You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Did you really need to bold that? I know that is your whole schtick, but was that really necessary there?DonGorgon said:You guys can thank capitalism for all this social depression and desperation.. Expect this to get alot worse too..
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
IT's a BOLD FACT that capitalism causes social depression it felt to me as though it bolded itself, almost like flexing its factual muscles so that those in denial would be forced to face it .... :nervous:MikeYikes122 said:Did you really need to bold that? I know that is your whole schtick, but was that really necessary there?
Okay you're either a troll or a pvssy. Either way, just go out and talk to girls! Stop posting!ItsOnNow said:That's it. I haven't found internal happiness, only emptiness that I try to fill. This started a long time ago. I thought no girl's/freind's= loser, and it consumed me. I don't have many freinds, I have trust issues, after something that happened to me a year ago, I am still not over it. It was bad. I mean bad.
I haven't been trying to start some sort of routine to get out of this. That's what kills me the most. I could have changed, broken out of the shell, and gone after what I wanted so sooner. I'm gonna take a course of action.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
DonGorgon said:IT's a BOLD FACT that capitalism causes social depression it felt to me as though it bolded itself, almost like flexing its factual muscles so that those in denial would be forced to face it .... :nervous:
The most powerfully tactical thing about capitalism is that while it kills you you slowly it convinces you to love it more and more..:nervous:
Most people don't know it yet but capitalism is the most powerfully devastating form of slavery ever known to man...:nervous:
Interceptor said:BE, so you can DO, then HAVE.
Be , as in BE PRESENT.
Be, as in BECOMING.
Be, as in BELIEF.
Be, as in BEING.
Focus on what is STOPPING you from feeling Good, and Happy, and Joyful.
What are these obstacles?
What issues are you dealing with?
are you even aware you are having difficulties seeing the positive side?
Why arent you seeing this as positive?
These are questions you must ask yourself.
If not, you let your subconscious, and all the primal subconscious fears do the acting and make your own sub beleif system.
You will operate from a paradigm of fear and irrational beliefs.
Your mind is a tool.
A way to interpret phenomena and experiences.
Your subconsious is a an influence HOW you PERCEIVE your 'reality'.
WHAT REALITY are YOU CREATING?
Watch this video, and pay attention at 1:10:
http://video.google.com/videoplay?d...&q=adyashanti&ei=vJpqSOHiJKem4QKDvPXKAg&hl=en
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.