I have a problem, which is a first.

[08aisaac]

Well I never have problems with girls. I mean of course I don, but nothing I can't deal with, and I always know a way to fix it.

Well I just moved, and my old town had no parties from what I heard. Well my new town is huge, and party central. Well I have never partied.

I mean I would love to drink, and hook up, and smoke weed, and I would have no problem. But how do you get into a party, and what complications will I run into.

My mom doesn't want me to party of course, so how do I get around that?

And how do I get there, since I can't drive yet.

Basically, you hard partiers, how did you start out? What exactly do you do to get invited to these parties? Or what. I really don't know anything about it.

Just tell me whatever you think is important.

 

[shark]

Just try and settle into the school. Make some friends and they'll direct you and show you how you go about things. Make sure your making friends with people who look like people you'd want to hang out with.

Be sure not to act desperate to meet all the girls and go to the parties, just make some friends and they'll show you.

 

[08aisaac]

I don't want to go to parties so much for the girls, as for the free alchahol. And ofcourse the girls are easy. I mean their always easy, but drunk chicks are easier.

 

[Zod]

...Why would you want to go to a party to drink and smoke weed? Especially at 15 years old...

If your mom doesn't want you to party it's for a good reason, my parents are down to letting me go to these parties. They know I respect myself well enough that I wont drink / smoke weed.

I know this is off topic, but I find it unfortunate that kids (and I'm only 1 year older than you) have fun by smoking weed and underage drinking.

 

[08aisaac]

Trust me, I am not the average 15 year old kid. My mom doesn't trust me for some odd reason, though I have never drank that she knows of, or smoked pot, and my grades are always great.

I only live with my mom, because I lived with my controlling stepmom and my dad for ten years. My stepmom didn't let me have a social life, or do anything. I spent every day after school, when I didn't have band practice, coming home to do work on our farm. I mean, at school, it would seem like I was a normal person, but then I never went to peoples houses, and the only time I ever went away, it was on band competitions.

She was constantly complaining about how horrible I was, and then she would cry and pull the pity card. Then she blames everything on me. If I got below an 'A' then they would both be mad at me, and ground me from stuff that I didn't do anyway.

So before you start examining my motives for wanting to go to parties, please consider, I didn't even have a life for 15 years. Now I am just starting to experience life.

And I will try to go easy on the booze at the beginning.

 

[Zod]

Originally posted by 08aisaac
Trust me, I am not the average 15 year old kid. My mom doesn't trust me for some odd reason, though I have never drank that she knows of, or smoked pot, and my grades are always great.

I only live with my mom, because I lived with my controlling stepmom and my dad for ten years. My stepmom didn't let me have a social life, or do anything. I spent every day after school, when I didn't have band practice, coming home to do work on our farm. I mean, at school, it would seem like I was a normal person, but then I never went to peoples houses, and the only time I ever went away, it was on band competitions.

She was constantly complaining about how horrible I was, and then she would cry and pull the pity card. Then she blames everything on me. If I got below an 'A' then they would both be mad at me, and ground me from stuff that I didn't do anyway.

So before you start examining my motives for wanting to go to parties, please consider, I didn't even have a life for 15 years. Now I am just starting to experience life.

And I will try to go easy on the booze at the beginning.

You can do whatever you want in life, and I make no judgements. However, if you bring pot and drinks into the game, then I'm going to comment. You can have fun without smooking / drinking. I may sound like a broken record, but that's just not the way to go. You can still be social without doing that stupid ****.

And I promise, you WILL crash in a couple of years if you do decide to take that path. And you will find yourself in an even more comprimising situation than you are in now.

 

[08aisaac]

Ok so I will lay off the drugs and alchohol. I guess I am probaly in my worst state of mind when I get drunk, and I shouldn't. Ok I will listen to your advice. So back to the first question, how do you go to parties? What do you do and all that jazz in my first post?

 

[familyguyfan]

Originally posted by Zod
You can do whatever you want in life, and I make no judgements. However, if you bring pot and drinks into the game, then I'm going to comment. You can have fun without smooking / drinking. I may sound like a broken record, but that's just not the way to go. You can still be social without doing that stupid ****.

And I promise, you WILL crash in a couple of years if you do decide to take that path. And you will find yourself in an even more comprimising situation than you are in now.

