for a first date anyway

What girl who had this strange guy ask for her number on the street is actually going to want him to know where she lives?

Hamno
 

nectarine

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It's a handicap, but if you're in easy public transport range of town you can overcome it. Still, fix it as soon as possible anyway. A man needs a ride.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Fa Zhou
Bellevue, Washington.
Ever hear of a town called Manhattan? Living proof that having an active dating live without owning a car is possible.
 

DumpaLumpagus

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Ever hear of a town called Manhattan? Living proof that having an active dating live without owning a car is possible.
True, but many places within the U.S. are just so suburban, with giant housing plots that stretch for miles in every direction, with the occasional mini-mall. For lack of a better word, boring. That's why I asked. Manhattan or another big city seems like a great idea because there's culture and it's within walking distance. I don't know about Bellevue, but DJing without a car if you live in the 'burbs just doesn't live up to it's potential.
 

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I don't have a car anymore... I use to go on dates all of the time. But now i'm a broke college student. I rarely date, but I talk to more girls now. I pretty much i just ride around with friends. If i find a bunch of girls that are sexy, i'll just hit up my friends and set some **** up. For 1v1's i tell them to come by my pad and pick me up. :) It's very possible. just run with it

Oh and btw... I live in LA
 

chancer

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Also, i use to live with a female roommate, who was crazy for this guy who didn't have a car. She'd drive 30 mins away, pick him up, and bring him back to the pad, and you know the rest... (HB9)

Dating can be overrated... you don't always have to spend money. Just go hang out and have fun. If she's interested, she'll come back.

So grab your balls, get some numbers or go do something when you meet them. And work with what you have.
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Ever hear of a town called Manhattan? Living proof that having an active dating live without owning a car is possible.
I used to live in the city. A car is more of a liabilty than an asset there. Metro card and knowing what train take is all you need. Unfortunately not all cities have such an effective mass transit system in place. I would list Manhattan as a special case along with a few other large metro cities with competent mass transit systems in place.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Fa Zhou

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First up, car situation is getting fixed.

Next, Bellevue is rather suburbia. Plus there are places outside of Bellevue I'd like to sarge at too.

The real kicker is going out for drinks and getting a ride home with my sister :mad: :rolleyes: instead of the gal I wanted to. Having my own ride in that particular circumstance (she was riding with a friend too) would have been much better.
 

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meet girls who use the same form of transportation you do... girls on the bus etc.

for a while all i had was a motorcycle and i thought it was hindering my ability... however girls don't really seem to care at all about picking you up for a date. of course if they dont like you its a different story. i find if i meet my date somewhere and we head off on an adventure of some sort we usually dont follow eachother in our separate cars. its no big deal really. besides in 5 years, not having a car will be a desirable feature in men. women will assume men who dont have to buy gas are millionaires.
 

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If I were you I would lie. Make up a story about how you have some rare disease and the doctors don't know what is going to happen to you in the near future. Discuss what it is like to have a really terrible seizure (like there is a good seizure :p) What do you studs think about pulling the old pity trick?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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NYtomb

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Originally posted by LittleElf
If I were you I would lie. Make up a story about how you have some rare disease and the doctors don't know what is going to happen to you in the near future. Discuss what it is like to have a really terrible seizure (like there is a good seizure :p) What do you studs think about pulling the old pity trick?
Link it into the car issue somehow. If i have a seizure while driving I could lose control and kill some poor family on their way to church. This is why I dont own a car.:D
 
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