"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have a question to all women here

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If you have a boyfriend who is a good-looking guy (he's a 9) and you found out the women he dated before you were unattractive (about 5-6) and that he finds unattractive women by society's standards to be attractive for the SIMPLE reason he has strange taste in beauty, these women weren't extraordinary in personality and character either nothing extraordinary that is so admirable about them just that he has strange and poor taste he finds those looks attractive, do you find it a turn-off and would you be disappointend and saddened and would you think differently of him? Will you think less or lowly of him? Will he be devalued in your thinking?

Please just answer the direct question wihtout the speculations that maybe he liked those women because maybe they were more faithful or maybe they had other lovable traits ,or that he has low self-esteem because that is not the case. We are talking here about pure preferences and taste on beauty ok.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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no i would not think less of him because of it

in fact, i think i would think more of him for not following society's opinion on beauty and personality.
i would think more of him for using his own mind and heart when being attracked to someone.

however = i would then question myself in front of a mirror , saying things to myself like " am i horribly ugly also?"
 
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"however = i would then question myself in front of a mirror , saying things to myself like " am i horribly ugly also?""

same thing, but I would think less of her, as I wonder about why this girl I like went out with a buncha ugly, retarded guys.
 
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This is hard because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So how could i judge him for his opinion? I would tell him my opinion of the girls, but i wouldn't think less of him. I think I'd only worry if ALL he ever liked was unattractive women. I would wonder, but as long as he found me attractive now it honestly wouldn't bother me what he did before.
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