Oh, lay off the kid. Nothing you say is going to change what he wants to do.

Besides, it's not like he's out trying to find crack and meth and sh*t like that. Pot and alcohol are nothing as long as you don't drive while intoxicated or get a ride with someone who is intoxicated. That is really the most important thing, and you have to remember that 08aisaac if you're going to start doing that stuff.

Anyways, I personally don't smoke, but I do know a fair amount about it. It's completely harmless if used sparingly (at most once a week). It's not a physically addictive drug (like nicotine), but you can become psychologically addicted to it, and you'll think you need it do stuff. However, unless you start doing it a lot then you won't have to worry about getting addicted. And even though you'll turn into a dumbsh*t for a little while, if you do do it a lot for a short period of time it's not gonna do much to you in the long run.

I do drink though. Drinking is fun. As long as you're not passing out every weekend, or around cars while drunk or with a drunk person, getting drunk is fine and generally harmless. If you start doing it all the time then yeah it becomes a problem, but if not, you're fine.

So, Zod, quit trying to scare the kid. As long as he isn't doing anything more than pot and alcohol he should be fine.


As for your question, basically the best way to find parties is to make a lot of new friends (the ones that you can tell party, which are basically the hot girls and the guys they hang out with). Once you make these friends, they should take you to some. On nights when you're not with them or at one, just call up the friends you've made and ask if they know of any parties going on that night. I mean, don't get annoying about it and call them all the time, but now and then is cool.

As for transportation, try and find friends that can drive. If you can't do this then you could either have your mom drive you to the party and tell her that there's no drinking. If she would do something like check up then go over to a friends house first, and then have their parents take you guys there.

It can be difficult when you don't drive, and even more difficult when none of your friends drive either. Once you get into the second half of your sophomore year going to parties becomes much easier.

 

[familyguyfan]

Another thing though:

It is definitely fine to go to drinking parties and not drink. You just may want to have a good excuse with you as to why you're not drinking. That way people will still see you as cool. And while it shouldn't matter what they think and all that nonsense, any high school kid knows that it's much easier to get girls when people see you as a cool guy.

And though it's definitely your choice whether you drink or not, and that's cool either way, don't pick that choice because somebody told you to do the other. It goes both ways. Don't drink just to be cool, but also if you want to drink do it even if people tell you it's bad. The people that tell you it's bad have their heart in the right place, and they are right that to some bad things can come from it, but as long as you remain responsible there is nothing wrong with alcohol.

 

[08aisaac]

That was som egood advice. Well I think I know what I have to do. But I guess I will need patience, because school only just started.

 

[Patrick124]

do me a favor, don't smoke weed. I did ti for 3.5 years, and you know what? I had a blast. I stopped and guess what? I wna tmy 3.5 years back. I can't blame the smoking for my ****ty grades, my mild depression or anything really. But it DID make me less motivated. and trust me, until you're a senior, you need all the motivation you can get.

GO to parties n get nuts thoguh man. drink till you can't see straight. But don't kiss no fatties. lol.
And when u eventually do kiss that ugly girl that hops on your lap when you're half-asleep, drunk and her tits look humongous, jsut remember in the morning never to talk to her again.

 

[Inquire]

get some cool friends who party and that can drive. then tell ur mom ur goin' to ur friends house to chill. be back at 12, bye!

yea...

 

[toddC]

Originally posted by Zod
...Why would you want to go to a party to drink and smoke weed? Especially at 15 years old...

If your mom doesn't want you to party it's for a good reason, my parents are down to letting me go to these parties. They know I respect myself well enough that I wont drink / smoke weed.

I know this is off topic, but I find it unfortunate that kids (and I'm only 1 year older than you) have fun by smoking weed and underage drinking.

zod...let me start off by saying this is not to insult you but to enlighten you...parties are what makes or breaks your highschool experience...i started out my first two years at highschool thinking just like you. why smoke weed and drink its illegal. well heres why yuor wrong...if everyone else in your school is having fun doing this why shouldn't you...its a part of life. weed isn't that bad of a thing to do. i smoke all the time and i've seen no negative side effects at all....drinkin on the other hand is quite possibly the best thing that you can do. being drunk is the best...anyways i'm not tryign to insult you or encourage these acts but your thinking about it in the complete wrong kind of way.

