"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have a problem kissing girls.

Vice

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I've never kissed a girl. I've BEEN kissed, but I've never actually had lip-to-lip action.

And it's bothering me.

See, whenever I feel that the time is right to kiss her, I don't. I get really nervous and can't do it!

Has anyone else had this problem? New Year's is coming up and I'd like to get this solved by then.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Mr. Wolf

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I checked out your page a few weeks ago. YOu don't look like someone who'd have this problem. No woman is going to call the cops on you if you do kiss her.
 

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Mr. Wolf said:
I checked out your page a few weeks ago. YOu don't look like someone who'd have this problem. No woman is going to call the cops on you if you do kiss her.
I have no idea what's stopping me.

And exactly what kind of vibe does my page create, anyway?
 

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I thought you were a pro.. But then you replied and opened your mouth.. Like I said before, I changed my mind.. You gotta be more friendly.. I'm not a best example of that. Talk to some other dudes on here to get the idea of this.
 

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Mr. Wolf said:
I thought you were a pro.. But then you replied and opened your mouth.. Like I said before, I changed my mind.. You gotta be more friendly.. I'm not a best example of that. Talk to some other dudes on here to get the idea of this.
I never said I was a pro! LOL

Oh, and when you sent me those PMs... I was a little surprised that someone on here would say something like that, so I started asking questions. My mistake. I got a little too excited lol
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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^^^ you guys sound kinda gay. ;)

1. don't slobber
2. use your tongue in a gentle, caressing way, not like a force of brute strength.
3. think SENSUAL
4. practise on your hand. I'm serious.
5. kissing should start playful. think of playing footsie, but with your tongue.
once you get playful kissing down, then you can do other kissing.
 

The Deacon

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Vice, kissing a girl for the first time is like trying to learn how to ride a two-wheel bike. It's scary at first, but when you get the ball rollin' you're like "wtf was I so scared about." Sometimes you f*** up, but you just get back on the bike and you keep going. You're just thinking about it too hard, and when you think too hard it really screws you up. Relax.

I think you're having the same problem I did, you're being hesitant cause you want everything to be perfect. When I first kissed a girl (I was 18, quite late), it wasn't like what you'd see in the movies. It was hella awkward. Some peoples' first kiss is f*cking perfect, but don't get too worried about the "perfect moment" and all that stupid bullsh*t cause there's never really a "perfect moment." If it's awkward, just accept it. It's cool, man, really. Only insecure douchebags are gonna be like "haha, you effed up, you don't know what you're doing, blah blah."

I checked your myspace. You're not a Brad Pitt or anything, but you're a handsome kid. Wolf is right, no girl's gonna call the cops if you make a move on her. Use the information on this site if you need to, but make it your FIRST priority to get outside of your comfort zone more than ANYTHING else.

Good luck.
 

PeterCrouch

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Was in the exact same posistion as you fella. What I did was get stupidly drunk and therefore couldnt care less about being nervous or make myself look stupid and ****.

Job done. Nervousness gone.
 

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Awww I wanna see a pic now :(..... lol. Good job they are giving you good tips hope everything works out and upload a pic!!! LOL.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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j0n024

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Of you silly lol...I dont have a myspace and I dont feel like making one sorry but I am lazy....
 

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You don't need an account to see my profile! lol
 

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He just said that to show us that he never saw your picture. He never seen it, thus he couldn't have possibly jerked off over it. Clever move.
 

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Vice your myspace is crazy!!! :up: Girls will be droolin over that, something about it just radiates "player."

For the kissing thing, I suggest you use some kino right before...sorta like elevation to a kiss. And the real sensual kino, like brushing her hair behind her ear, stroking her hair, caressing her neck. All of those types of kino INDICATE to her that you are going to kiss her, and if she doesn't back out of it, from those kinocues, just confidently know that she WANTS the kiss so theres no need for anxiety/nervousness!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Mr. Wolf said:
He just said that to show us that he never saw your picture. He never seen it, thus he couldn't have possibly jerked off over it. Clever move.
At the moment you’re wishing that you had adopted a similar tactic so that your transparency had gone on unobserved...

I noticed!
 

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When you kiss a girl, just start licking all over her face like a dog....chicks dig that. (sorry, I just felt like being a smartass)
 

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martinM. said:
What is it in particular that makes you nervous?
Fear of success. I think that's what it is.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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