"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Something I've noticed. I don't have approach anxiety. If a girl flakes on me, I just delete the number instantaneously. It's not even a second thought. I go from one girl to the next and just try to sleep with them as soon as possible, but I have absolutely no interest in a connection or a relationship with them. I don't get jealous, don't care if I get resistance, rejected, etc. I just plow through the field with an iron fist.

I think what bothers me is the boredom, and the only thing that soothes that is approaching girls all the time. I enjoy the texting process and trying to get the girl to meet up with me. However, once I sleep with the girl I'm done with her and start all over again with a new girl. I don't know, it just feels... empty.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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GreatHornedOwl said:
Something I've noticed. I don't have approach anxiety. If a girl flakes on me, I just delete the number instantaneously. It's not even a second thought. I go from one girl to the next and just try to sleep with them as soon as possible, but I have absolutely no interest in a connection or a relationship with them. I don't get jealous, don't care if I get resistance, rejected, etc. I just plow through the field with an iron fist.

I think what bothers me is the boredom, and the only thing that soothes that is approaching girls all the time. I enjoy the texting process and trying to get the girl to meet up with me. However, once I sleep with the girl I'm done with her and start all over again with a new girl. I don't know, it just feels... empty.
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It feels empty because our society promotes all this one night stand, try and fvck a new person everday horsesh! t mindset. Something is wrong, very wrong with all of this.......After a while it gets depressing because you're losing your ability to create and experience intimacy with another person. Call me and "AFC" if you want, i don't give a fvck.
 
Chamber36

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well most girls are *****es anyway. You just gotta find one who turns you on mentally or something. That is if they already turn you on physically.

Find a good girl.
 
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btownbuck2012 said:
It feels empty because our society promotes all this one night stand, try and fvck a new person everday horsesh! t mindset. Something is wrong, very wrong with all of this.......After a while it gets depressing because you're losing your ability to create and experience intimacy with another person. Call me and "AFC" if you want, i don't give a fvck.
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I couldn't agree more and some people will tell Mr Owl that what he is feeling is the starting point of him becoming a Don Juan, but I think it's quite sad when a person becomes emotionaless, because they aren't really human anymore. Emotions are great, providing they are controlled and aren't allowed to rule your head in matters. A healthy balance is needed in regard to emotions, neither extreme is helpful or healthy for the individual involved.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Tell you something. I had chronic runny nose, and I couldn't breath if I didn't use spray. I got girlfriend, and I'm cured. No more runny nose.
 
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I agree with the others. While I'm all for a "non-reactive frame," the goal isn't to become emotionless.

You might consider taking a break from the game and find some other (more constructive) hobbies that you can enjoy. Once you re-connect with something fun in life, you might learn to enjoy the company of women again.
 
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