"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I have finally pulled the Trigger on Xmas, comments.

DjVelvet

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Guys, Merry Xmas.

I have been seeing a chick for 4 months. around 12 dates? We are asians.

Long story short, first few months are great, she's completely into me. Afterwhich, her behavior became inconsisitant and sometimes "Missing in action" for 1 or 2 weeks after a great date, which's confusing me. For your info, she has been INCONSISTENT for the past 2 months.. dates can be dam great and sometimes not so good.

Experienced friends claim that she's kinda a player and tooling, leading on guys. Apparently, I admit she's a player but i was blinded that time.

***Xmas Eve***

We went out and it was kinda a boring date, (she wasn't contributing much in action <in body language terms>, hope you guys get what i mean). Decided to cut the date short and i DELIBRATELY test her by asking her out on the next day to do some Xmas shopping.

She was cool and enthu about the idea, and i delibrately made her promise that we have to meet up as there will be surprises to be expected. (I phrase it in a cool way, non-needy).

She mentioned that she's tired and need not see her home as we are meeting the next day. I was cool, she mentioned calling me once she reaches home. She didn't. Instead, she went to meet her friends despite being "Tired". (I know she still have other plates spinning)

***Xmas Actual Day***

She txt me 2 hours before the date, "Sorry Velvet, I am very sick and i can't keep the promise to go out". Afterwhich, I'm more determined to pull the trigger (She really cross the line..) and..

I txt back "Yesterday you say you are tired but you met your friend instead and made yourself sick today. I hate Liars. <HB name> I am disappointed in you. Let's not see one another again."

Later she called me in a sick tone (Most prob she's acting) and I sound indifferent and say that I'm busy and out with someone else and pull down the phone.

Afterwhich she txt me again "Sorry Velvet i cannot keep the promise. I am crying now.." (Utter Bullsh!T in my opinion.)

I never call/txt her back.


I'm happy for being able to pull this trigger and moving on to sarge other potentials, have already set up dates with other chicks.


Guys, I was just thinking. What if she contact me back? How do i get my power back and make her interest level increases? She knows I'm also seeing other girls.

I kinda know what to do, just wanna see what more can be improved in this situation.

Merry Xmas.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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blinkwatt

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Try not to contact this chick,let her contact you and prove herself to you. If you don't mind me asking,have you kissed this chick yet?
 

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good work on standing up to her bull
 

DjVelvet

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Which leads to this. If there's a chance, under what circumstances can i F her? My motive towards her is just S3X.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Cloudtopsun2100

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heavy makeouts after 12 dates......wow and her not even having u penciled in for the last spot of the night.. I dated a girl back a few years back and your situation is 99.9999999999999999999999999% the same as mine was.. this girl is probobly just some attention ***** and if I were you I would put all my energy into the new girls and give up on this one. If she crawls back to you and you still want to hit it then just let her know in no uncertain terms that the time to put out is now cause you are not into wasting your time- however you do that is up to you
are you guys both the same ethnicity?
 

DjVelvet

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I'm Singaporean Chinese, and she's korean.

Hey you are chinese, seen your signature. PMed you. Cloud
 
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