Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I have no game out here in the south

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I recently moved to Charleston from Los Angeles. Physically, I get more attention than ever. The problem is after living in such a superficial city for so long, and moving to a beach town, I can’t connect with these women once the convo starts. The people are so mellow here and I’m finding a hard time toning it down.

In Cali I was very aggressive, in order to succeed out there with girls you need to be. I feel like I need to tone it down a bit too everyone is so mellow here.

Selling my Mercedes tomorrow and getting a Jeep Wrangler so I can take up surfing. Im done with the flashy bull ****
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm not sure if it's your California personality. Charleston has a lot of locals that go back many generations. Like a lot of tourist type towns, the locals will be a bit reserved and resistant to perceived "outsiders" (those visiting or new residents) . Add to this, that it's the also south (which has its own set of backwoods culture).
 

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I recently moved to Charleston from Los Angeles. Physically, I get more attention than ever. The problem is after living in such a superficial city for so long, and moving to a beach town, I can’t connect with these women once the convo starts. The people are so mellow here and I’m finding a hard time toning it down.

In Cali I was very aggressive, in order to succeed out there with girls you need to be. I feel like I need to tone it down a bit too everyone is so mellow here.

Selling my Mercedes tomorrow and getting a Jeep Wrangler so I can take up surfing. Im done with the flashy bull ****
It is polítics. In the south u r an outsider, a yankee..and a liberal..the south is conservative. People from Up north seldom move down and southeners rarely visit the north. I personally know people who never been in an airplane or own an automobile.
Instead of a wrangler, get a 2500 gmc 4X4 or a ford 350 cumins. Do not forget the lift kit, make sure ur truck is white, but when in the city, drive tve Mustang.
 

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I can’t connect with these women once the convo starts. The people are so mellow here and I’m finding a hard time toning it down.

I feel like I need to tone it down a bit too everyone is so mellow here.
Smoke some weed before the date.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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By trying to 'fit in' you will lower your chances with women.

By standing out you will scare off some but (certainly) find the jewels locals can't dig out.
+1

You have to double down on your vibe.

Regardless of what the environment is like or how cucked and soy men are being, men must double down or get lost in the abyss.

This is not to say that some areas are not more productive than others. If you throw me in the ghetto or a leftist hell hole of single mother victimhood and identity politics, I am going to spin my wheels and rage. I won't partake.

Aaron Clareys buddy Chad Elkins lacks swag. He doesn't have the Mercedes and is overly conscientious and fiscally responsible. The use of bling and shine is a great way to get divorce raped but none won't entice female nature's hypergamy.

There's a fine line. Samuel L Jackson was eaten by a Shark in Deep Blue Sea. There's always a bigger fish man. Calibrate sway, game, seeding the above versus flaunting in ostentatious fashion in peacocking fashion. It gives women the tingles. They are moist for it but it lacks substance. Calibrate the right frequency.
 

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I recently moved to Charleston from Los Angeles. Physically, I get more attention than ever. The problem is after living in such a superficial city for so long, and moving to a beach town, I can’t connect with these women once the convo starts. The people are so mellow here and I’m finding a hard time toning it down.

In Cali I was very aggressive, in order to succeed out there with girls you need to be. I feel like I need to tone it down a bit too everyone is so mellow here.

Selling my Mercedes tomorrow and getting a Jeep Wrangler so I can take up surfing. Im done with the flashy bull ****
Instead of a Jeep, learn to ride a hog bareback.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Game travels. This is all in your head.
Yes and no. It is possible to do well in one region or country and have a more difficult time in others. This is more observable in country to country than U.S. state to state. The contiguous U.S. is larger than Western Europe.

I'm not sure if it's your California personality. Charleston has a lot of locals that go back many generations. Like a lot of tourist type towns, the locals will be a bit reserved and resistant to perceived "outsiders" (those visiting or new residents) . Add to this, that it's the also south (which has its own set of backwoods culture).
There are U.S. area known to be insular and hostile to outsiders. This is the first time I've heard of Charleston, SC being like that. I'm not surprised.

A lot of states don't like the perceived Californian invasion.
 

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Yes and no. It is possible to do well in one region or country and have a more difficult time in others. This is more observable in country to country than U.S. state to state. The contiguous U.S. is larger than Western Europe.



There are U.S. area known to be insular and hostile to outsiders. This is the first time I've heard of Charleston, SC being like that. I'm not surprised.

