"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have never felt as bad as i do now

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That was very uplifting to me. Thank you. You are right about me thinking about her in the morning and at night. I'm going to cut all contact and just let things be. Me and her will never be good for each other.

Im going to try not to think about it and move on with my own life. She lost a great guy in me, i would have given my all to her.

Its going to take a long time to get over this i know, but the sooner i stop feeling bad for myself the sooner ill feel normal again.

Now im just going to start saving up cash, keep on studying and focus on ways to better myself.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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That's exactly what you need to do. In my experience, the two best cures for heartbreak are 1) self-improvement and 2) other women!!!
 

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always protect your heart and be a man
 

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Im having a really hard time still. It comes in waves. I cant stop thinking about everything. Its driving me insane. She hasnt contacted me or made any attempts. She basically doesnt give a sh*t about me. Im having a hard time dealing with that. I think this is beyond oneitis.....i opened up to her really bad, im having a hard time moving forward and forgetting about everything.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Ah...I feell ya man. I'm going through some of the same s*it. Followed a girl around for a year, I got to be a "mate" while she slept with other guys. I was in love with her. I kidded myself that something might happen for ages, she recently "ended it" coz I was looking out for her, and she had a go at me. She was the one being a cow, but I was the one reaching for the phone, trying to apologise and make things better. Only today have I thought, "you know what, that cow has controlled me long enough. She's stupid (can't pass her exams) drinks too much, is a wh*re, and I'm obsessed with her? Nah.....I'm outta here"

Hope it works out for ya man.
 

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Originally posted by Legend
Well this girl i have liked for the past five years is letting her ex bf move in with her. When she told me this i freaked out and thought i was going to have a stroke. My blood pressure is so high right now, im completely red. I think i may have a heart attack.

She told me she still has feelings for this guy. He broke up with her.

how do i play this situation? Do refuse to talk to her ever again? She has hurt me so bad. I have never felt this bad before. I feel like i could cry for hours.

She has no desire to be with me...i have looked like a fool trying to let her see that im the one for her. the situation is lost, i can not win. Shes the apple of my eye.....and shes destroying me by being the way she is.

Shes probably scared of me the way i acted. I acted like a fool, but i dont even care. I cant be a big tough guy all the time.

I need anyones help, i feel so alone and hollow.
THIS is one-itis, when you " " " LOVE " " " someone and they dont even think of you sexually....
 
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