"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i have a problem with my fella downstairs

lordson

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i doubt any of you are doctors but im 19 and i can't get it up for my girl for the last 2 days

i've had erections constanly (24/7 basically) for like a week now, beuacse im seeing her so much, but when the time comes for the guy to really perform and get hard, hes still at half mast

i've never had any problems getting it up before, but i dunno, the guy just wont get it up. its probably due to all those years of porn, how do i train myself to be aroused by real women again?
shes HB 8 at least though, not fugly

and its always so sore at the end of the day becasue of all the half/ 3/4 erections i get

have any of you guys heard of this problem?

cheers fellas
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well, yeah that, and I recommend trying here:

http://www.libidus.co.uk

I've certainly found it helps with 'performance anxiety'.

;)
 

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no, i havn't touched porn for like 2 months

i havn't masturbated for 2 months

when my girl was doing it for me today, i nknew that i wasn't as hard as i could be and i tried to force soemthing but it didn't happen
 

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It's all in your head (no pun intended). Something is preventing you mentally, holding you back. What is it? Ask yourself, investigate.

Had a similiar problem with a girl before. Couldn't get the job done because I was too worried about her mom getting home, so I wasn't focused. Switched venues and bam, no problem.

It's all in your head.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mate, i wish it was in my head, i look at my girl,
perfect situation, in bed, nobody home, she only had tiny panties on
things that should normally turn me on just didn't. it was the perfect situation for it, i dont have perfomance anxiety

i'm just wondering if anybody else has this problem too? too many erectins during the day adn then you can't do it when it counts

im so sore down there today, she was really tyring hard today, its just like that sore feeling you get when u climax and then get another erection soon after, you wont feel it if you have a bigger one though
 

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Originally posted by lordson
i look at my girl, perfect situation, in bed, nobody home, she only had tiny panties on
things that should normally turn me on just didn't. it was the perfect situation for it, i dont have perfomance anxiety

OK fair enough but what I am saying is all you gotta do is take 2 of those things approx. 45 mins before sex and then you got no worries... you dig?
 

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I have an idea of what the problem may be.

First, I'm assuming you don't have performance anixety and that you are not worried about interruptions and whatnot (i.e. the 'perfect' situation).

Now you see your hot girl almost naked on the bed. You know you *should* be aroused but you're not. Your conscious self is telling you to be turned on, but you're not.

The reason? Porn.

The fact that you haven't looked at in 2 months helps reduce the problem, but it is not the cause. It is *possible* that your unconscious mind has been reprogrammed to only be turned on by a different (and unrealistic) form of sex. Typically, you can only *really* get off by voyeurism. Think about it, while viewing porn, you are by yourself and simply watching. You have no stimulation or interaction from another human being. Not only that but the situations are unrealistic; many different women in the span of minutes. Or other circumstances depending on the type of porn you enjoy.

I have no solution for you, but if you think this may be the problem you can always check out some porn addiction sites - I'm sure they have tips. Stay away from the religious ones though.

I thought I had this problem but it turned out that if I just reduced my viewing frequency it was all good. However, based on the fact that you haven't viewed in 2 months it could be something else.

Hope this helps.

- HV
 

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If for 2 days in a row this has happened, I am sure you women has caught on that there is something wrong and would be willing to help you overcome this situation.

If it is indeed because your tired from having erections all day long, try seeing her first thing in the morning. Personally there is nothing better for me than starting off the day burying the morning wood in a nice warm hole.
 
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