I have a real confidence problem

[Brighty]

Basically I'll make this quick, but I've noticed I have the worst trouble maintaining eye contact with people when I'm talking to them. When I was in 7th grade I used the excuse to myself that I was ugly and I don't want girls thinking I'm ugly so I spent the least amount of time with eye contact possible, which I know is a juenivile thing that should've passed, but it didn't. Now, I'm a junior in Highschool, and I know I'm attractive, girls have TOLD me I'm attractive (good looking ones too) and I've noticed the hot girls are flirting with me now. I KNOW that I've really changed drastically in terms of psychical appearance, but I still for some reason for the LIFE of me am too critical about myself.

If I have a zit on my face, I'll try to hide it and think that I don't look good enough to flirt/talk with hot girls. I know that sounds incredibly pvssy, and I know it does is the sad part. I get self conscious easily about my psychical appearance which leads to the fact that I cannot maintain eye contact with a girl and I always act awkward around them because I'm always worried I may not appear attractive to them. Is there anything I could read to remedy this or exercises I could practice to build up eye contact and not be so self-conscious about myself when I know there's nothing wrong with me?

And on a more humorous (but pathetic) note: I don't have a problem maintaining eye contact with my guy friends, cause well, I'm not trying to impress them and I'm not gay, but I always was under the assumption to not have a lot of eye contact with them else it might come off as gay.

Yeah, I know, it's pathetic, but I would appreciate anyone's help on the subject.

 

[Crayon]

How old are you? I think it's a very common teenage problem. Maybe you should start doing some activities that forces you out of your shell.

 

[penkitten]

here is a tip...
if you have trouble looking people in the eye, look at their nose.
they will think you are looking at their eyes, and will never know you are looking at their noses.

 

[intel123]

hey whats up ....


you need to reprogram your mind. just use a different story from now on if you keep thinking about it . look at her in the eye ur a man . look at ur mom in the eye same thing as looking her inthe eye.

 

[comic_relief]

Very simple problem to cure. Start looking at older women in the eyes. See how they react to you and then go younger and younger. Church is a very easy place to try this activity. It will take at the most four weeks to get rid of this "problem."

It is a very common problem among young DJ's like yourself.

 

[Brighty]

Alright, thanks for your help guys

 

[Willis]

and stop caring if girls find u attractive, jus do u....
and be who the hell u want 2 be

 

[reset]

And stop saying things in the affirmative. "I have a real confidence problem" is going make you believe you are someone with a problem, you're not, you're just a normal guy learing something new.

Better to say, "I am developing more and more confidence everyday."

And quit using the word pathetic in reference to yourself. Thoughts are powerful.