Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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i have a problem with my fella downstairs

lordson

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i doubt any of you are doctors but im 19 and i can't get it up for my girl for the last 2 days

i've had erections constanly (24/7 basically) for like a week now, beuacse im seeing her so much, but when the time comes for the guy to really perform and get hard, hes still at half mast

i've never had any problems getting it up before, but i dunno, the guy just wont get it up. its probably due to all those years of porn, how do i train myself to be aroused by real women again?
shes HB 8 at least though, not fugly

and its always so sore at the end of the day becasue of all the half/ 3/4 erections i get

have any of you guys heard of this problem?

cheers fellas
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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strong like bull

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Triple X

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Well, yeah that, and I recommend trying here:

http://www.libidus.co.uk

I've certainly found it helps with 'performance anxiety'.

;)
 

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no, i havn't touched porn for like 2 months

i havn't masturbated for 2 months

when my girl was doing it for me today, i nknew that i wasn't as hard as i could be and i tried to force soemthing but it didn't happen
 

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It's all in your head (no pun intended). Something is preventing you mentally, holding you back. What is it? Ask yourself, investigate.

Had a similiar problem with a girl before. Couldn't get the job done because I was too worried about her mom getting home, so I wasn't focused. Switched venues and bam, no problem.

It's all in your head.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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mate, i wish it was in my head, i look at my girl,
perfect situation, in bed, nobody home, she only had tiny panties on
things that should normally turn me on just didn't. it was the perfect situation for it, i dont have perfomance anxiety

i'm just wondering if anybody else has this problem too? too many erectins during the day adn then you can't do it when it counts

im so sore down there today, she was really tyring hard today, its just like that sore feeling you get when u climax and then get another erection soon after, you wont feel it if you have a bigger one though
 

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Originally posted by lordson
i look at my girl, perfect situation, in bed, nobody home, she only had tiny panties on
things that should normally turn me on just didn't. it was the perfect situation for it, i dont have perfomance anxiety

OK fair enough but what I am saying is all you gotta do is take 2 of those things approx. 45 mins before sex and then you got no worries... you dig?
 

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I have an idea of what the problem may be.

First, I'm assuming you don't have performance anixety and that you are not worried about interruptions and whatnot (i.e. the 'perfect' situation).

Now you see your hot girl almost naked on the bed. You know you *should* be aroused but you're not. Your conscious self is telling you to be turned on, but you're not.

The reason? Porn.

The fact that you haven't looked at in 2 months helps reduce the problem, but it is not the cause. It is *possible* that your unconscious mind has been reprogrammed to only be turned on by a different (and unrealistic) form of sex. Typically, you can only *really* get off by voyeurism. Think about it, while viewing porn, you are by yourself and simply watching. You have no stimulation or interaction from another human being. Not only that but the situations are unrealistic; many different women in the span of minutes. Or other circumstances depending on the type of porn you enjoy.

I have no solution for you, but if you think this may be the problem you can always check out some porn addiction sites - I'm sure they have tips. Stay away from the religious ones though.

I thought I had this problem but it turned out that if I just reduced my viewing frequency it was all good. However, based on the fact that you haven't viewed in 2 months it could be something else.

Hope this helps.

- HV
 

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If for 2 days in a row this has happened, I am sure you women has caught on that there is something wrong and would be willing to help you overcome this situation.

If it is indeed because your tired from having erections all day long, try seeing her first thing in the morning. Personally there is nothing better for me than starting off the day burying the morning wood in a nice warm hole.
 
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