Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Did you really need to bold that? I know that is your whole schtick, but was that really necessary there?DonGorgon said:You guys can thank capitalism for all this social depression and desperation.. Expect this to get alot worse too..
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
IT's a BOLD FACT that capitalism causes social depression it felt to me as though it bolded itself, almost like flexing its factual muscles so that those in denial would be forced to face it .... :nervous:MikeYikes122 said:Did you really need to bold that? I know that is your whole schtick, but was that really necessary there?
Okay you're either a troll or a pvssy. Either way, just go out and talk to girls! Stop posting!ItsOnNow said:That's it. I haven't found internal happiness, only emptiness that I try to fill. This started a long time ago. I thought no girl's/freind's= loser, and it consumed me. I don't have many freinds, I have trust issues, after something that happened to me a year ago, I am still not over it. It was bad. I mean bad.
I haven't been trying to start some sort of routine to get out of this. That's what kills me the most. I could have changed, broken out of the shell, and gone after what I wanted so sooner. I'm gonna take a course of action.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DonGorgon said:IT's a BOLD FACT that capitalism causes social depression it felt to me as though it bolded itself, almost like flexing its factual muscles so that those in denial would be forced to face it .... :nervous:
The most powerfully tactical thing about capitalism is that while it kills you you slowly it convinces you to love it more and more..:nervous:
Most people don't know it yet but capitalism is the most powerfully devastating form of slavery ever known to man...:nervous:
Interceptor said:BE, so you can DO, then HAVE.
Be , as in BE PRESENT.
Be, as in BECOMING.
Be, as in BELIEF.
Be, as in BEING.
Focus on what is STOPPING you from feeling Good, and Happy, and Joyful.
What are these obstacles?
What issues are you dealing with?
are you even aware you are having difficulties seeing the positive side?
Why arent you seeing this as positive?
These are questions you must ask yourself.
If not, you let your subconscious, and all the primal subconscious fears do the acting and make your own sub beleif system.
You will operate from a paradigm of fear and irrational beliefs.
Your mind is a tool.
A way to interpret phenomena and experiences.
Your subconsious is a an influence HOW you PERCEIVE your 'reality'.
WHAT REALITY are YOU CREATING?
Watch this video, and pay attention at 1:10:
http://video.google.com/videoplay?d...&q=adyashanti&ei=vJpqSOHiJKem4QKDvPXKAg&hl=en
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.