"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girls aren't needed for happiness man. Calls some friends and hang out. If you don't do that call some family up. Maybe a cousin or a brother would like to hang w/ you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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That's it. I haven't found internal happiness, only emptiness that I try to fill. This started a long time ago. I thought no girl's/freind's= loser, and it consumed me. I don't have many freinds, I have trust issues, after something that happened to me a year ago, I am still not over it. It was bad. I mean bad.

I haven't been trying to start some sort of routine to get out of this. That's what kills me the most. I could have changed, broken out of the shell, and gone after what I wanted so sooner. I'm gonna take a course of action.
 

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DonGorgon said:
You guys can thank capitalism for all this social depression and desperation.. Expect this to get alot worse too..
Did you really need to bold that? I know that is your whole schtick, but was that really necessary there?
 

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Look, I know I haven't been in the best of moods, but I can't help it. I am trying to find a way out of this. I think it me be some sort of, oh i don't know, personality disorder, or lack of, I can be either the loud type, or quiet type, I think I fear people. I mean I can go out, but I always feel empty, out or at home. What is that called?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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MikeYikes122 said:
Did you really need to bold that? I know that is your whole schtick, but was that really necessary there?
IT's a BOLD FACT that capitalism causes social depression it felt to me as though it bolded itself, almost like flexing its factual muscles so that those in denial would be forced to face it .... :nervous:

The most powerfully tactical thing about capitalism is that while it kills you you slowly it convinces you to love it more and more..:nervous:

Most people don't know it yet but capitalism is the most powerfully devastating form of slavery ever known to man...
:nervous:
 

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ItsOnNow said:
That's it. I haven't found internal happiness, only emptiness that I try to fill. This started a long time ago. I thought no girl's/freind's= loser, and it consumed me. I don't have many freinds, I have trust issues, after something that happened to me a year ago, I am still not over it. It was bad. I mean bad.

I haven't been trying to start some sort of routine to get out of this. That's what kills me the most. I could have changed, broken out of the shell, and gone after what I wanted so sooner. I'm gonna take a course of action.
Okay you're either a troll or a pvssy. Either way, just go out and talk to girls! Stop posting!

Now, go!
 

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It's these negative thoughts I always have. They always run through my head. I have anxiety/depression, I know, I qualify cause I have the symptoms. Alot if has just not been taking action, feelings of worthlessness, it is very overwhelming. Cause in my mind, you're either the " hot/bad boy all the chicks wanna bang" or you are just a nobody. Is this true? Or do I hold myself to some sort of unrealistic standard? Could looking at too much porn had an effect on me? Or is it just ya gotta sweet talk em?
 

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Don't listen to such advice itsonnow. Stay home as you want. YOU ARE STILL A MAN! You are nothing less.

These spacemonkeys know nothing!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DonGorgon said:
IT's a BOLD FACT that capitalism causes social depression it felt to me as though it bolded itself, almost like flexing its factual muscles so that those in denial would be forced to face it .... :nervous:

The most powerfully tactical thing about capitalism is that while it kills you you slowly it convinces you to love it more and more..:nervous:

Most people don't know it yet but capitalism is the most powerfully devastating form of slavery ever known to man...
:nervous:

:crazy:
 

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You need to stop pouting... and APPROACH! APPROACH! APPROACH!

I dont wanna hear any excuses, go out and meet new people.

Also, visit the site below to get some knowledge..
 

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Reposting this, well because you need it.

Interceptor said:
BE, so you can DO, then HAVE.


Be , as in BE PRESENT.

Be, as in BECOMING.

Be, as in BELIEF.

Be, as in BEING.


Focus on what is STOPPING you from feeling Good, and Happy, and Joyful.

What are these obstacles?
What issues are you dealing with?
are you even aware you are having difficulties seeing the positive side?
Why arent you seeing this as positive?

These are questions you must ask yourself.

If not, you let your subconscious, and all the primal subconscious fears do the acting and make your own sub beleif system.

You will operate from a paradigm of fear and irrational beliefs.

Your mind is a tool.
A way to interpret phenomena and experiences.
Your subconsious is a an influence HOW you PERCEIVE your 'reality'.
WHAT REALITY are YOU CREATING?




Watch this video, and pay attention at 1:10:
http://video.google.com/videoplay?d...&q=adyashanti&ei=vJpqSOHiJKem4QKDvPXKAg&hl=en
 

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Yeah. I realize what I must do, but the problem seems to be comparing myself to others.
 

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ItsOnNow,

Ask yourself this one question.

"What type of person would I have to be to respect myself?"

Your answers to this question are your VALUES and the closer your follow your values, the higher your self-confidence and eventually the higher your quality of life. Don't neglect doing this now, do it now or you'll never change.

Oh yeah, and only give advice if you have experience with that situation. On these forums, advice is given freely and sometimes not worth listening to.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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