"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I have a case of severe oneitis!

Aesthetix29

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Hey, this is ridiculous now it's been about 2 weeks since contacting a girl I was seeing ... And I'm still feeling it .... What the hell is up with me, she wasn't even all that .. But her personality is what drew me too her the most ... Is there anyway I can re-ignite interest... Probably not I know. Well today's my birthday and I'm feeling like this!

Honestly I think my problem is that I'm too much of a nice guy ... How do I overcome this sh*tty behaviour that's ruining my chances with every girl I meet ... Things are good for the first few weeks then BOOM! I'm dropped quicker than I can say it! Life's sh*t! RANT OVER!!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Espi said:
the best cure in my opinion is to spin plates. Go out and meet as many women as you possibly can & line up multiple dates this weekend.
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Respectfully disagree. In OP's case is that he is not too much of a nice guy, he is too much of a needy guy. No matter how plates he spins he will still crave female validation.

Self-validation is the key to a self-sufficient mentality, embrace this mindset and your frame will permeate through your actions. Personally I only have 1 plate now but knowing that I am already happy alone (with the ability to pull whenever I want) prevents me from having oneitis.
 
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Konada said:
Respectfully disagree. In OP's case is that he is not too much of a nice guy, he is too much of a needy guy. No matter how plates he spins he will still crave female validation.

Self-validation is the key to a self-sufficient mentality, embrace this mindset and your frame will permeate through your actions. Personally I only have 1 plate now but knowing that I am already happy alone (with the ability to pull whenever I want) prevents me from having oneitis.
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Konada said:
Respectfully disagree. In OP's case is that he is not too much of a nice guy, he is too much of a needy guy. No matter how plates he spins he will still crave female validation.

Self-validation is the key to a self-sufficient mentality, embrace this mindset and your frame will permeate through your actions. Personally I only have 1 plate now but knowing that I am already happy alone (with the ability to pull whenever I want) prevents me from having oneitis.
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Hi Konada, your post hit the nail on the head I think ... I'm a good looking guy .. I just get needy, how can I rid myself of this disease haha!
 
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The reason this happens to you is that you are thinking about one woman too much. You CAN NOT focus on just one girl, you have to date as many women as you can. Nip this in the bud... when you find yourself thinking too much about one chick you have to FORCE yourself to concentrate on something else. Call up another woman and invite her out, start hitting up other women. Do not let yourself slip into this needy behavior because it is the FASTEST way to lose the woman you are interested in.
 
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The reason this happens to you is that you are thinking about one woman too much. You CAN NOT focus on just one girl, you have to date as many women as you can. Nip this in the bud... when you find yourself thinking too much about one chick you have to FORCE yourself to concentrate on something else. Call up another woman and invite her out, start hitting up other women. Do not let yourself slip into this needy behavior because it is the FASTEST way to lose the woman you are interested in.
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Thanks ranger ... Spot on also! I've just gone self employed so that should keep me busy most of the time.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Aesthetix29 said:
Hey, this is ridiculous now it's been about 2 weeks since contacting a girl I was seeing ... And I'm still feeling it .... What the hell is up with me, she wasn't even all that .. But her personality is what drew me too her the most ... Is there anyway I can re-ignite interest... Probably not I know. Well today's my birthday and I'm feeling like this!

Honestly I think my problem is that I'm too much of a nice guy ... How do I overcome this sh*tty behaviour that's ruining my chances with every girl I meet ... Things are good for the first few weeks then BOOM! I'm dropped quicker than I can say it! Life's sh*t! RANT OVER!!
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I haven't talked to my x in quite a while and she just popped into my mind this morning. It sucks! BE GONE DEVIL! Time and no contact will eventually cure you. Plus the other suggestions the previous posters made.
 
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Yes I'm too familiar with NC haha ... Can't believe I'm still having these problems, I reckon the only way to get a reaction in her emotions is 'Jealousy' but she has to be attracted to you still some what ... In which I don't think that's the case with her and me ... I'm obsolete LOL! :(
 
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nah it's just oxytocin and your scarcity mentality. you will get over it. get other prospects and you won't remember her name in a month
 
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nah it's just oxytocin and your scarcity mentality. you will get over it. get other prospects and you won't remember her name in a month
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Pretty much yeah .... That's done, live and learn!
 
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