 

[Zod]

Originally posted by toddC
zod...let me start off by saying this is not to insult you but to enlighten you...parties are what makes or breaks your highschool experience...i started out my first two years at highschool thinking just like you. why smoke weed and drink its illegal. well heres why yuor wrong...if everyone else in your school is having fun doing this why shouldn't you...its a part of life. weed isn't that bad of a thing to do. i smoke all the time and i've seen no negative side effects at all....drinkin on the other hand is quite possibly the best thing that you can do. being drunk is the best...anyways i'm not tryign to insult you or encourage these acts but your thinking about it in the complete wrong kind of way.

I respect your opinion, but I see it differently. Sure, those kids are having fun doing it now, but I believe I can have fun without doing that stuff. That's why I have never done it.

Another thing as to why I think / do that. I respect myself, and my body. Sure pot isn't physically addictive, but it certainly isn't good for you. Same with booze.

I don't mean to critisize anyone, I just don't like to see people getting involved.

I could care less if it was illegal, infact I think pot should be legalized, but I still won't smoke it.

 

[familyguyfan]

Originally posted by Zod
I respect your opinion, but I see it differently. Sure, those kids are having fun doing it now, but I believe I can have fun without doing that stuff. That's why I have never done it.

Another thing as to why I think / do that. I respect myself, and my body. Sure pot isn't physically addictive, but it certainly isn't good for you. Same with booze.

I don't mean to critisize anyone, I just don't like to see people getting involved.

I could care less if it was illegal, infact I think pot should be legalized, but I still won't smoke it.

Well, first off, you really can't knock them until you try them.

Secondly, I don't know about some people, but I certainly can have plenty of fun without drinking. I can go to a party and still enjoy myself, but not get drunk. I would much rather be drunk, because it's even more fun, but I can still have a blast and be sober. You can definitely have fun without it, but if you can have some more fun with it, why not?

And you're right, neither are good for you. However, if you are responsible about both, neither have to be bad for you either. Some people definitely let their drinking/smoking get out of hand. If you are responsible enough and have enough self-control not to do that, then drinking/smoking is all good.

 

[Nexxus]

god basically the opposite happenned to me...

i came from kenya where parties were popping and now in ethiopia (well im not sure but since i haven't heard of any in my 2 days at school yet) it's like totally quiet... anyways for a 16 yr old i am one of the most experienced guys when it comes to parties since I basically went to one at least every month for the lasr 12 months and on holidays went at least once a week (i'm talking about both house parties and adult clubs, they don't check ID here in kenya)

before you party i have to tell you that it will get you chics easily after you get used to the party envirnment BUT since your still in highschool like me... your grades will seriously suffer if you do it too much... i was popular in my old school because i met chics from other schools at clubs and made out with them in one night, many of the guys believed that i ****ed quite a lot of them... (also popular cuz of how i made a lesson more fun) anyways back to the point... after your party the next day you'll feel like just watching the tv and will prolly not be able to do any work... also often times on the day of the party i do nothing since i'm taking a sure and all... (expect to go home after 3 in the morning every time you party)

what happenned to me last year when I did party often? got in 2 fight
lost 2 phones
lost 1 wallet
puked once
blacked out 3x
my highest grade was a D (apart from french where i got a A since it's my second language, oh ya and PE where I got a C)
all that becuz I drank too much at parties (I never smoked weed)

k at a party start off by taking a small drink but not too much, remember never to drink too much... errm once you drink too much you will find out your own limit, self experience is the best teacher. now then after grabbing and downing a quick drink get up muster up your courage and walk to any random chic... after that first approach things basically fall into place... (at least for me) you immediately start to approach more chics, grind with them, talk sexually, make out and even go home with them

EDIT: oh ya about ya mom... errm I'd thank her that she's being so strict, she knows what she's talking about... anyways just tell her that you're sleeping over at someone's or if your mom is really cool like mine, then you can tell her things like "you're ruining my life" "I promise not to drink" "i promise that nothing bad will happen, no fights, no sex, no nothing" depending on what she says (you're ruining my life is when she keeps insisting, most likely you won't be able to go to this one but in her mind you'll set something up so that next time you wanna go to a party she'll feel kind of mean)

 

[PiHiPlaya]

Weeds a waste of time... unless you just wanna get sleepy and eat a lot. Other than that it's not that fun. But try it out see what you think of it. It would be a crime for me to say something to keep you from experiencing life.

