"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I have a date... but only as friends!!!

thenameless

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Well I met this girl on a band tour in France and things went really well between us. I thought we had some chemistry. She actualy started hanging around with me rather than the other way round. It has been a couple of weeks since we got home and she has been away again. I waited until she got back and today asked her if she wanted to go to london. She said she would but made a point of it being as friends... She also asked if I invited anyone else to which the answer was obviously no. Other than that she sounded quite exited about seeing me. I really dont know where this leaves things. Should I just leave it and move on or could I change things round? Things seemed to really work between us while we were away... I should have asked her out then but I bottled it!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jeffthechef

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first lesson: If she makes a point to make anything "just as friends"...she's trying to warn you now that sh'es not interested so you dont commit suicide when you finally realize she's not interested.

Second lesson: Get any girl's number when you first meet them. So you don't have any problems/excuses for not getting it later on. And if you forget or some stupid ****, get it within the first week.and get the outing within the first 2 weeks...work fast or else you'll just have more problems arise

Third lesson: why limit yourself to an option? Why do you have to reject her or try and change things around?...if you ever reach this point, where you're decision-making about where to go with things, you've reached the point of over-analysis. You should have fun with her when your'e with her..pursue other girls at the same time..and not even think about things like this. you should never fully commit yourself to one thing...the only exceptino being when you MUST LEAVE HER INDEFINITELY..for reasons such as cheating, etc.
 

Deryk

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Yeah man I agree with jeffthechef on that third one man but I suppose the
best thing to do to get her looking your way is to start getting different girls
touching kissing while shes there it may be rude it may be ungentlemenlike (is
that a word) but she'll be draw to you because.. you want what you can't
have, epically if it ran right though your fingers. but it depends in order for that
to work there has to be some attraction... so good luck witch ever way you go
man.
 

Flakes

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I agree with Deryk's solution; when all else fails, make her jealous by any means possible! Tell her stories, do stuff to other girls in front of her, and then give her a bit of a hint that she's next. Don't overdo it though, remember you want to go from friend to lover, not friend to *******...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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