So I had a female "friend" tell me that I had mommy issues because I didn't want to date her friend. I didn't want to date her friend because she physically reminded me of my mother. I mean she looked like a younger version of my mother. Now that's not bad thing, my mom is a wonderful woman and not unattractive. I just find it weird to date a woman who looks like my mother. Is that not normal?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I have Mommy issues?
- Thread starter Warrior74
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
tryst type
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 13, 2007
- Messages
- 615
- Reaction score
- 23
This is interesting I can't even date a woman with the same first name as my mother because it weirds me out, let alone one who looks like her!
Your friend was just annoyed you rejected her friend.
Your friend was just annoyed you rejected her friend.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
Yep.tryst type said:
Any kind of sweeping statement like that is really just a shaming tool/device.
They hope you'll 'prove' them wrong by doing what they 'want' you do to.
Don't read anything into it, I'm sure she didn't put very much thought into it.
The hardest thing for most humans to do is say something like this:
"Even though your opinion is different than I'd like it to be, and even though I disagree with it, I respect it as your opinion and we'll just leave it at that."
It's much easier to say:
"You're Wrong! You are wrong because of X!"
Where X is the first simple to understand idea that pops into their head.