A word of wisdom on not drinking at parties. IT'S FINE to not drink at parties, it's fun to watch the drunkards, it's GREAT to be a designated driver.

But guess what.

If you hook up with a chick and she's drunk and you're sober, there could be SERIOUS reprucussions. Such as prom night when my sober friend did a drunk girl and now he's in deep. Also my friend was sober and made out with a drunk girl and now he's saved as "Drunken Rapist" in her cell phone.

Drinking is fun, weed is fun. Experience it. It's what growing up is.

 

[familyguyfan]

Originally posted by Nexxus
god basically the opposite happenned to me...

i came from kenya where parties were popping and now in ethiopia (well im not sure but since i haven't heard of any in my 2 days at school yet) it's like totally quiet... anyways for a 16 yr old i am one of the most experienced guys when it comes to parties since I basically went to one at least every month for the lasr 12 months and on holidays went at least once a week (i'm talking about both house parties and adult clubs, they don't check ID here in kenya)

before you party i have to tell you that it will get you chics easily after you get used to the party envirnment BUT since your still in highschool like me... your grades will seriously suffer if you do it too much... i was popular in my old school because i met chics from other schools at clubs and made out with them in one night, many of the guys believed that i ****ed quite a lot of them... (also popular cuz of how i made a lesson more fun) anyways back to the point... after your party the next day you'll feel like just watching the tv and will prolly not be able to do any work... also often times on the day of the party i do nothing since i'm taking a sure and all... (expect to go home after 3 in the morning every time you party)

what happenned to me last year when I did party often? got in 2 fight
lost 2 phones
lost 1 wallet
puked once
blacked out 3x
my highest grade was a D (apart from french where i got a A since it's my second language, oh ya and PE where I got a C)
all that becuz I drank too much at parties (I never smoked weed)

k at a party start off by taking a small drink but not too much, remember never to drink too much... errm once you drink too much you will find out your own limit, self experience is the best teacher. now then after grabbing and downing a quick drink get up muster up your courage and walk to any random chic... after that first approach things basically fall into place... (at least for me) you immediately start to approach more chics, grind with them, talk sexually, make out and even go home with them

EDIT: oh ya about ya mom... errm I'd thank her that she's being so strict, she knows what she's talking about... anyways just tell her that you're sleeping over at someone's or if your mom is really cool like mine, then you can tell her things like "you're ruining my life" "I promise not to drink" "i promise that nothing bad will happen, no fights, no sex, no nothing" depending on what she says (you're ruining my life is when she keeps insisting, most likely you won't be able to go to this one but in her mind you'll set something up so that next time you wanna go to a party she'll feel kind of mean)

Your grades don't have to suffer at all if you just do it at night and don't drink so much that you'll be completely hung over the next morning. It's not like you're gonna be studying at night instead of partying anyways.

My grades generally stayed the same (some got better, but not from partying, just from me working harder) from when I didn't party, to when I did. I have plenty of friends that are straight-A students and are in all honors and AP classes, but still party on the weekends.

 

[Zod]

Originally posted by PiHiPlaya
Weeds a waste of time... unless you just wanna get sleepy and eat a lot. Other than that it's not that fun. But try it out see what you think of it. It would be a crime for me to say something to keep you from experiencing life.

A word of wisdom on not drinking at parties. IT'S FINE to not drink at parties, it's fun to watch the drunkards, it's GREAT to be a designated driver.

But guess what.

If you hook up with a chick and she's drunk and you're sober, there could be SERIOUS reprucussions. Such as prom night when my sober friend did a drunk girl and now he's in deep. Also my friend was sober and made out with a drunk girl and now he's saved as "Drunken Rapist" in her cell phone.

Drinking is fun, weed is fun. Experience it. It's what growing up is.

Yeah, it is fun to watch drunkards!

 

[08aisaac]

Thanks for the advice. I have straight A's, and I usually don't do anything that great, like fun, so I want to do this. Nothing anyone can really say to disuade me. But I am going to just be patient like I always am.