So I had a female "friend" tell me that I had mommy issues because I didn't want to date her friend. I didn't want to date her friend because she physically reminded me of my mother. I mean she looked like a younger version of my mother. Now that's not bad thing, my mom is a wonderful woman and not unattractive. I just find it weird to date a woman who looks like my mother. Is that not normal?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I have Mommy issues?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
tryst type
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This is interesting I can't even date a woman with the same first name as my mother because it weirds me out, let alone one who looks like her!
Your friend was just annoyed you rejected her friend.
Your friend was just annoyed you rejected her friend.
taiyuu_otoko
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Yep.tryst type said:
Any kind of sweeping statement like that is really just a shaming tool/device.
They hope you'll 'prove' them wrong by doing what they 'want' you do to.
Don't read anything into it, I'm sure she didn't put very much thought into it.
The hardest thing for most humans to do is say something like this:
"Even though your opinion is different than I'd like it to be, and even though I disagree with it, I respect it as your opinion and we'll just leave it at that."
It's much easier to say:
"You're Wrong! You are wrong because of X!"
Where X is the first simple to understand idea that pops into their head.