You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Did you really need to bold that? I know that is your whole schtick, but was that really necessary there?DonGorgon said:You guys can thank capitalism for all this social depression and desperation.. Expect this to get alot worse too..
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
IT's a BOLD FACT that capitalism causes social depression it felt to me as though it bolded itself, almost like flexing its factual muscles so that those in denial would be forced to face it .... :nervous:MikeYikes122 said:Did you really need to bold that? I know that is your whole schtick, but was that really necessary there?
Okay you're either a troll or a pvssy. Either way, just go out and talk to girls! Stop posting!ItsOnNow said:That's it. I haven't found internal happiness, only emptiness that I try to fill. This started a long time ago. I thought no girl's/freind's= loser, and it consumed me. I don't have many freinds, I have trust issues, after something that happened to me a year ago, I am still not over it. It was bad. I mean bad.
I haven't been trying to start some sort of routine to get out of this. That's what kills me the most. I could have changed, broken out of the shell, and gone after what I wanted so sooner. I'm gonna take a course of action.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
DonGorgon said:IT's a BOLD FACT that capitalism causes social depression it felt to me as though it bolded itself, almost like flexing its factual muscles so that those in denial would be forced to face it .... :nervous:
The most powerfully tactical thing about capitalism is that while it kills you you slowly it convinces you to love it more and more..:nervous:
Most people don't know it yet but capitalism is the most powerfully devastating form of slavery ever known to man...:nervous:
Interceptor said:BE, so you can DO, then HAVE.
Be , as in BE PRESENT.
Be, as in BECOMING.
Be, as in BELIEF.
Be, as in BEING.
Focus on what is STOPPING you from feeling Good, and Happy, and Joyful.
What are these obstacles?
What issues are you dealing with?
are you even aware you are having difficulties seeing the positive side?
Why arent you seeing this as positive?
These are questions you must ask yourself.
If not, you let your subconscious, and all the primal subconscious fears do the acting and make your own sub beleif system.
You will operate from a paradigm of fear and irrational beliefs.
Your mind is a tool.
A way to interpret phenomena and experiences.
Your subconsious is a an influence HOW you PERCEIVE your 'reality'.
WHAT REALITY are YOU CREATING?
Watch this video, and pay attention at 1:10:
http://video.google.com/videoplay?d...&q=adyashanti&ei=vJpqSOHiJKem4QKDvPXKAg&hl=en
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.