"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I have finally pulled the Trigger on Xmas, comments.

DjVelvet

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Guys, Merry Xmas.

I have been seeing a chick for 4 months. around 12 dates? We are asians.

Long story short, first few months are great, she's completely into me. Afterwhich, her behavior became inconsisitant and sometimes "Missing in action" for 1 or 2 weeks after a great date, which's confusing me. For your info, she has been INCONSISTENT for the past 2 months.. dates can be dam great and sometimes not so good.

Experienced friends claim that she's kinda a player and tooling, leading on guys. Apparently, I admit she's a player but i was blinded that time.

***Xmas Eve***

We went out and it was kinda a boring date, (she wasn't contributing much in action <in body language terms>, hope you guys get what i mean). Decided to cut the date short and i DELIBRATELY test her by asking her out on the next day to do some Xmas shopping.

She was cool and enthu about the idea, and i delibrately made her promise that we have to meet up as there will be surprises to be expected. (I phrase it in a cool way, non-needy).

She mentioned that she's tired and need not see her home as we are meeting the next day. I was cool, she mentioned calling me once she reaches home. She didn't. Instead, she went to meet her friends despite being "Tired". (I know she still have other plates spinning)

***Xmas Actual Day***

She txt me 2 hours before the date, "Sorry Velvet, I am very sick and i can't keep the promise to go out". Afterwhich, I'm more determined to pull the trigger (She really cross the line..) and..

I txt back "Yesterday you say you are tired but you met your friend instead and made yourself sick today. I hate Liars. <HB name> I am disappointed in you. Let's not see one another again."

Later she called me in a sick tone (Most prob she's acting) and I sound indifferent and say that I'm busy and out with someone else and pull down the phone.

Afterwhich she txt me again "Sorry Velvet i cannot keep the promise. I am crying now.." (Utter Bullsh!T in my opinion.)

I never call/txt her back.


I'm happy for being able to pull this trigger and moving on to sarge other potentials, have already set up dates with other chicks.


Guys, I was just thinking. What if she contact me back? How do i get my power back and make her interest level increases? She knows I'm also seeing other girls.

I kinda know what to do, just wanna see what more can be improved in this situation.

Merry Xmas.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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blinkwatt

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Try not to contact this chick,let her contact you and prove herself to you. If you don't mind me asking,have you kissed this chick yet?
 

The Kidd

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good work on standing up to her bull
 

DjVelvet

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Which leads to this. If there's a chance, under what circumstances can i F her? My motive towards her is just S3X.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Cloudtopsun2100

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heavy makeouts after 12 dates......wow and her not even having u penciled in for the last spot of the night.. I dated a girl back a few years back and your situation is 99.9999999999999999999999999% the same as mine was.. this girl is probobly just some attention ***** and if I were you I would put all my energy into the new girls and give up on this one. If she crawls back to you and you still want to hit it then just let her know in no uncertain terms that the time to put out is now cause you are not into wasting your time- however you do that is up to you
are you guys both the same ethnicity?
 

DjVelvet

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I'm Singaporean Chinese, and she's korean.

Hey you are chinese, seen your signature. PMed you. Cloud
 
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