I'm realizing, I'm a freshman in highschool and I've never had a girlfriend. I've had plenty of Girl__Friends...just friends but, ive never really asked a girl out before....its a little embarrassing....Kind of pathetic too. Idk what the problem is....I'm sometimes scared to approach girls. I've never approached one in the hallways. I usually end up being friends with girls only in my classes, and the girls in my classes arent my type of GIRLFRIENDs.....Idk what to do...i cant seem to get over my fear
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I have never had a girlfriend...
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
lol. Dude, any girlfriends before 9th grade really don't count as a real relationship. Well it seems that way too me. Nobody cares if you never had a gf. Your only a freshman. You still have 3 years left in highschool. There's seniors that have never had a gf and they don't care a least bit about it. Don't go looking for a relationship.
Real men are the ones that can be happy without a girl. Read the DJ Bible and express your TRUE personality. Don't go looking for relationships because that will make you desperate. I'm a senior and just got my 1st gf in november. Some people might think it's lame but I really don't give a flip about what they think. The second you start worry about small things like this and what others think your already screwing your self. I mess up so many times throughout HS and I realized that everytime I did so was because I was either trying to please others or worrying about what they might approve of whats 'cool' and whats 'lame'. Don't worry about that. Seriously man. It will just hurt you in the end. And if you really want something it's your job to go get it!!!!! "Life is like a trumpit. If you don't put anything into it, you wont get anything out of it." Just live life, don't live to please others, Embrace God, and have fun and watch what happens. Trust me. Good luck and BE YOU!
God Bless!
Real men are the ones that can be happy without a girl. Read the DJ Bible and express your TRUE personality. Don't go looking for relationships because that will make you desperate. I'm a senior and just got my 1st gf in november. Some people might think it's lame but I really don't give a flip about what they think. The second you start worry about small things like this and what others think your already screwing your self. I mess up so many times throughout HS and I realized that everytime I did so was because I was either trying to please others or worrying about what they might approve of whats 'cool' and whats 'lame'. Don't worry about that. Seriously man. It will just hurt you in the end. And if you really want something it's your job to go get it!!!!! "Life is like a trumpit. If you don't put anything into it, you wont get anything out of it." Just live life, don't live to please others, Embrace God, and have fun and watch what happens. Trust me. Good luck and BE YOU!
God Bless!
WOAH.....i have never ever thought of it like that........That is.....Wow..I never looked at it like that. Thank you, you've opened my eyes a little bitrkc09 said:lol. Dude, any girlfriends before 9th grade really don't count as a real relationship. Well it seems that way too me. Nobody cares if you never had a gf. Your only a freshman. You still have 3 years left in highschool. There's seniors that have never had a gf and they don't care a least bit about it. Don't go looking for a relationship.
Real men are the ones that can be happy without a girl. Read the DJ Bible and express your TRUE personality. Don't go looking for relationships because that will make you desperate. I'm a senior and just got my 1st gf in november. Some people might think it's lame but I really don't give a flip about what they think. The second you start worry about small things like this and what others think your already screwing your self. I mess up so many times throughout HS and I realized that everytime I did so was because I was either trying to please others or worrying about what they might approve of whats 'cool' and whats 'lame'. Don't worry about that. Seriously man. It will just hurt you in the end. And if you really want something it's your job to go get it!!!!! "Life is like a trumpit. If you don't put anything into it, you wont get anything out of it." Just live life, don't live to please others, Embrace God, and have fun and watch what happens. Trust me. Good luck and BE YOU!
God Bless!
These are the most common threads, and we've all been through it. All you can do is grow some balls and approach. The more you do it, the more comfortable and better you'll be at it.Alive said:
As your approaching and talking to her, try not to think of what you'll say next and don't be stuck in your head. You have to talk naturally, and when you go in your head and start thinking, that's when the conversation goes bad.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Dude ur only a freshman why are you freaking out lol? 80% of the guys in your grade have never had a gf before either so i dont see what the problem is. Not to mention that relationships in middle school dont even count as a relationship its all a joke lol
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Congratulations! ur not missing anything good.
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Yeah dont go out looking for a girlfriend, I had one girlfriend in my four years of high school and it sucked.
In high school you only want to casually "date" girls. The more girls the better. It takes practice though, iv been at this for almost 2 years and im just now getting the hang of spinning multiple plates.
Read the information and practice this sh1t and you will be able to land a girl like a pro with time
In high school you only want to casually "date" girls. The more girls the better. It takes practice though, iv been at this for almost 2 years and im just now getting the hang of spinning multiple plates.
Read the information and practice this sh1t and you will be able to land a girl like a pro with time
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Relax dude, you're only a freshman. You're not missing out on much yet.
Just approach more girls and have fun for now. Most of this material applies best to outside school, learn it, but don't dwell on it. High school is a much easier game. You basically just play your circle of friends, add more girls, and make a move on the ones you are interested in. How do you make a move? That's where this site can come in handy.
Look up everything on confidence and anything you can find about making the move. Then PRACTICE.
Just approach more girls and have fun for now. Most of this material applies best to outside school, learn it, but don't dwell on it. High school is a much easier game. You basically just play your circle of friends, add more girls, and make a move on the ones you are interested in. How do you make a move? That's where this site can come in handy.
Look up everything on confidence and anything you can find about making the move. Then PRACTICE.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You're a freshman so you have plenty of time, believe me I'm a senior so I'll give you some advice that I learned the hard way without the help of something like these boards. It's all about confidence. I'm an okay looking guy but nothing special, however I have the ego of a rockstar. that is what draws women. If you are rejected, don't get down about it.there's no such thing as mistakes, just lessons. You'll get there, you'll learn. Its only high school, so don't go out looking for a future wife, just look to have some fun. If things don't work out this year, believe me it will get better. I didn't have a girlfriend until my sophomore year, but now all I do is hang out with girls. Hope this is of some help for you.