A lot of states don't like the perceived Californian invasion.
with brings the question, if california is so advanced and free why leave?

kinda make me remember what people posted during the last election when trump win
 

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Yes and no. It is possible to do well in one region or country and have a more difficult time in others. This is more observable in country to country than U.S. state to state. The contiguous U.S. is larger than Western Europe
Yup Had a buddy who is KILLING IT in Utah and slaying multiple chicks weekly!
Now he is in Northern California and hates it. Where you at makes a huge difference
 

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It is polítics. In the south u r an outsider, a yankee..and a liberal..the south is conservative. People from Up north seldom move down and southeners rarely visit the north. I personally know people who never been in an airplane or own an automobile.
Instead of a wrangler, get a 2500 gmc 4X4 or a ford 350 cumins. Do not forget the lift kit, make sure ur truck is white, but when in the city, drive tve Mustang.
Conservative in public...*****s behind closed doors...

Reputation is VERY big down there because women get together and gossip and you do NOT want to be the person they are talking about as a woman.

But behind closed doors, they are some of the biggest freaks ever
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Conservative in public...*****s behind closed doors...

Reputation is VERY big down there because women get together and gossip and you do NOT want to be the person they are talking about as a woman.

But behind closed doors, they are some of the biggest freaks ever
All of them aren't freaks.
 

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Yup Had a buddy who is KILLING IT in Utah and slaying multiple chicks weekly!
Now he is in Northern California and hates it. Where you at makes a huge difference
Northern California is a more toxic than average mating environment. If we are talking about Metro San Francisco, there are lots of feminists who hate men. Lots of women who aren't good looking. There are also an abundance of men in Metro San Francisco. Too many men is always bad news for a dating environment. There are a lot of Aspie tech guys in the Bay Area who simp like crazy and elevate women's demands, even if they don't choose to escalate the interaction to sexual.

I would not think of Utah as a place for slaying multiple chicks weekly. Metro Salt Lake City is a little bit looser than the rest of Utah, but even SLC is no Las Vegas or Los Angeles. As far as bigger metro areas go, it is probably one of the better mating environments if you want to find a more sustainable longer term relationship.

Another common geographical issue I've seen is guys from the New York/New Jersey area having issues outside that area, particularly out west. If you take a NY/NJ guy and put him in Denver, Phoenix, San Diego, Dallas, Houston, and other fast growing Sun Belt type cities, you'll often see a guy whose value isn't fully realized in those areas. The NY/NJ spirit and temperament isn't as common in the Sun Belt.
 

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Northern California is a more toxic than average mating environment. If we are talking about Metro San Francisco, there are lots of feminists who hate men. Lots of women who aren't good looking. There are also an abundance of men in Metro San Francisco. Too many men is always bad news for a dating environment. There are a lot of Aspie tech guys in the Bay Area who simp like crazy and elevate women's demands, even if they don't choose to escalate the interaction to sexual.

I would not think of Utah as a place for slaying multiple chicks weekly. Metro Salt Lake City is a little bit looser than the rest of Utah, but even SLC is no Las Vegas or Los Angeles. As far as bigger metro areas go, it is probably one of the better mating environments if you want to find a more sustainable longer term relationship.

Another common geographical issue I've seen is guys from the New York/New Jersey area having issues outside that area, particularly out west. If you take a NY/NJ guy and put him in Denver, Phoenix, San Diego, Dallas, Houston, and other fast growing Sun Belt type cities, you'll often see a guy whose value isn't fully realized in those areas. The NY/NJ spirit and temperament isn't as common in the Sun Belt.
I thought the same about Utah, but my buddy has a unique look and that makes him exotic plus there a bunch of colleges and it's no secret these mormon girls are freaks behind closed doors
 

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I thought the same about Utah, but my buddy has a unique look and that makes him exotic plus there a bunch of colleges and it's no secret these mormon girls are freaks behind closed doors
I was in Provo, UT for a quick bathroom stop on a road trip. Provo is the home of Brigham Young University, a strict Mormon university. The BYU Code of Conduct forbids nonmarital sex. I stopped at a Walgreens location. After using the bathroom, I took a look to see what the condoms aisle would be like there. It was a normal condoms aisle. There was a wide selection of brands and varieties of condoms.

I've heard rumors that there's a lot of porn tube site traffic in Utah.

It's entirely possible the Mormon women are freaks behind closed doors. I've never been with one.
 

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Another common geographical issue I've seen is guys from the New York/New Jersey area having issues outside that area, particularly out west. If you take a NY/NJ guy and put him in Denver, Phoenix, San Diego, Dallas, Houston, and other fast growing Sun Belt type cities, you'll often see a guy whose value isn't fully realized in those areas. The NY/NJ spirit and temperament isn't as common in the Sun Belt.
Having been to both coasts, I can definitely see this. It seems like people are the most laid back out west and the further Northeast you go, the more uptight, impatient, neurotic, stubborn, rude people seem to get. Just my observation.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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