"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I have a natural angry face

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When i completely relax my face, i tend to look very very upset. Normally when i go around school or hang out with friends, i try to raise my eyebrows so i look more subtle. I was wondering, what do you guys think i should do? I think this often gives others the wrong impression about how i truely am, since i am typically not an angry person.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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War Against Betaism

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In high school this was also sort of a problem for me too. Even when I wasn't I looked like I was pissed off. What I did was literally stare in the mirror for like an hour and force myself to look relaxed and more normal.
 

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I have the same problem right now. Environments growing up have given me the instinctual reaction to, when in public, put on what I call my 'street face'. :p

People say I look really intimidating. Funny sometimes -- but not good for dating girls. I don't know if it matters that much. I'm still able to get girls. But I don't know any way to solve it either...

I'll try to do what Beta said and see if that works. hm.
 

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Well it looks like is common,same to me except that for some strange reason it help me to get the bad girls. :D
The problem was with school teachers who though i was challenging them,poor idiots who cared about their "lessons of life" or afc propaganda.
 

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Haha I've got this same problem too. People are always telling me to cheer up and I'm fine.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Smile.
 

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Just asking to see the reason of it,does any of you had family problems or a "first strike than ask questions" life as teenager?
 

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Well for me it's actually a family thing. My uncle always looks pissed off when he's talking to me and he's actually really really good with people...he's a doctor. My dad also has the same problem, he looks like he's always mad even when it's as simple as asking for the remote.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Son of anarchy

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I see but actually i had other stuff in my mind.
Having a "street face" its common of people who had problems in their life like dealing with a**holes at school,with criminals outside or even abusive parents in childhood.
In those case a man become weak as shlt or strong as stone,and both of the case it can be seen through his face.
 

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Son of anarchy said:
Just asking to see the reason of it,does any of you had family problems or a "first strike than ask questions" life as teenager?

Horrible childhood. Still in progress. Gave me a rather mean face as a younger child growing up, I believe...

So true for me.

...Also Street Life situations.
 

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kraytkiller said:
Horrible childhood. Still in progress. Gave me a rather mean face as a younger child growing up, I believe...

So true for me.

...Also Street Life situations.
Yeah i think thats the point,of all the bad people im friend most of them with that kind of "street face" had problems through childhood and teenage life with parents,teachers and whatever kind of "authority".
It look like that "street face" is like disclaimer where you say that you already had your ball busted and unwilling to have anymore,subconsciously.
 

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hm....i think it's part street face and part confidence
well for me at least

i grew up around some pretty shady charcters...drug dealers/gang members...all that ****...but they were nice to me cause i was young...basically i knew them on a more friendly level..but i saw what went down...and also i had some other traumatic expereiences that were very personal...that was part of it

the other part was my confidence level...i was so self-conscious during my first year of high school that i tried to fake confidence...and kept that stoic face

now, i'm happy all the time...my confidence is genuine...and girls are definitely noticing...
my face is usually that stoic face during class...but when i'm talking or it's interactive...i smile more and have a different expression...and it's done me wonders..as long as your face isn't "i'm angry" but more of a silent/sexy/confident one...you're good...sorta like denzel in all his movies
 
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